Would you hire a wet nurse?

[Rach27]

I agree that seeing another woman nurse my baby would make me very uncomfortable but would rather he had that (or milk from a milk bank) than formula. If I couldn't BF and if this was an option then yes I would.

 

[bubbles123]

I would give EBM in a bottle from another woman quite happily (as long as donor had been health screened etc) as I see that as no different from giving cows milk - it's just giving another animals' milk. Human milk is no more weird than cows milk. In terms of feeding directly from the breast, I would be quite happy for it to be done occasionally - in an emergency or a few times a week say but I would like to feed mostly as I'm his mother. BF is not linked in my mind with bonding though as I had such a hard time and just remember pain and frustration so the thought of someone else BF'ing my son is not that weird to me as I just see it as food not a pleasurable activity IYKWIM.

 

[Mum2b_Claire]

No intention of starting a BFvFF debate, my point was a choice of wording and the fact I dared to disagree with an oppinion that seemed to have started a debate.

I said it in the nicest possible way I could and unlike some threads I have seen I did not go in all guns blazing and calling names or being offensive, I simply had an oppinion of my own to a very specific statement and was just pointing out that maybe "any reliable source" would have been a better choice of words but that just makes me pedantic.

It shouldn't come as a suprise hun, it happens time after time after time on here! The same "gang" as ever all jumping on anyone who dares to either challenge an opinion/choice of words or have a different opinion. It wouldn't have mattered how you worded it (which in this case I think was quite light heartedly) you'd have got the same response. I expect the rest of the posse will be along shortly to start mixing it up too...

On topic... No I wouldn't have another woman nurse my baby directly, I wouldn't feel comfoftable for so may reasons. I'd act as a wet nurse though.

There is no need to be so horrible about it...

Too right Jenny. This person however has a problem with myself and a group of others and feels we gang up on other members which we don't, we just happen to share opinions on a wide range of topics, so naturally we support each other in debates because we agree! Ironically I agree with Blaumba on some topics too!

In your opinion there is no ganging up taking place, that's possibly because your never on the receiving end of it, I know for a fact a few people on here have felt ganged up on during these threads!

We share similar opinions on a fair few subjects Claire but the way we express and deliver those opinions is sometimes very different.

I agree completely. I do not express myself in the same way as you and it doesn't mean one of us is right and one is wrong. And by the way, I have been on the receiving end of it, as is often the case for those of us who challenge conventional parenting methods. I hope we don't have to have these kinds of exchanges in future

 

[LankyDoodle]

I would. In other cultures and in this country's not so distant history, it was very common. I am more concerned that my baby gets all the goodness breastmilk offers. I must admit I'd feel jealous of that bond though.

 

[Rhiannon]

i know it offers goodness and antibodies but i wouldnt want my baby having another ladies milk.

i also dont think i could feed another womans baby.

x

 

[Hayley90]

you know what, i probably would.

As it is, H isnt breastfed, but i still have a special bond with him. Im his mummy - every baby knows who its mummy is.

I think if he were to be breastfed by another woman, he would have a different but very special bond with her too - i dont think there is anything wrong with a baby having a special bond with someone at all.

i know for sure he wouldn't "forget" me, or confuse me with the other person.

It is still a wide occurence in africa and undeveloped countries, where perhaps some mothers are too malnourished, etc - other family members/village women hold the fort while the mother is absent/unable to feed etc. So many ladies die in childbirth, and with no access to formula, its wet nurse or death for some

 

[RainbowDrop_x]

Personally I wouldn't. The same as I couldn't BF someone else's child. I don't see anything wrong with it though.

 

[Sam9kids]

Ive ff all 9 of mine... never even attempted bf as that was my personal choice but i would definately give ebm to my babies if i could afford it!

