Wondering.....

[mummy_ellie09]

..is it wrong to not want to find a new job?

I stopped working in Sept 2007 to care for OH as he has Asperger's Syndrome - which is a form of autism - and he was also diagnosed with depression.
Now that we've split up, I've been debating wether or not to get a job. Thing is I really want to spend my time with LO - well I know its good to do so in the LO's first year - and I don't really want to put upon my parents to be live-in babysitters as I don't really think thats fair cause they have my grandpa to look after as well as help out my sister. I went to my local Job Centre after I applied for IS to have a 'work focused interview' and I was told I'm ok not to work until LO is 7.

What I'm getting at is, does it matter really that I don't want to work and be a stay-at-home mum?

 

[mummy3]

This is a difficult one. As a SAHM mum myself I cant say that no you shouldnt stay home with your child just because im lucky enough to have a husband who earns enough for me to have that privilege.
As your LO is so young though I do think you are doing the right thing by staying home, however perhaps you could undergo some online education eg the open uni?
Whilst I dont work just now I still got a degree and found it totally manageable to fit around my family ( I was a single mum when I started my degree) and it gave me some idea of long term plans. If you already have degree etc then ignore my rambling,its just what worked for me

 

[Berniep]

I don't think your wrong at all especially as your lo is so young, you will never get back those precious first years, enjoy them while you can x

 

[petirica]

Its definately not wrong - if you love your job its fairer for you to be happy

 

[tricky nicky]

if you have the opportunity to stay at home and spend more time with your lo then do it

 

[Kitten-B]

Of course it is fine - I think most of us would do it if we could!

The only thing I would say that it is ok as long as you are supporting yourself, off savings, your family etc, which I am sure you are.

In my opinion, I don't believe it is right to take benefits when you could be working. If less of my tax money went on supporting other peoples who choose not to work, maybe I could pay less tax and therefore afford to only work 4 days a week and be able to see my children for 1 day a week. For every person on benefits there are probably 3 others who get to see their own family less and their office more as a result.

 

[besterd]

No there's absolutely nothing wrong with it. I think most mothers would prefer it that way. And lets face it... probably most of the population will prefer it like that.

If you don't have to find another job then don't. If your income is fine and you can take care of both of you without having to go to a job then I don't see that there's any problem.

 

[Jemma_x]

I stay at home with Connor and im doing an Open university course aswell