What to tell LO about FOB?

[moomin_troll]

Being pregnant saved my life, well saved me from going batshit crazy. I didn't find out I was pregnant till a week after he died.
I spent most of my time in a daze I think. And it was buck up, my son and baby need me. I hate when ppl feel sorry for themselves and children suffer. Zane was and still is my rock.
My boyfriends ex has a daughter, she isn't his. She's the type of girl who gives single mums a bad name. she goes from man to man, Charming girl lol

I never thought I'd meet someone else. I don't have emotions like a normal person.
I've always been hard faced and wear a mask well.
I married my soul mate and the love of my life.
If I can "move on" and met someone willing to deal with my crazy, you never know.
You don't need a man and ur babies dont need a dad , just nice to get a lie in from time to time haha

 

[tallybee]

Being pregnant saved my life, well saved me from going batshit crazy. I didn't find out I was pregnant till a week after he died.
I spent most of my time in a daze I think. And it was buck up, my son and baby need me. I hate when ppl feel sorry for themselves and children suffer. Zane was and still is my rock.
My boyfriends ex has a daughter, she isn't his. She's the type of girl who gives single mums a bad name. she goes from man to man, Charming girl lol

I never thought I'd meet someone else. I don't have emotions like a normal person.
I've always been hard faced and wear a mask well.
I married my soul mate and the love of my life.
If I can "move on" and met someone willing to deal with my crazy, you never know.
You don't need a man and ur babies dont need a dad , just nice to get a lie in from time to time haha

You are so spot on. I could've written that

 

[teal]

Moomin_troll - completely agree about babies not needing a dad. Not too long ago my son said to me "you're my mummy and you're my daddy too" xx

 

[moomin_troll]

Zane broke my heart the other day, my bf was here and zane said "I don't have a daddy anymore because he died, so Petes my new daddy, and Corey's never had a daddy and he needs one"
It's weird for zane and obviously different circumstances. But I do and always will think that no, our babies don't need a dad at all, zane just likes to break my heart every few weeks lol

 

[Meezerowner]

Zane broke my heart the other day, my bf was here and zane said "I don't have a daddy anymore because he died, so Petes my new daddy, and Corey's never had a daddy and he needs one"

That's so cute. I love how he is looking out for his little brother too.

 

[moomin_troll]

He is a little sweetheart

 

[MommaAlexis]

I've thought about it. I keep a few pictures of when we were really happy, and I do mention the occasional thing we did together to friends/etc. But as a general rule, we don't mention him and I probably won't mention that the name is actually her "father" for a long time. I think right now, she has her mommy and her mommy's SO who love her and that's her version of normal. If she asks about him, I'll just tell her she's worth more than what he wanted to give her. I guess that's all I can do. He did some bad things to us, (read my journals to get caught up) and even though he didn't want her she was wanted. She is worthy, and wanted and his opinion of that is irrelevant.