Would this be weird?

[jaybee]

I think it's a very generous offer.
I understand many if the opinions of not wanting to due to attachment issues, but, IMO, one evening is not going to make any difference... If it would at all.

Personally, I have no wish to go out in the evening, but, if I did, and I had a friend who BF, then I would certainly consider it.

I think it may be more likely that LO would refuse rather than attach too much. You will smell different and look different.

I say go for it. If she is a friend, then even if she says no, she will see the generosity of the offer and be aprrectiative.

 

[Larkspur]

You definitely don't want to affect your friendship and if someone mentioned that idea to me, I don't think I would want them to watch my child ever, just because I would be paranoid that they would actually try to breastfeed my lo.

This makes me a bit sad to read; those of us who would make such an offer aren't some breed of pervos who are so keen to do it for our own kicks that we would ignore another mum's wishes.

 

[Hunbun]

It's not something I would offer or accept tbh. However my baby wasn't breastfed so I would probably be a little jealous of the connection.

If her LO doesn't accept a bottle at all how is she expecting you to feed her when she is away? Do you think it is something she was a little shy about asking?

 

[NoodleSnack]

You definitely don't want to affect your friendship and if someone mentioned that idea to me, I don't think I would want them to watch my child ever, just because I would be paranoid that they would actually try to breastfeed my lo.

This makes me a bit sad to read; those of us who would make such an offer aren't some breed of pervos who are so keen to do it for our own kicks that we would ignore another mum's wishes.

I think that's why she used the term "paranoid", it's an unreasonable fear. But saying this as someone who finds it weird, who comes from a background where something like that would be out of the woodwork, I would start to question why the person offers to do something so intimate. I'm quite surprised that so many are okay with it, but I've come to realise that we are all used to very different conventions.

 

[pinklightbulb]

I don't find it weird in the slightest.

 

[Sunshine12]

Im not saying its wrong as we all have our own thoughts and feelings but Im really quite surprised that so many people would be totally ok with someone else breastfeeding their baby TBH particularly as it was so the lady could maybe go on a night out rather than it being a situation where she wasnt able to breastfeed her own baby and wanted them to have breastmilk. The idea of another woman breastfeeding my child is completely alien to me. *shruggy smiley** x

 

[special_kala]

The idea of it being a odd idea to me seems odd in itself.

Breast milk is just food to me and if a baby only takes the breast sharing seems logical.

 

[chelseav1213]

I think again this has a lot to do with culture, like a pp poster had said it is something that would be completely weird where I'm from as well, honestly though I would possibly consider it if I needed a date that bad but I haven't had a date in 8 months and I am fine with it! I think it is amazing for op to be so considerate for her friend to go on a date you know your friend best, it really depends on how you think she would respond and react to the offer OP

 

[deafgal]

Maybe just bring up the subject of wet nursing in general (somehow) and let her know you would totally feed another another baby if the mom don't mind

 

[Gidz]

I'm torn. I think, tbh, the thought of another woman's breast in my daughters mouth would weird me out BUT the act of sharing breast milk sharing doesn't.

I'd say engage her a conversation regarding g the topic and see her views on it. Then go from there.

 

[MiniKiwi]

I never pumped but I BF the first four months using a nipple shield for every feed. If you are interested, it's much easier for an older baby to latch just because their mouths are bigger. Will she still feed with a nipple shield? Or does she refuse the breast altogether? My LO used to bite a bit but it's not so bad when they've only got two bottom teeth! I just used to unlatch her and say ouch!

She has no interest in the shield, but she did seem interested when I tried without. She almost latched on but I was scared all she would do is latch and chomp!

I would definitely try again, don't not try for fear of her biting you. Not all babies bite and if they do it's usually only once in a while when they're at the end of the feed and getting bored. Give it a go! She might suprise you

 

[AllyTiel]

I just wonder why she has brought up the babysitting twice recently but the other day said her daughter doesn't take a bottle well yet. Am I reading into that or could she be hinting at it? Shes a very sweet, quiet natured person. Probably kind of shy? Im a shy type of person myself, though I've had to get over it a lot since being in a city without my family.Still waiting to hear back from her on a day she wants me to watch her baby. I just wonder if the thought had crossed her mind. If so, I wish she would just ask. Though I wonder who it would be more awkward for to ask? Me or her...

 

[chelseav1213]

If I were you I would just go for it! It does sound like she is hinting around and is probably embarressed to ask you. I would just tell her that I was nervous to ask because I did not want you to be weirded out, but would you like for me to babysit LO, and I can feed her the way that you do. That way it isnt as embaressing for the both of you to blantly say "I will BF her""

 

[babybaker2011]

 

[bumpy_j]

I wouldn't be offended I think you're a very kind person to even consider offering that.

 

[chelseav1213]

You definitely don't want to affect your friendship and if someone mentioned that idea to me, I don't think I would want them to watch my child ever, just because I would be paranoid that they would actually try to breastfeed my lo.

This makes me a bit sad to read; those of us who would make such an offer aren't some breed of pervos who are so keen to do it for our own kicks that we would ignore another mum's wishes.

Not sure why the word 'pervos' was mentioned - that word never even crossed my mind nor was it mentioned in my post. I personally know of numerous cirumstances where a mom's wishes were deliberately ignored and those people in charge of a child thought they knew best - this is where my paranoia stems from. You can't assume that you know what I'm thinking

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I can see where PP is coming from, I know of MANY circumstances where moms wishes werent followed and negative consequences resulted from this to the children. I do not think she meant any harm, and I also do not think this pertains to this thread because i doubt OP would deliberatly do this for her friend/friends LO without permission

 

[babybaker2011]

 

[chelseav1213]

LOL - I'm done. It doesn't really matter - I think people are going to nitpick any and everything, I already know how BabyClub can be and I'd rather not even go there. I gave my honest opinion - that's what the OP asked for. Have a good day! I'm not much of a debater nor am I going to try to be.

Umm I think you read my comment wrong, was siding with you

ETA: I mean as though I was trying to help explain where you were coming from, was not "siding" with anyone.

 

[lovelylaura]

I think it would be something that when suggested it would automatically be a no but I think if the lady really needed a night of she would come round to the idea and come back to you. That's how I would feel tbh. And I would only feel like that because it wouldn't even occur to me so I would actually need to mull it over. Go for it. I don't think many people would stop being friends with a generous offer like that x

 

[Noelle610]

LOL - I'm done. It doesn't really matter - I think people are going to nitpick any and everything, I already know how BabyClub can be and I'd rather not even go there. I gave my honest opinion - that's what the OP asked for. Have a good day! I'm not much of a debater nor am I going to try to be.

I don't know, I think it's been a pretty tame/interesting debate!