curiousowl
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I'm really torn about this. We've been WTT for a variety of reasons. Partly financial (I'm planning to be a SAHM for a couple years and would like to work for 1 more year but am currently job hunting due to just having moved) but largely because my DH just wasn't ready. Well, as a present he bought me a pregnancy book and wrote inside that he was ready whenever I was. Which is super exciting! But now I'm confused.
We currently live a 6 hour plane flight from both mine and DH's family. That's not going to change in the next couple years. I know my mom would want to come out for as long as she could after the birth but she's a teacher so she doesn't really get vacation time. I talked to her about it and basically, if I gave birth over the summer she could come for a month or 2. If it's during the school year she can use her sick time and unpaid time but might only be able to come for a couple of weeks.
That's the difference between TTC probably in spring 2014 or waiting until late summer/fall and then hoping I conceive immediately to be due in June. I am planning to go off the pill soon regardless. If we decide to wait I would start tracking my cycles, etc to make sure I was ovulating and had the best chances of conceiving to be due in June. I know it's not that much longer to wait but then what if I don't conceive immediately and miss the summer due date window anyways? I'm also going to be 30 by then so while it's not a huge deal I'm not getting any younger.
I just don't know what to do. I desperately want a baby but I'm also scared of doing this with no family nearby. If I knew my mom could come for 2 months that would at least help a little. What would you ladies do? For those of you who have already had a baby how much would a few extra weeks of help matter?
We currently live a 6 hour plane flight from both mine and DH's family. That's not going to change in the next couple years. I know my mom would want to come out for as long as she could after the birth but she's a teacher so she doesn't really get vacation time. I talked to her about it and basically, if I gave birth over the summer she could come for a month or 2. If it's during the school year she can use her sick time and unpaid time but might only be able to come for a couple of weeks.
That's the difference between TTC probably in spring 2014 or waiting until late summer/fall and then hoping I conceive immediately to be due in June. I am planning to go off the pill soon regardless. If we decide to wait I would start tracking my cycles, etc to make sure I was ovulating and had the best chances of conceiving to be due in June. I know it's not that much longer to wait but then what if I don't conceive immediately and miss the summer due date window anyways? I'm also going to be 30 by then so while it's not a huge deal I'm not getting any younger.
I just don't know what to do. I desperately want a baby but I'm also scared of doing this with no family nearby. If I knew my mom could come for 2 months that would at least help a little. What would you ladies do? For those of you who have already had a baby how much would a few extra weeks of help matter?