Would you hire a wet nurse?

[Erised]

I don't think I would, but like most ladies on here I'd happily feed EBM. I know how attached Eleanor has become due to breastfeeding, and I wouldn't want her to have that bond with someone other than me (selfish, yes). When she's hurt herself and cries her heart out, it's the breast that offers comfort (not the milk), when she can't get to sleep it's again the same thing ... Maybe it's because, breastfeeding her, there is no real distinction between 'me' and 'breast', but that's the way it is for us. She won't go to sleep if I just hold her, it's the sucking on a nipple (she refuses bottles and dummies) that helps her sleep, would this still happen if we had the wet nurse? As in, she'd definitely fall asleep during a feed at some point - would that start a bad pattern?

I would however be a 'wet nurse' in an instant.

 

[mommyof3co]

I would use donated milk but not actually nurse, too much of a bond to let them have that with someone else. Unless it was some life or death situation

 

[gina8177]

I think I could use a wet nurse as a short term solution but not for a long term solution. I would use donated or EBM.

I would be a wet nurse and am hoping to donate milk! I'm waiting to hear back from the milk bank!

 

[bambino156]

I wouldn't let lo feed from another woman and I wouldn't be keen on her having another womans milk even from a bottle. I wouldn't want to drink a strangers bodily fluid so I don't like the thought of my lo having to either, however, this is just my pov and I can appreciate that any bm is probably better than no bm at all!

 

[TennisGal]

My Dad had a wet-nurse, we was from a well-to-do family in a country where it's perfectly normal. I was a bit freaked out when I found out, but it's considered totally normal there! Didnt affect his relationship with his Mum at all. So made me think of it differently.

He and his bros/sisters were all BFd until they were two, also.

Personally, it's not for me - I think I'd find it emotionally VERY hard, but like HC said, that's my problem! Like others said, though, I'd certainly feed EBM. I'm still considering donating milk - as DD has cut down her feeds, but I've still got lots!

 

[aob1013]

I would not like my baby feeding from another woman, i would however allow it to be expressed so i could feed it to him through a bottle.

 

[dani_tinks]

I would feel uncomfortable watching another woman BF my baby. Wouldn't like it at all.
I would be okay with feeding LO expressed BM from another woman though.

 

[Blah11]

i'd rather use a wet nurse than formula. This is my order of preference - breastfed, my expressed milk from bottle, donated milk from bottle, wet nurse, formula.

 

[Blah11]

I wouldn't let lo feed from another woman and I wouldn't be keen on her having another womans milk even from a bottle. I wouldn't want to drink a strangers bodily fluid so I don't like the thought of my lo having to either, however, this is just my pov and I can appreciate that any bm is probably better than no bm at all!

but you have no problem with drinking a cows 'bodily fluid'?

 

[Blaumba]

No intention of starting a BFvFF debate, my point was a choice of wording and the fact I dared to disagree with an oppinion that seemed to have started a debate.

I said it in the nicest possible way I could and unlike some threads I have seen I did not go in all guns blazing and calling names or being offensive, I simply had an oppinion of my own to a very specific statement and was just pointing out that maybe "any reliable source" would have been a better choice of words but that just makes me pedantic.

It shouldn't come as a suprise hun, it happens time after time after time on here! The same "gang" as ever all jumping on anyone who dares to either challenge an opinion/choice of words or have a different opinion. It wouldn't have mattered how you worded it (which in this case I think was quite light heartedly) you'd have got the same response. I expect the rest of the posse will be along shortly to start mixing it up too...

On topic... No I wouldn't have another woman nurse my baby directly, I wouldn't feel comfoftable for so may reasons. I'd act as a wet nurse though.

 

[jenny82]

No intention of starting a BFvFF debate, my point was a choice of wording and the fact I dared to disagree with an oppinion that seemed to have started a debate.

I said it in the nicest possible way I could and unlike some threads I have seen I did not go in all guns blazing and calling names or being offensive, I simply had an oppinion of my own to a very specific statement and was just pointing out that maybe "any reliable source" would have been a better choice of words but that just makes me pedantic.

