What's the dumbest/most offensive thing someone's said to you about TTC?

[GdaneMom4now]

Allmacs and everyone else, I'm so sorry people are so stupid.

My boss's brother in law is the nosey-est person I know. He calls or walks in and asks if I'm pregnant every day. I am best friends with this guy that I used to work with...(small town) He even called today. But the best part is...is that when I told him no for the umpteenth time, he goes, "Well, I'm sure *best guy friend* could get it done...why don't you give him a try? He could show *dh* how to get the job done"

OMG! Did you really just say that?

 

[Ash0619]

My mother-in-law knows a bit about the troubles husband and I have had with TTC...yet still found it appropriate one day to say 'Well it's a good thing you don't have kids now with the world the way it is and all'....AND that was after I had her listen to the song 'I would die for that' ( https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JqfGqOx2iDQ ). She's also said that kids just leave you and whatnot (this in reference to the fact that her son-my husband-moved away from her...when he was 18 to be with me...even though we live here now...and also the fact that we 'want' to move when he's in the AF-if they accept him).

Ugh, your mother-in-law makes me mad! lol. That's like saying you should only have kids if you can guarantee that they will live their lives like YOU want, and there's no point in having any if they're not gonna listen to you 100%..

 

[caity86]

iv gained a bit of weight recently, and started smoking again due to stress ( bad I know but im trying to stop again now with patches ) and my friend who knows we're ttc was like, ' well if u wanted it that bad u wouldnt be smoking would you.. u need to try a little more honey ' and Im like
WTF????
you have no idea how much I have tried! its so hard day after day opk after opk and neg pg test after bloody neg pg test !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
also we live in glasgow and I see so many horrible teenagers with huge bumps smoking all the time and I will not be like that!!!!!
Just comments annoy me sometimes. I lost my job again today too and comments really make me angry wen ppl dont kno how hard ttc is...
xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[mommytobe11]

My mother-in-law knows a bit about the troubles husband and I have had with TTC...yet still found it appropriate one day to say 'Well it's a good thing you don't have kids now with the world the way it is and all'....AND that was after I had her listen to the song 'I would die for that' ( https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JqfGqOx2iDQ ). She's also said that kids just leave you and whatnot (this in reference to the fact that her son-my husband-moved away from her...when he was 18 to be with me...even though we live here now...and also the fact that we 'want' to move when he's in the AF-if they accept him).

i couldnt even get through a minute of that song without crying. who sings it?!

 

[momwannabe81]

Couldn't help it and posted this video on fb. Its perfect!!!

 

[TryinFor1]

That song was so beautiful!

 

[TryinFor1]

I posted it on facebook too!

 

[lisap2008]

Its not really about TTC but goes along with the process.

I just got off the phone from my gyno's office. I was wanting to order another SA since my husband has been on FertilAid for over 3 months and his last SA was about 4 or so months ago, checking to see if its working basically. The nurse said, "we don't know what that is" (I said "I wanted to order a followup SA for my husband" not thinking because I assumed they knew the lingo and I remember it being listed as SA on the order). I was dumbfounded but said, a semen analysis and she said "okay and you want this for your husband?" I wanted to say "no I want you to test my semen" or "yeah because I don't have semen to analysis". I mean really???

Then she said, "we don't do that here". I had to tell her that I know you don't do it physically there but you do order it because you did the last time. Jesus! Apparently doesn't take much to work in a doctor's office.

That is ridiculous, I had to deal with a idiot too after my DH SA which is why I bought a microscope to do it myself!.

 

[TryinFor1]

Basically the worse things I hear are "youre too young" and stuff like that. I have had a couple family members with kids tell me to wait to get pregnant because it sucks away your life but I want my life sucked away by a LO! Lol.

Another thing that REALLY sucks is when my mom keeps saying how she will be so excited when I become pregnant and at every family gathering my entire family decides to pick on DH and I about becoming pregnant. They dont know we are trying though and it kinda sucks because I would live to give them just that! I just have a problem ovulating but hopefully clomid will help with that!

My comment is not nearly as bad as others. But they still suck and hurt my feelings.

 

[beth30]

After my first m/c, my MIL was asking if I had passed everything the way I should have. I told her yes, and how sad I was and everything, she turns away from DH and looks directly at me and says "you didn't need one anyway."...... I was so taken back by her words I couldn't react like I normally would have (I like to get tough when someone mouths off to me) But those words cut so deep, all I could do was get in the truck and wait for dh to get in as well to leave. Then just last night, my very own sister says to me, "there you go, getting all obsessive over getting pregnant, you have DS, so I don't know what you are worried about" again, I was so hurt, all I could do was hang up the phone..... I wanted to say, I've been pregnant 4 or more times, and I have one child, I love him, and he is my life, but I should have about 3 more, and my love would be so strong for each of them... I just want to know what is wrong with me..... and I feel like no-1 in my family or friends understand because I am the only one around going through this kind of thing....

 

[lisap2008]

Most offensive thing I hear lately, I am too old.