 

[nikkip19]

I think that this is probably a cultural topic and thats why the opinions vary. i couldnt do it. I feel like milk is a bodily fluid and wouldnt want that shared with a stranger and my baby. (however family members are different) just like i wouldnt mind sharing a straw with a family member , but wouldnt do it with a stranger. IYKWIM?
And about the cows milk being a "bodily fluid" to cows. I know where the cows have been ,haha on a farm. And the milk has been pasturized. I'm a germ freak and I'd be to worried about where the woman has been, or what disease she could have. Really about her cleanliness in general. my opinion only though

 

[xbabybumpx]

Never ever. I Would not want my baby to drink another womans milk be it breast or bottle. Personally i find it disgusting,but each to their own x

 

[Sam9kids]

Never ever. I Would not want my baby to drink another womans milk be it breast or bottle. Personally i find it disgusting,but each to their own x

But i presume you will let your children drink cows milk from a cows udder when they are older??! Its just another form of milk at the end of the day!

 

[xbabybumpx]

Never ever. I Would not want my baby to drink another womans milk be it breast or bottle. Personally i find it disgusting,but each to their own x

But i presume you will let your children drink cows milk from a cows udder when they are older??! Its just another form of milk at the end of the day!

The milk doesint come straight from the udder into the bottle though does it,thats the difference. dont see why i should have to explain myself to anyone

 

[Sam9kids]

I was just curious thats all. Everyone has different views!

 

[MissRhead]

I wouldn't let someone eles feed my baby and I wouldn't give him it in a bottle either x

 

[MissBroody]

Ive ff all 9 of mine... never even attempted bf as that was my personal choice but i would definately give ebm to my babies if i could afford it!

Hey Sam, just curious as to why you wouldn't give your kids your own breastmilk but would give them another woman's? You dont have to explain yourself, im just being nosey really
xx

 

[Aunty E]

I don't mind cross-feeding, but I don't think I'd have another woman permanently nurse my child. So if it was an occasional thing while she was being looked after or something, sure, but I was never all that fussed about breastfeeding so I wouldn't see the point in getting a wetnurse. I'm glad I did BF, and it wasn't hard or painful or anything, but there were some definite benefits to FF as well which made me fairly chilled when Imogen weaned herself off the breast. If someone else was desperate for their child to get breastmilk, I wouldn't mind feeding them (so long as they weren't sixteen or something ).

 

[moomin_troll]

no chance.
zane hated breastfeeding so we went to ff and he was great on that, i was also happy that i managed to give him atleast 4 days of colostum. but for him to feed off someone else would of broken my heart, and i loved hugging him while he fed.

my mum bf me for 6 months and ive got a terrible immune system, where as i no a person who was ff and they are hardly ever ill.

i cant stand her but i loved it when i read about salma hayek bf a ill baby in Africa and id of loved to of been able to do something like that, before i knew i wasnt good at bf i did look into donating my milk but my hospital wouldnt take it n said it cost too much :O

but saying that i wouldnt of been able to bf a friends or family members baby, it would of felt too weird

 

[hivechild]

Never ever. I Would not want my baby to drink another womans milk be it breast or bottle. Personally i find it disgusting,but each to their own x

But i presume you will let your children drink cows milk from a cows udder when they are older??! Its just another form of milk at the end of the day!

The milk doesint come straight from the udder into the bottle though does it,thats the difference. dont see why i should have to explain myself to anyone

Would it make a difference if it was pasteurized? I know here in the US that all donors are carefully screened, have to follow careful sterilization, collection & storage procedures and the milk is pasteurized once reaching the milk bank. It's no wonder the stuff is so expensive!

 

[Kota]

I wouldn't ever hire a woman to wet nurse my son simply because I couldn't be bothered, but if something happened and I wasn't able to nurse him for a short period of time then as P won't drink from a bottle, it means formula and EBM arn't an option, so yes, I'd rather him nurse from someone else then starve!

 

[moomin_troll]

there was a man who had cancer and he bought breastmilk off the internet and the docs were amazed. they gave him only months to live and after drinking the milk the cancer went and yrs later hes still alive.

but there was this woman who actualy breastfed her own father because he had cancer...now i find that weird