Would this be weird?

[Larkspur]

I'd have no problem BFing someone else's baby, or having a close friend feed mine. I think it's a lovely offer.

 

[Tess.ie]

I think its a really kind offer, and no harm in asking your friend. Im sure even if she says no that she wont fall out with you over it

OH and I havent been out together since nov without Chloe, if I had a close friend who was bfing and offered to feed Chloe so I could go out on a date I'd be delighted! I wish I had a friend like you!

 

[MiniKiwi]

I think it's a very sweet offer and I'd have no problem with it. I'd happily BF a friend's baby and let a friend BF mine

Have you tried BFing your LO lately? I had all the same issues as you and used a nipple shield for the first four months. I had a LC come around and teach me how to get her latched again and I found it easier when she was bigger to get her latched on. Just saying, if you're still interested maybe you would consider trying again?

 

[Sunshine12]

Honestly? Id find it weird. I would probably be shocked at the suggestion of it TBH.

 

[cococobain]

I wish I had friends irl as good as some BnB girls are to theirs! This thread and the one about another poster staying the week at her friends helping her cope give me the warm fuzzies that there are still lovely caring people out there! What a kind offer

Although yeah, I'm with the others who would gladly breastfeed another baby if needed, but would not accept such an offer from someone else to bf my own. I wouldn't be offended though either, I would be amazed at the lengths you were willing to go just to give me a break!

 

[beth_terri]

Erm, it depends what sortof person she is?! Maybe get into a conversation about wet nursing or something before you offer to see what her opinion on the subject is?

I don't think I'd want someone else to breast feed my baby, but I would happily feed someone else's...

X

 

[special_kala]

I guess I'm in the minority, but I think it would be lovely to offer! It's honestly not that weird. In most cultures, other lactating women regularly nurse babies that aren't their own.

 

[dozydormouse]

Sweet offer, hope she takes it in the spirit it's meant, go gently and be prepared for whatever answer. and let us know how it goes?

 

[Lenny]

I wouldn't be offended but I was also say no breastfeeding is a big thing between me and my daughter it means alot to me it's not something Iam willing to share lol it's a lovely offer thou all she can do is say no xx

 

[annanouska]

We had to ff eventually ( long story) and i would have been happy for my lo to be nursed by somebody else ( obv no random stranger!)

I'd rather my lobe fed than starve and be misserable. It is obviously a very personal decision but the baby just sees boob as boob, bit like men I guess!!

Wish I had somebody to just watch our ff, weaned 10 mo as I've not had an afternoon or anything with hubby since he was born x

 

[AllyTiel]

I'm scared now from some girls saying they would find it weird and be shocked. I just don't want her to be freaked out. It might makes things awkward from then on. And then others of you saying you think it's a great idea. Argh. I text her about watching her LO sometime this week or the next and ill go from there.

Mini kiwi, when did you start bf'ing again? I almost tried a month ago, and she opened her mouth and moved towards me, then I remembered her bottom two sharp teeth! I got scared. She's bitten my fingers with those and she chomps hard!

 

[MiniKiwi]

I never pumped but I BF the first four months using a nipple shield for every feed. If you are interested, it's much easier for an older baby to latch just because their mouths are bigger. Will she still feed with a nipple shield? Or does she refuse the breast altogether? My LO used to bite a bit but it's not so bad when they've only got two bottom teeth! I just used to unlatch her and say ouch!

 

[MrsPMP]

I would probably be surprised at the offer and wouldn't take it up. I would be too worried RE attachment and latching issues etc etc...and jealous as someone else said.
Also I wouldn't want just anyone feeding him, they would have to be a close friend and I would have to pretty much know their medical history lol
Me feeding another baby, I would be worried I would get too attached to them, myself...breastfeeding is such a nurturing thing, but I guess you nurture children in other ways and I have done that with kids I've taken care of.
Just goes to show my very 1st world bfing opinion.

 

[AllyTiel]

I never pumped but I BF the first four months using a nipple shield for every feed. If you are interested, it's much easier for an older baby to latch just because their mouths are bigger. Will she still feed with a nipple shield? Or does she refuse the breast altogether? My LO used to bite a bit but it's not so bad when they've only got two bottom teeth! I just used to unlatch her and say ouch!

She has no interest in the shield, but she did seem interested when I tried without. She almost latched on but I was scared all she would do is latch and chomp!

 

[NoodleSnack]

I would find it strange, and if I knew you wanted to know what it's like to nurse a baby like you explained, I would be even more put off, I just think it's very intimate and don't like the idea of feeding someone else's baby or let them feed mine.

I think you should find out how she feels first. Maybe make up a lady from this forum or somewhere, and say she nursed her friends' baby because of some difficulty, then ask your friend's opinoin, if she's okay with the idea, you can faint a spontaneous offer to nurse her baby.

 

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[Feronia]

I don't think it's weird at all. All she can do is say no, but I doubt it would have any lasting effect on your friendship if she did. I think it's a lovely offer!

 

[MetalMaiden]

If you guys are close friends, i think its worth an ask! As a PP said, word it like you know not its not an everyday occurrence these days but you a got a couple jugs ready to go (thats what i would say to my close friend! haha). tell her you'd be willing to try her LO with a bottle, (I had the same concern as her, mine wouldn't take a bottle for the longest time but now will with a little practice, and we don't do it often, also they say its best to offer bottle when mom not around so LO don't sniff her boobs out) and if LO reallllly wont take the bottle, then you could try the boob? I'm sure her and her OH won't be out that long, 2-3 hours im guessing? If it was the right friend i'd agree to that, same goes if it was one of my sisters. I would BF another LO if needed TBH, I would be more mad if I found out my LO was "snuck" formula than my sister or very close friends boob in an emergency (nothing against ff feeders! just not what we do ) i don't think she'd break your friendship over it!! let us know what you decide!

 

[dozydormouse]

I'm scared now from some girls saying they would find it weird and be shocked. I just don't want her to be freaked out. It might makes things awkward from then on. And then others of you saying you think it's a great idea. Argh. I text her about watching her LO sometime this week or the next and ill go from there.

Good luck! Try not to worry too much. Her reaction might also be different to start with I suppose - she might be a bit taken aback and say no, but change her mind after thinking about it. So maybe when you bring the idea up suggest she just considers it for a while?

 

[greenbeans12]

If she is a good friend she won't judge you for your suggestions. However, personally I would say no because I don't want another woman nursing my child. I would feel really low if that ever took place. I don't see is hurting to ask though and it's not as if you're being pushy so she will make the decision she finds the most suitable.

Good luck.