 

[MrS. MaBrEy]

i am in the "god" bunch with all of this...(please dont lecture me either..its wasting your time and just affirming what i already believe) I became an agnostic because of Christians telling me what i should and shouldnt do. I had 2 different people encouraging me to just "wait it out" even after 2 years..."pray about it!" they said...and one even had the audacity to say " well maybe you just arent fit to be a parent in God's eyes" lets not mention the 2, out of wedlock (again, i dont care, but according to her own religious preferences...), "accidents" hanging around your ankles you stupid cow! Finally, after 2.5 years, i went in to the FS to find that i actually have something wrong with me! I NEEDED medical intervention! i would probably already be pregnant by now if i had visited my fertility specialist at my 1 year mark like i should have! makes me SO angry!

and my second is my own mother. on the phone just yesterday she was rambling on about buying my sister 3 jackets for her daughter and she pops off with "see??? dont you WISH you had kids for me to dote on..." she KNOWS we are on clomid, trying and trying...she was with me when i has my HSG! it was horrible, and it will be a long time before i forgive her for that one.

 

[ESpacey]

DH still says, after I have repeatedly asked him not to, "Well, you weren't like really pregnant though, not like really" UGH! I miscarried when I was 10 weeks along but the baby was only measuring 6 weeks, I had to have a DNC!!! I HATE when he says it. Even thinking about it now makes me HOT!

 

[wendywoo]

It was the same wen I ad my misscarridge in 08 I asked the nurse wot wud happen and she said we will Put u to sleep and jus suck it right ov u! I cudnt belive it I was so upset I cudnt belive it! . Later on in the day she came to take me to the o.r room and she z come on let's get this baby out ov u! It later turned out that she had me mixed up wiv some one else called keeley who was ther havein a termation? We olny found this out coz my bf went crazy at her and ad to b removed frm the hozy but weather a mix up or not it shudnt av happened! The thing that still upsets me now is that I have termnation in my medical notes for the rest ov my life! And I have to explain this every time I go in to hozy .

 

[ESpacey]

Yeah, when I went for my DNC because of my age I could tell they thought that's what I was there for too. I felt like I had to keep explaining myself.

 

[TryinFor1]

i am in the "god" bunch with all of this...(please dont lecture me either..its wasting your time and just affirming what i already believe) I became an agnostic because of Christians telling me what i should and shouldnt do. I had 2 different people encouraging me to just "wait it out" even after 2 years..."pray about it!" they said...and one even had the audacity to say " well maybe you just arent fit to be a parent in God's eyes" lets not mention the 2, out of wedlock (again, i dont care, but according to her own religious preferences...), "accidents" hanging around your ankles you stupid cow! Finally, after 2.5 years, i went in to the FS to find that i actually have something wrong with me! I NEEDED medical intervention! i would probably already be pregnant by now if i had visited my fertility specialist at my 1 year mark like i should have! makes me SO angry!

and my second is my own mother. on the phone just yesterday she was rambling on about buying my sister 3 jackets for her daughter and she pops off with "see??? dont you WISH you had kids for me to dote on..." she KNOWS we are on clomid, trying and trying...she was with me when i has my HSG! it was horrible, and it will be a long time before i forgive her for that one.

Damn. I would beat my mommas ass!

Lol not really. BUt I would scream at her. I dont think she was trying to be insensitive..but that really IS an insensitive thing to say.

 

[Helvellyn]

I love reading these comments. Not because I think they are funny necessarily but it shows the sheer stupidity of some people.

Only last week after finding out we had to use injections and ovulation induction, my MIL took hubby to one side and asked in a hushed voice if he had been for a 'secret' vasectomy behind my back. Not entirely sure where this came from but apparently it had crossed her mind. Thankfully it hadn't crossed mine, or his for that matter

Then at the weekend we had a family get together (yup, the best place for someone of 'child bearing age) and my uncle said isn't it time you got sorted out. It was bridget jones style and I was furious.

Then there are always the 'if it's meant to be it will be' and my Mum saying 'Well how do the crack whores do it?' - I don't know Mum but may be I'll have a 'hit' just to find out.

I also had my cousin say that I should 'stop trying' and 'try to forget about it' - not really that simple when you have to inject every evening. Also beause I've put weight on (ironically as a result of the drugs I have to take) there's those who think they are now medical experts and suggest that I try and cut down a bit because fat people don't get pregnant.

 

[momwannabe81]

When we went for follow up SA after biopsy the Dr didn't even know how to read a result saying the sperms are coming back but he changed his mind quickly saying that's what a normal one would look like. Gee my heart skipped a beat and then stopped the second he said my bad. Wtf Dr should not have give us hope to take it right back. Now for 6 years been wondering. Way to drive someone crazy.

 

[mommytobe11]

DH still says, after I have repeatedly asked him not to, "Well, you weren't like really pregnant though, not like really" UGH! I miscarried when I was 10 weeks along but the baby was only measuring 6 weeks, I had to have a DNC!!! I HATE when he says it. Even thinking about it now makes me HOT!

ugh! i know how you feel! when i was miscarrying, OH was like "oh so this is your period" ....i said noooo, i'm losing the baby. and he KEPT saying this was AF. after 5 different BFPs! we love them, but they just dont get it.

 

[ESpacey]

DH still says, after I have repeatedly asked him not to, "Well, you weren't like really pregnant though, not like really" UGH! I miscarried when I was 10 weeks along but the baby was only measuring 6 weeks, I had to have a DNC!!! I HATE when he says it. Even thinking about it now makes me HOT!

ugh! i know how you feel! when i was miscarrying, OH was like "oh so this is your period" ....i said noooo, i'm losing the baby. and he KEPT saying this was AF. after 5 different BFPs! we love them, but they just dont get it.

Right?! They really don't get it. At all. Men don't seem to bond until the baby is physically here. Ugh.