Why do people think making my baby cry is funny!!!? Rant!

[Carrie76]

Its not that bad IMO. As long as she isn't hurting him to get him to cry, its not a huge deal.

I used to play band flute when i was younger (i wasn't bad at it either), and my younger brother (8 months at the time) would cry as soon as i started playing and stop as soon as i stopped.

I thought it was hilarious. I think we got it on film somewhere.

But if it bothers you so much, tell her to stop. Its your child, not hers.

Lets see your opnion on this when you actually have your child. Makeing a baby cry for your entertainment is down right cruel!

Okay. If this doesn't make you laugh then maybe i just have a cruel sense of humor

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H-fc5os23mI

LOVE this video! But of course, I am a Buckeye!!

That being said, they baby in the video did not seem afraid of the song as much as irritated they kept turning her Mary had a little lamb song off.

You can look at a baby's facial expression and see why they are crying... if he is truly scared of the crab, tell you MIL to stop being so nasty to her grandchild!

Babies do cry for different reasons but to make them scared so they cry is just mean

That was my point exactly. Just because the baby is crying doesn't mean that it is scared or distressed. If someone walked up to the baby and screamed at it for a laugh, of course it would be cruel.

But everyone seems to think that making a baby cry for any reason is cruel. And i don't agree with that.

Babies don't cry for no reason! Just wait until your LO is born and see how funny you find it if someone else makes him/her cry just for a laugh. I'd be livid if someone did that to my little man

 

[MissRhead]

If someone made my baby cry I probebly wouldn't be very happy but if it pissed me off I'd tell them. We have an apple tree in our garden and the first time my LO saw it he spat his dummy at it started attacking it then cried, personally I found that funny because of the fact it was an apple tree obviously I don't take him to it to make him cry buy I found it funny lol x

 

[binxyboo]

There really shouldn't be a debate about this. The fact is there is an action (showing a toy he doesn't like for WHATEVER reason), and a NEGATIVE reaction (the baby cries).
I don't think it matters if the baby is scared, annoyed, distressed or any other emotion.
He doesn't like the crab toy.
It makes him cry.

OP - tell your MIL to stop, then remove the crab toy to place where she can't get it.

 

[WW1]

Why would someone do that? It seems like a very odd thing to want to do - ie make your own grandchild cry.

Rebecca doesn't like our new hoover - she's scared of it (and never was scared of the old one). So guess what? I don't hoover when she's around! I'm not going to get the hoover out, push it around and laugh at my screaming baby. How is that fun for anyone!!

Just one little point I would make though (and not relevant in this case); I'm not sure crying in babies is always negative. In small babies it is their only form of communication and I sometimes think they cry to let off steam. I know as an adult I've cried on someone's shoulder just to let off steam and felt much better after - I think babies sometimes do the same so crying is not always a bad thing. A baby crying because they are scared though is clearly negative! I'd tell my MIL to stop it immediately!

 

[redpoppy]

She's not stupid, she's just a heartless woman with no maternal instinct. Who would want to make a baby cry with no reason other than to laugh?

 

[hivechild]

Why would someone do that? It seems like a very odd thing to want to do - ie make your own grandchild cry.

Rebecca doesn't like our new hoover - she's scared of it (and never was scared of the old one). So guess what? I don't hoover when she's around! I'm not going to get the hoover out, push it around and laugh at my screaming baby. How is that fun for anyone!!

Just one little point I would make though (and not relevant in this case); I'm not sure crying in babies is always negative. In small babies it is their only form of communication and I sometimes think they cry to let off steam. I know as an adult I've cried on someone's shoulder just to let off steam and felt much better after - I think babies sometimes do the same so crying is not always a bad thing. A baby crying because they are scared though is clearly negative! I'd tell my MIL to stop it immediately!

Definitely, but I also think most mums know when their LO's are crying to wind down and release tension versus crying in reaction to an event like the OP described.

 

[WW1]

Why would someone do that? It seems like a very odd thing to want to do - ie make your own grandchild cry.

Rebecca doesn't like our new hoover - she's scared of it (and never was scared of the old one). So guess what? I don't hoover when she's around! I'm not going to get the hoover out, push it around and laugh at my screaming baby. How is that fun for anyone!!

Just one little point I would make though (and not relevant in this case); I'm not sure crying in babies is always negative. In small babies it is their only form of communication and I sometimes think they cry to let off steam. I know as an adult I've cried on someone's shoulder just to let off steam and felt much better after - I think babies sometimes do the same so crying is not always a bad thing. A baby crying because they are scared though is clearly negative! I'd tell my MIL to stop it immediately!

Definitely, but I also think most mums know when their LO's are crying to wind down and release tension versus crying in reaction to an event like the OP described.

I totally agree with you

 

[redpoppy]

There really shouldn't be a debate about this. The fact is there is an action (showing a toy he doesn't like for WHATEVER reason), and a NEGATIVE reaction (the baby cries).
I don't think it matters if the baby is scared, annoyed, distressed or any other emotion.
He doesn't like the crab toy.
It makes him cry.

