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I can’t beleieve I’m writing this at 17weeks but I’m suffering with so much guilt. I’ve waited 6 years for this baby suffered miscarriage and two rounds of IVF. I honestly still don’t “feel” there’s a baby there, I feel no connection and I feel it’s because I am still so worried that something will go wrong so I’m not allowing myself to fully love and accept the idea that I am finally pregnant incase this miracle is taken from me. My belly also just looks like I ate to much atm not actually “pregnant”
I wake up during most nights and always seem to have my hand on my stomach yet during the day i don’t touch it. So subconsciously I feel like I want to love the baby but I won’t allow myself. My boyfriend has also said he thinks it’s a girl which has terrified me even more because I always wanted a boy and thought th at was what I would have but he thinks the face from the 12 week scan is to doll like. I don’t want to end up loving the baby even less when I find out it’s a girl... I have booked for a scan on Tuesday to find out the gender and I’m terrified. He said we would just have to get used to the idea of it as we hAve always talked about it as a “boy” even before I was so pregnant. I feel like such a bad person how can I have so much love to give to everyone else yet I’m holding back from a child I spent years praying for!?
I wake up during most nights and always seem to have my hand on my stomach yet during the day i don’t touch it. So subconsciously I feel like I want to love the baby but I won’t allow myself. My boyfriend has also said he thinks it’s a girl which has terrified me even more because I always wanted a boy and thought th at was what I would have but he thinks the face from the 12 week scan is to doll like. I don’t want to end up loving the baby even less when I find out it’s a girl... I have booked for a scan on Tuesday to find out the gender and I’m terrified. He said we would just have to get used to the idea of it as we hAve always talked about it as a “boy” even before I was so pregnant. I feel like such a bad person how can I have so much love to give to everyone else yet I’m holding back from a child I spent years praying for!?