What has mc taught you for next pregnancy?

[SeptDreams]

If I have another pregnancy I will not assume that seeing the heartbeat means all as well. I will try and stay positive but not fall into being unrealistic......
Unlike some of the other posts I will be telling more people, not my colleagues or anything of that nature, but my best friends or even close friends. I felt I was in shock for the first month after my m/c at 11 weeks, and fell apart after that. While DH is great I believe I needed more, and had to start from the ending....if that makes sense.
I will also take sick days when I can not stop throwing up or feel horrible....who cares if I use all my time, I have to believe it will work out.
The most important thing my miscarriage taught me was how absolutely devastating it was. I have been a sympathetic ear to many women and men but never got it. You just can't - so as much as I wish it didn't happen I am glad I understand some of the deep sorrow of my friends and family.

 

[schloop]

I will never ignore the feeling that something's not right. I will review signs/symptoms of preterm labour early in the 2nd tri (my loss was at 21 weeks). I will consistently monitor kicks. We will find out the gender instead of waiting to help us bond and be ready with names should the unthinkable happen again. We won't tell/confirm until much later in the pregnancy. Last time we thought we were being conservative waiting until 14 weeks.

 

[Twinkl3]

It has also taught me not to get so friggin excited (Sounds silly) But I will try not to get fully excited until we have our baby in my arms ... Might be hard though hehe.

 

[mikaylasmommy]

- I will not take about 15 HPTs to keep checking I am still pregnant! I now know that they stay positive even if pregnancy isn't viable I will take one or two and then leave it.

- I will listen to my intuition as I was convinced something was wrong all the way through despite having no signs of problems. Although saying this, I think I will be convinced something is wrong anyway now because of last time!

- I feel like I may well not tell anyone other than OH until I've had an early scan next time as I don't want people getting excited until we've at least seen a heartbeat. Obviously this is still no guarantee of things working out, there is never a guarantee, but at least it will be further than we got last time...

COMPLETELY agree. I just knew something was wrong both times and yet no one would listen to me.

Next time I will not tell a soul, besides DH, until I am well until my 2nd trimester.

And I, like you, went POAS crazy! I tested every other day since I found out for reassurance when all it did was add to my anxiety level.

Thank you for sharing this. Love and baby dust to you all.

 

[gingercat]

I will not get excited after seeing baby's heartbeat. Lost my first baby at 8 weeks three days, exactly 6 days after having an early scan and seeing my baby's heartbeat. In fact, I don't want to even have an early scan next time. It made it all the harder for me seeing my baby. I had another miscarriage just over a week ago before I even got to the early scan. Devastation but no D and C this time so less traumatic. I am looking forward to 'third time lucky'. x