OP - tell your MIL to stop, then remove the crab toy to place where she can't get it.

And then get a real life huge scary pinching crab and throw it at your MIL to make her cry and see if she likes it.

Then tell us what happened and we can all have a debate as to whether MILs cry for a reason and if MIL's crying is necessarily a bad thing or a sign of distress or something to be laughed at.

Who's with me?

 

[bump_wanted]

id smack her round the head with the bloody crab.. sicko!

honestly if my MIL wanted to do something that made LO cry id take it really personally xx

 

[daniandbaby]

I once made a sound at kye when he was 4m onths old and his whole face turned in to this quivering wreck and he started crying like he was really scared, I did it again to see if it was what I had done and he done the same thing bless him. Felt so bad.

 

[redpoppy]

Sorry to go off topic, but my baby has this week developed a fear of bubbles in the bath. not even full on bubbles but the bubbles that come out of her hair form the shampoo when I wash it (which is pretty rare) and it's not because it stings because 1. she cries before I wash it out and she sees the bubbles and 2. it's no tear shampoo.

 

[sophie c]

why would u want to make a baby cry full stop, its odd and not very normal i dont think? unless im missing the point, and anyone who made aly cry on purpose would be dealt with!

hope ur MIL gets a telling off!!
xx

 

[Mrs Muffin]

Making someone cry intentionally is just horrible, let alone a baby!

 

[Mrs Muffin]

Its not that bad IMO. As long as she isn't hurting him to get him to cry, its not a huge deal.

I used to play band flute when i was younger (i wasn't bad at it either), and my younger brother (8 months at the time) would cry as soon as i started playing and stop as soon as i stopped.

I thought it was hilarious. I think we got it on film somewhere.

But if it bothers you so much, tell her to stop. Its your child, not hers.

So traumatising child who is scared of something that you dont think is scary is ok long as your not psyhcailly hurting them? Id kick your ass if I seen you do that and laugh.

How do you know the child is scared? Just because the child is crying?

I think some people are more sensitive than others. I also believe in the cry it out method, and some people would say that's traumatizing.

I honestly think sometimes consoling a child for every little thing can hurt them more than letting them learn that for some things they will have to console themselves.

I have personally know a baby who co-slept and was consoled for every little thing, and let me tell you, he is ALOT more aggressive and mean than my younger brother.

I think its a matter of opinion. You think that the baby crying must mean that they are hurt or scared, but babies cry because they can't speak. Just because they are crying doesn't necessarily mean they are hurt or scared. And i don't agree that showing a baby a toy or making a noise the baby doesn't like is "traumatizing".

I also don't agree on showing a child violence but i guess we have different opinions on that as well..

I dont think me and you would get on to well so I will leave it at that just wouldn't let you near my child thats for sure.

Dramafreemama, you don't match your namesake. Your parenting skills are the opposite of mine.

 

[pinkbow]

very wrong!...so so mean i just dont get the amusement at all

and the people saying it IS funny are plain bullys and weird ... spose if u dont actaully have kids u have no idea, we all say we'll do this and that but once the kid is here its a completely different ball game.. trust me ull soon change ur mind if someone was intentionally upsetting your child

edit - to say its like if someone kept stuffing something u didnt like in ur face you'd walk away/run or shout "get lost", maybe cry if u had a phobia etc....babies cant just walk away from it.. only cry

so why is this different???

 

[aliss]

Its not that bad IMO. As long as she isn't hurting him to get him to cry, its not a huge deal.

I used to play band flute when i was younger (i wasn't bad at it either), and my younger brother (8 months at the time) would cry as soon as i started playing and stop as soon as i stopped.

I thought it was hilarious. I think we got it on film somewhere.

But if it bothers you so much, tell her to stop. Its your child, not hers.

So traumatising child who is scared of something that you dont think is scary is ok long as your not psyhcailly hurting them? Id kick your ass if I seen you do that and laugh.

How do you know the child is scared? Just because the child is crying?

I think some people are more sensitive than others. I also believe in the cry it out method, and some people would say that's traumatizing.

I honestly think sometimes consoling a child for every little thing can hurt them more than letting them learn that for some things they will have to console themselves.

I have personally know a baby who co-slept and was consoled for every little thing, and let me tell you, he is ALOT more aggressive and mean than my younger brother.

I think its a matter of opinion. You think that the baby crying must mean that they are hurt or scared, but babies cry because they can't speak. Just because they are crying doesn't necessarily mean they are hurt or scared. And i don't agree that showing a baby a toy or making a noise the baby doesn't like is "traumatizing".

I also don't agree on showing a child violence but i guess we have different opinions on that as well..

I dont think me and you would get on to well so I will leave it at that just wouldn't let you near my child thats for sure.

Dramafreemama, you don't match your namesake. Your parenting skills are the opposite of mine.

