What do you think?--Baby Showers for Second Children

[Zeri]

I had one with DS that was thrown by one of my best friends. It was very awkward, and hardly anyone came (I was 19). I got a few things, but the whole thing was depressing for me.

DS is now 11 years old, and I have nothing (and I mean nothing) from when he was a newborn/infant. No clothes, no child seat, no stroller, no crib, no pack'n play.

I'm not expecting anyone to throw me a shower now, but I wouldn't say no if someone insisted on throwing me one, especially since I have nothing.

As it is right now, I'm dreading buying everything as I have other bills I need to get caught up, and the hospital/doctor bills are starting to come in. Starting to get very overwhelming/stressful.

If I was your friend, I would throw you a baby shower!

 

[Leesy]

Baby showers are common here, for first time mothers. Personally If I received an invite from someone having a second shower i would just think that's a bit odd but be more than happy to attend. If you really want a sceond baby shower for the socialising side of things just put gifts not necessary on the invite.

We will probably do a gender reveal party for our second but would not expect gifts.

 

[CastawayBride]

I had one with DS that was thrown by one of my best friends. It was very awkward, and hardly anyone came (I was 19). I got a few things, but the whole thing was depressing for me.

DS is now 11 years old, and I have nothing (and I mean nothing) from when he was a newborn/infant. No clothes, no child seat, no stroller, no crib, no pack'n play.

I'm not expecting anyone to throw me a shower now, but I wouldn't say no if someone insisted on throwing me one, especially since I have nothing.

As it is right now, I'm dreading buying everything as I have other bills I need to get caught up, and the hospital/doctor bills are starting to come in. Starting to get very overwhelming/stressful.

If I was your friend, I would throw you a baby shower!

My mother and sister told me it was "too much of a burden" and would buy me the nursery furniture for my child. I threw my own shower and everyone loved IT!

 

[ParisJeTadore]

Not sure why I'm adding when it's already been said...My personal opinion is: by all means have a celebration with close friends/family but it must be clear that it isn't a shower and definitely no gifts! There's nothing wrong with celebrating a new life being born and I think it's a great idea. I plan on having a bbq with friends, siblings and parents.

On the other hand...having a full out baby shower for any subsequent babies would be really tacky to me. The only time I've thought it was ok is if the woman had a significantly older child (like, 8 years apart) and had a shower for her second child. That makes sense to me.

 

[Selaphyna]

I had one with DS that was thrown by one of my best friends. It was very awkward, and hardly anyone came (I was 19). I got a few things, but the whole thing was depressing for me.

DS is now 11 years old, and I have nothing (and I mean nothing) from when he was a newborn/infant. No clothes, no child seat, no stroller, no crib, no pack'n play.

I'm not expecting anyone to throw me a shower now, but I wouldn't say no if someone insisted on throwing me one, especially since I have nothing.

As it is right now, I'm dreading buying everything as I have other bills I need to get caught up, and the hospital/doctor bills are starting to come in. Starting to get very overwhelming/stressful.

If I was your friend, I would throw you a baby shower!

awww ty

 

[GdaneMom4now]

I'm in the USA and I think it's completely tacky. To each their own, but I was not impressed to get another shower invite to my friends/sil 2nd or even 3rd child. Different gender or not...

 

[wookie130]

I REALLY don't want anyone to have a shower for this baby, but I have a SIL who really wants to have one, after already throwing me one for my daughter last year. Ugh. I'm just probably going to have to firmly say "NO" to it, even though I find the sentiment sweet. I have everything I need for baby #2, and anything else would be just more stuff I'd have to find a place for in my already cramped home.

I agree that it's tacky in a lot (but not all) cases...it just sort of looks like your fishing for gifts.

 

[MummyToAmberx]

Im british and do not see it as a thing we do, Ive never had one. Yes its trending across here but im sure it'll fizzle out soon enough.

From my understanding baby shower was for first baby only, if you had different gender 2nd time it wouldnt mean you'd get another.

However who can turn down family get together to celebrate the coming of a new baby with lots of cake! Yummy