It shouldn't come as a suprise hun, it happens time after time after time on here! The same "gang" as ever all jumping on anyone who dares to either challenge an opinion/choice of words or have a different opinion. It wouldn't have mattered how you worded it (which in this case I think was quite light heartedly) you'd have got the same response. I expect the rest of the posse will be along shortly to start mixing it up too...

On topic... No I wouldn't have another woman nurse my baby directly, I wouldn't feel comfoftable for so may reasons. I'd act as a wet nurse though.

There is no need to be so horrible about it...

 

[jenny82]

My aunt BF Omar when he was tiny up until he was around 4 mnths old twice or 3 times a week. I didnt have any milk to BF & she had her baby 2 wks after me. She's like a sister to me as our age is close. But when my friend offered, I didnt feel comfy about it & I nicely refused (well she gave it a try & Omar refused to latch on & I was happy). But with my aunt I didnt have any problems as she's family & very close to me. In my religion he's considered like her son now & her daughters & sons r Omar's sisters & brothers, & I like it. Now he has 2 sisters & 2 brothers

Thats amazing!!! I think maybe because its family, its easier to cope with

And I like Seity sister-swapping thing too. I didn't realise you could do such a thing but the more I think of it, the more I like the idea. I would imagine it still goes on to a large degree in less developed countries and isn't a big deal really.

Personally, I just don't know whether I could use a wet nurse or not. I thinK I would have to be in that situation before I know what I would choose. However, if it was family - like my sister, then possibly yes. Its a cool thing for anyone to do though!

 

[Mum2b_Claire]

No intention of starting a BFvFF debate, my point was a choice of wording and the fact I dared to disagree with an oppinion that seemed to have started a debate.

I said it in the nicest possible way I could and unlike some threads I have seen I did not go in all guns blazing and calling names or being offensive, I simply had an oppinion of my own to a very specific statement and was just pointing out that maybe "any reliable source" would have been a better choice of words but that just makes me pedantic.

It shouldn't come as a suprise hun, it happens time after time after time on here! The same "gang" as ever all jumping on anyone who dares to either challenge an opinion/choice of words or have a different opinion. It wouldn't have mattered how you worded it (which in this case I think was quite light heartedly) you'd have got the same response. I expect the rest of the posse will be along shortly to start mixing it up too...

On topic... No I wouldn't have another woman nurse my baby directly, I wouldn't feel comfoftable for so may reasons. I'd act as a wet nurse though.

There is no need to be so horrible about it...

Too right Jenny. This person however has a problem with myself and a group of others and feels we gang up on other members which we don't, we just happen to share opinions on a wide range of topics, so naturally we support each other in debates because we agree! Ironically I agree with Blaumba on some topics too!

 

[WW1]

I wouldn't let lo feed from another woman and I wouldn't be keen on her having another womans milk even from a bottle. I wouldn't want to drink a strangers bodily fluid so I don't like the thought of my lo having to either, however, this is just my pov and I can appreciate that any bm is probably better than no bm at all!

but you have no problem with drinking a cows 'bodily fluid'?

It is ridiculous when you put it like that (not bambino's view is ridiculous of course; the concept of cow's milk being more acceptable seems ridiculous). I really don't think bambino is alone here. It is more socially acceptable to drink cows milk than human milk. DH said he didn't want to try any EBM when I was feeding - he agreed that it was daft as he'd just had tea with cow's milk in it but that was how he felt.

Drinking cow's milk is the norm - I don't think most people even think of it as "cow's bodily fluid". Doesn't make it right or wrong but it's not an unusual viewpoint.

 

[Blah11]

I wouldn't let lo feed from another woman and I wouldn't be keen on her having another womans milk even from a bottle. I wouldn't want to drink a strangers bodily fluid so I don't like the thought of my lo having to either, however, this is just my pov and I can appreciate that any bm is probably better than no bm at all!

but you have no problem with drinking a cows 'bodily fluid'?

It is ridiculous when you put it like that (not bambino's view is ridiculous of course; the concept of cow's milk being more acceptable seems ridiculous). I really don't think bambino is alone here. It is more socially acceptable to drink cows milk than human milk. DH said he didn't want to try any EBM when I was feeding - he agreed that it was daft as he'd just had tea with cow's milk in it but that was how he felt.

