sparkle23
Mum of 9yo & 11mnth old
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I am only 13 weeks, but at our 12 week scan it was quite obvious that we are having a little boy (I know it still might not be, but it was quite obvious).
I have an 8yo boy already with my ex, and this is my first baby with my husband. All 3 of us (me, my husband, and my son) wanted a girl. I really thought it would be. I am shocked, and angry at myself for feeling disappointed.
There will be a 9 year age gap between my son and this one, so it isn't like they will be able to fully bond like brothers who are close in age. That's why I thought a sister would be better since she would be so much younger.
Plus, I just always thought I would be a good mum to a daughter because I understand females better. I just don't understand males, and now there will be 3 males and me, and I always feel like there is this gap I can never cross with them, like I could with a daughter.
I hate the fact that I feel this way because our baby is so very healthy, and we are so lucky! I have had a lot of trouble with fertility including a long time TTC my son, plus a few losses, plus I know there are so many people who can't even get pregnant with ONE, let alone care what gender they are...
I am hoping someone else understands and/or has some advice?
Thanks so much.
I have an 8yo boy already with my ex, and this is my first baby with my husband. All 3 of us (me, my husband, and my son) wanted a girl. I really thought it would be. I am shocked, and angry at myself for feeling disappointed.
There will be a 9 year age gap between my son and this one, so it isn't like they will be able to fully bond like brothers who are close in age. That's why I thought a sister would be better since she would be so much younger.
Plus, I just always thought I would be a good mum to a daughter because I understand females better. I just don't understand males, and now there will be 3 males and me, and I always feel like there is this gap I can never cross with them, like I could with a daughter.
I hate the fact that I feel this way because our baby is so very healthy, and we are so lucky! I have had a lot of trouble with fertility including a long time TTC my son, plus a few losses, plus I know there are so many people who can't even get pregnant with ONE, let alone care what gender they are...
I am hoping someone else understands and/or has some advice?
Thanks so much.