Good day everyone. We are new here. Me and my partner had been together for almost 6 years. Have been talking about babies for a while but now we are really getting readyto try. Quite smoking and drinking, both lost 25 lb since may,tests done. Tracking temprature and ovulation. Deciding on a known donor or bank sperm now. Trying to predict expenses to concive. So exsited i found this forum. Its so helpfull to talk to other couples who is going thru different phases. We hope to chat we have alot of questionsto ask))
We decided to go with a known donor after going back and forth on the issue. I guess for us it came down to what was going to happen in the future if/when our child wants to know who the donor is. We feared with an unknown donor our child embarking on this crusade to find their "biological roots", as we've seen in so many documentries on adoption or with women who've used donors. In the end we decided we wanted it to be someone that our child has always known and already has a relationship with. Not saying that our donor will be a "father" moreso, as we tend to do with our best friends and distant relatives, he will be someone who is and always has been in our lives...though at a distance. Maybe seeing each other once or twice a year like meeting up with an old friend when they come into town.