jillypoop
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Hey
I know I should probably post this in the relationships, home life and finance bit but really wanted your opinion because this is where I spend most of my time and are more familiar with you guys so value your opinion more if that makes sense?
Well as most of you may know, I've been unemployed since January. OH is working full time but we have had to move back with my parents because we couldn't afford to pay for our rented flat.
Basically, I have always dreamed of moving down south to Cambridgeshire, I have family there and really see myself living there in the future.
My OH is from the North East and sees himself living there and won't hear anything to the contrary. The first year or so we were together I was so desperate to get away from where I live now (worst city in the uk!) that I said ok to living in the North East.
The problem now is that now that TTC and kids aren't too far away (trying as soon as I get a job and we have our own place!) I really don't want to bring my kids up in the North East. Now there's nothing wrong with the north east, I love the place, but I know Cambridgeshire pretty well and where I want to go is just so perfect for a young family. There's nothing stopping us from moving to the North East in a few years if cambridgeshire isn't for us!
OH just flat out hates the south (all shandy drinking southerners according to him!!!no offence lol) although he always said he would like to live in London for a while.
This isn't really making much sense here, but I really don't know what to do. I want to go and stay with some family down there and try and get a job, and save up a couple of month's pay to put a deposit down on a rented place, then OH can move down, but I'm scared if I do that then he will just not come down and I know that I wouldn't be able to pay the rent etc by myself so would have to return home with my tail between my legs.
What would you guys do? I know this sounds awful, but OH won't take any chances, it feels like he is holding me back. He has some holiday in May so going to take him down and try to sell the place to him but if he says no then I am always going to wonder what would have happened if we had moved down there.....
Another reason I want to move down there is because my sis is planning to go to uni either in East Anglia or London so want to be nearer her as we are very very close.
Sorry guys this is a totally confusing ramble but would really appreciate some honest opinions here....
Thanks
xxx
I know I should probably post this in the relationships, home life and finance bit but really wanted your opinion because this is where I spend most of my time and are more familiar with you guys so value your opinion more if that makes sense?
Well as most of you may know, I've been unemployed since January. OH is working full time but we have had to move back with my parents because we couldn't afford to pay for our rented flat.
Basically, I have always dreamed of moving down south to Cambridgeshire, I have family there and really see myself living there in the future.
My OH is from the North East and sees himself living there and won't hear anything to the contrary. The first year or so we were together I was so desperate to get away from where I live now (worst city in the uk!) that I said ok to living in the North East.
The problem now is that now that TTC and kids aren't too far away (trying as soon as I get a job and we have our own place!) I really don't want to bring my kids up in the North East. Now there's nothing wrong with the north east, I love the place, but I know Cambridgeshire pretty well and where I want to go is just so perfect for a young family. There's nothing stopping us from moving to the North East in a few years if cambridgeshire isn't for us!
OH just flat out hates the south (all shandy drinking southerners according to him!!!no offence lol) although he always said he would like to live in London for a while.
This isn't really making much sense here, but I really don't know what to do. I want to go and stay with some family down there and try and get a job, and save up a couple of month's pay to put a deposit down on a rented place, then OH can move down, but I'm scared if I do that then he will just not come down and I know that I wouldn't be able to pay the rent etc by myself so would have to return home with my tail between my legs.
What would you guys do? I know this sounds awful, but OH won't take any chances, it feels like he is holding me back. He has some holiday in May so going to take him down and try to sell the place to him but if he says no then I am always going to wonder what would have happened if we had moved down there.....
Another reason I want to move down there is because my sis is planning to go to uni either in East Anglia or London so want to be nearer her as we are very very close.
Sorry guys this is a totally confusing ramble but would really appreciate some honest opinions here....
Thanks
xxx