Drinking cow's milk is the norm - I don't think most people even think of it as "cow's bodily fluid". Doesn't make it right or wrong but it's not an unusual viewpoint.

I know, it's baffling why its 'okay' to litres drink cows milk but not to drink human milk! so odd.

 

[bambino156]

I wouldn't let lo feed from another woman and I wouldn't be keen on her having another womans milk even from a bottle. I wouldn't want to drink a strangers bodily fluid so I don't like the thought of my lo having to either, however, this is just my pov and I can appreciate that any bm is probably better than no bm at all!

but you have no problem with drinking a cows 'bodily fluid'?

Admittedly I have never thought of it like that! I guess its just more 'the norm', most people use cows milk and don't give it a second thought, whereas I doubt most people would give thier baby another womans bm without some extent of consideration. However, you make a valid point!

 

[Blaumba]

No intention of starting a BFvFF debate, my point was a choice of wording and the fact I dared to disagree with an oppinion that seemed to have started a debate.

I said it in the nicest possible way I could and unlike some threads I have seen I did not go in all guns blazing and calling names or being offensive, I simply had an oppinion of my own to a very specific statement and was just pointing out that maybe "any reliable source" would have been a better choice of words but that just makes me pedantic.

It shouldn't come as a suprise hun, it happens time after time after time on here! The same "gang" as ever all jumping on anyone who dares to either challenge an opinion/choice of words or have a different opinion. It wouldn't have mattered how you worded it (which in this case I think was quite light heartedly) you'd have got the same response. I expect the rest of the posse will be along shortly to start mixing it up too...

On topic... No I wouldn't have another woman nurse my baby directly, I wouldn't feel comfoftable for so may reasons. I'd act as a wet nurse though.

There is no need to be so horrible about it...

Too right Jenny. This person however has a problem with myself and a group of others and feels we gang up on other members which we don't, we just happen to share opinions on a wide range of topics, so naturally we support each other in debates because we agree! Ironically I agree with Blaumba on some topics too!

In your opinion there is no ganging up taking place, that's possibly because your never on the receiving end of it, I know for a fact a few people on here have felt ganged up on during these threads!

We share similar opinions on a fair few subjects Claire but the way we express and deliver those opinions is sometimes very different.

 

[AppleBlossom]

It shouldn't come as a suprise hun, it happens time after time after time on here! The same "gang" as ever all jumping on anyone who dares to either challenge an opinion/choice of words or have a different opinion. It wouldn't have mattered how you worded it (which in this case I think was quite light heartedly) you'd have got the same response. I expect the rest of the posse will be along shortly to start mixing it up too... .

I think that is a little uncalled for

 

[smokey]

No intention of starting a BFvFF debate, my point was a choice of wording and the fact I dared to disagree with an oppinion that seemed to have started a debate.

I said it in the nicest possible way I could and unlike some threads I have seen I did not go in all guns blazing and calling names or being offensive, I simply had an oppinion of my own to a very specific statement and was just pointing out that maybe "any reliable source" would have been a better choice of words but that just makes me pedantic.

It shouldn't come as a suprise hun, it happens time after time after time on here! The same "gang" as ever all jumping on anyone who dares to either challenge an opinion/choice of words or have a different opinion. It wouldn't have mattered how you worded it (which in this case I think was quite light heartedly) you'd have got the same response. I expect the rest of the posse will be along shortly to start mixing it up too...

On topic... No I wouldn't have another woman nurse my baby directly, I wouldn't feel comfoftable for so may reasons. I'd act as a wet nurse though.

There is no need to be so horrible about it...

Too right Jenny. This person however has a problem with myself and a group of others and feels we gang up on other members which we don't, we just happen to share opinions on a wide range of topics, so naturally we support each other in debates because we agree! Ironically I agree with Blaumba on some topics too!

But thats just it, it never should have even been a debate.
One person gave an oppinion, I gave an oppinion back, end of move on.
But for daring to question somthing I was jumped on, called pedantic and accused of trying to start an argument just for the sake of disagreeing.

Are we no longer allowed to disagree with things?

 

[Mummy2Asher]

No for me, I know it's best and for completely selfish reasons I couldn't. I would accept ebm in a bottle but not feeding from the breast. I couldn't feed a baby either unless it was an emergency.