DramaFreeMama you give a lot of credit to babies for being so advanced intellectually that their crying is just a rudimentary form of communication similar to an adult, with thought and c.mplex emotion/

It is not. They cry for hunger, shelter, warmth, fear, pain, and love. The cry of a baby is about as primitive and primal as it gets. To ignore it, to mock it, to assign adult manipulative qualities to it is IMO foolish and damaging.

You speak of your brother and you speak of someone "you know", but have you, as a mother, felt the pain of your baby cry? It hits you like a brick wall - what nature intended.

 

[DramaFreeMama]

Now i think this whole thread is getting ridiculous. I never said there was anything great about making a baby cry, but i think everyone is being very sensitive about a very harmless situation.

And that's your right, i could really care less. But my opinion (and i am positive i am not the only one whether those of you on here believe it or not) is that showing a baby a certain toy is not a heartless and cruel act.

I can think of a million and 1 other things that warrant comments like that, and a stuffed animal or a theme song is not one of them.

This just reminds me of mothers who are also against letting your child cry it out at night. Just because you let a child learn to self soothe does not mean you are being a bad mother. If that was the case, i know plenty of cruel mothers (and books written about them). Our parenting styles can be different, but i find it pretty condescending to tell me they are absolutely wrong.

There are no studies that say every time a child cries about something, they are being hurt or distressed or traumatized. So how can you tell me playing the "Michigan fight song" is an act of cruelty. I think that's really absurd.

At that age (8 months), babies are starting to develop their own annoyances. And some odd things that annoy a child that early can be funny. No one on the video i posted gave any comments on how cruel the parents were for making their child cry. Now if it was really that terrible, you would think some people would have actually commented on it.

If you find it a bad thing, then that's fine. That's your opinion. But i don't feel any of you have the right to pass judgment on the type of person i am or for that matter what kind of mother i will be. Especially since i did no such thing to any of you.

 

[OmarsMum]

My brothers also think it's funny when they make Omar cry. When they go out, they go on teasing him, & they wave bye. The poor baby loves going out, & he follows them to the door in his walker & he starts crying saying "bye, bye" & waving bye. I feel soo bad when they do so although it looks cute, & I always scream at them for teasing the poor baby . They also tease him when they'r playing with him, but now he shouts at them, & last mnth, he couldnt take it anymore & he took off my brother's glasses & threw them, & he looked sooo satesfied.

He's a tough boy, & I think once he grow up more, he will find a way to deal with his mean (but soo loving) uncles.

 

[aliss]

Now i think this whole thread is getting ridiculous. I never said there was anything great about making a baby cry, but i think everyone is being very sensitive about a very harmless situation.

And that's your right, i could really care less. But my opinion (and i am positive i am not the only one whether those of you on here believe it or not) is that showing a baby a certain toy is not a heartless and cruel act.

I can think of a million and 1 other things that warrant comments like that, and a stuffed animal or a theme song is not one of them.

This just reminds me of mothers who are also against letting your child cry it out at night. Just because you let a child learn to self soothe does not mean you are being a bad mother. If that was the case, i know plenty of cruel mothers (and books written about them). Our parenting styles can be different, but i find it pretty condescending to tell me they are absolutely wrong.

There are no studies that say every time a child cries about something, they are being hurt or distressed or traumatized. So how can you tell me playing the "Michigan fight song" is an act of cruelty. I think that's really absurd.

At that age (8 months), babies are starting to develop their own annoyances. And some odd things that annoy a child that early can be funny. No one on the video i posted gave any comments on how cruel the parents were for making their child cry. Now if it was really that terrible, you would think some people would have actually commented on it.

If you find it a bad thing, then that's fine. That's your opinion. But i don't feel any of you have the right to pass judgment on the type of person i am or for that matter what kind of mother i will be. Especially since i did no such thing to any of you.

See this is where you are assigning adult perception and intellect to a baby.

This is a toy to an adult, but to this baby, it is a scary object that is upsetting. Continuing to show a scary object to a baby who is crying and upset is just being mean (give the mother credit - obviously she knows when her baby is distressed).

 

[OmarsMum]

Omar is a very cautious baby, & it always takes him a while to accept a new toy that makes loud noises, or moves fast. My 17 old brother had a theory. Exposing him to his fear, & showing him it wont hurt him, will make him outgrow it. & it worked. He doesnt do it to enjoy seeing Omar crying. At the beginning, Omar used to cry when we sing "if u happy & u know..", but my brother, kept singing it in a cheerful way while showing Omar how to clap, & he overgrew his fear. He has a Whinney the pooh toy that sings & walk, & Omar finds it scary, & he used to crawl sooo fast & hide when it starts. My brother kept showing it to him & forcing Omar to touch it, to show him that it doesnt hurt, & he also outgrew his fear. My brother also shakes noisy toys, & show Omar how to shake them. I was against it at 1st, but when I saw him getting over his fear, I kind of appreciate it.

I dont like it when he teases Omar but that's sth difr. xx