Would you hire a wet nurse?

[trumpetbum]

Can we at least wait until the kids are in bed before we get into a debate

But I'm bored at work! I've got another half an hour!

Just because youve got internet at work, dont rub it in

You mean you don't? What do you do all day, work?

Now this made me chuckle.

 

[xbabybumpx]

I Dont know why people on here are getting offended by me saying its disgusting when no one on here even has a wet nurse! The two people on here who have bf another baby havint even commented on my comment.. so if anyone should be taken offence,its them. Im checking out of this one cos its boring me now. Bye

 

[moomoo]

I struggled to bf and if we could have afforded it we would have used donor milk over formula...

 

[Dopeyjopey]

I Dont know why people on here are getting offended by me saying its disgusting when no one on here even has a wet nurse! The two people on here who have bf another baby havint even commented on my comment.. so if anyone should be taken offence,its them. Im checking out of this one cos its boring me now. Bye

To call anything that someone has done for their child's benefit just isn't on.

I wish people wouldn't join a discussion if they get offended when people object to their harsh wording and accuse people of ganging up

 

[Jchihuahua]

I wouldn't hire a wet nurse as I wouldn't want anyone else sharing that experience with Daisy but I would happily give her donated breastmilk in a bottle.

 

[hivechild]

These threads only turn into a debate when someone(like me) disagrees with the minority and gets ganged up on. Theres been a few people on here who have said,or at least hinted that formula is disgusting. But ive let their opnion go but yet because its me and im not in the "gang" i get shot for my opnion

I think this was a intended as a debate though? Nothing wrong with a debate.

Also about the 'disgusting' thing - if you mean who I think you mean, I think you have got the wrong end of the stick, and she was in NO WAY saying that Formula was disgusting, in fact she is a FFer.

So people saying they would rather let some other woman bf their baby then give them formula is not basically saying formula is disgusting??

I don't think so. In my case, I think formula is perfectly sufficient for feeding an infant, however I believe the benefits of breastmilk are great enough that if I were unable to provide it myself, i would entertain the feasibility and evaluate the expense of obtaining it from another source before I would go onto feeding formula. Just because it is a less desirable choice for me to use formula, that doesn't make it disgusting.

 

[bluebaby]

I Dont know why people on here are getting offended by me saying its disgusting when no one on here even has a wet nurse! The two people on here who have bf another baby havint even commented on my comment.. so if anyone should be taken offence,its them. Im checking out of this one cos its boring me now. Bye

Honestly i don't think anyone was offended by what you said, its your opinion and your entitled to it. But in the same vein you need to let others voice their opinion also. I don't think this thread is too bad i've def seen worse - its being going for a while now!

 

[jenny_wren]

i wouldn't hire one personallly
but i can't see a problem with it

if a woman cannot or does not want to bf
and she's happy for someone else to do it
why the hell not ​

 

[better2gether]

I don't think a baby feeding in any manner is "disgusting."

 

[ellie]

Im not even sure that anyone even used that word ...... or maybe I missed it

Not sure why a simple question can't even be answered! Oh well. I answered many pages ago

Im kind of wishing I had the job of a wet nurse now though ... it would be an amazing thing to do for someone. I dont have a sister to do it for. Plus it sounds like it pays well

I wish I could spend all day on t/'internet in work too

 

[Dopeyjopey]

Me too Ellie. I wonder how you would go about it... i'd love to do it when Albert begins to self wean!

 

[polo_princess]

From a personal POV i just couldnt do it, it may be selfish but it would seriously pain me to see another woman nursing my child, even the thought of it alone makes me feel a little anxious

I think its an incredibly selfless thing to nurse another womans child, being paid for it or not is kinda irrelevant, that also goes for those who donate milk too, hats off to anyone who can do it.

 

[MissBroody]

Ive ff all 9 of mine... never even attempted bf as that was my personal choice but i would definately give ebm to my babies if i could afford it!

Hey Sam, just curious as to why you wouldn't give your kids your own breastmilk but would give them another woman's? You dont have to explain yourself, im just being nosey really
xx

Ha ha its ok, i dont mind replying! I just dont like the thought of anything to do with that side of things, whether its breastfeeding or expressing. Just makes me feel uncomfortable. I know that seems mad as bf is supposed to be natural thing, but not for me! But obviously i know that the milk is better than formula, so if i could for example buy it, i would!xxx

Imagine if you had BF... if you'd done 6 months for each child you'd have spent 4.5 years doing it!

Thats such a long time lol!! Each to their own as long as the babies are being fed
xx

 

[MissBroody]

These threads only turn into a debate when someone(like me) disagrees with the minority and gets ganged up on. Theres been a few people on here who have said,or at least hinted that formula is disgusting. But ive let their opnion go but yet because its me and im not in the "gang" i get shot for my opnion

I think this was a intended as a debate though? Nothing wrong with a debate.

Also about the 'disgusting' thing - if you mean who I think you mean, I think you have got the wrong end of the stick, and she was in NO WAY saying that Formula was disgusting, in fact she is a FFer.

A healthy debate. I was curious to hear if people would or wouldn't and maybe their reasons as to why or not. I thought it was an interesting topic after reading about it -I'd never heard of it before. Well I had, sort of, but didn't know it still existed. I certainly didn't want it to descend into a BF vs FF debate - because we all know they never end well.
xx

 

[Dopeyjopey]

I think overall it's been a great debate and really interesting. Glad you started the thread MissBroody

 

[Hayley90]

me too, its interesting
I didn't know they were still available over here, i assumed (wrongly!!) that it was just undeveloped countries that did it. I don't see why that has to be the case though, if it works & babies are fed, then thats all that matters!

 

[Kel127]

I have low supply issues and was supplementing with formula. My friend had a baby 3 weeks after me who needed surgery, and was tube fed for a week. She had extra EBM saved up by the time they left the hosptal, and gave it to me so I could top Connor off with her EBM instead of formula. So for about a month, I didn't have to give my baby formula, and I am very greatful to her for that.
If i had a sister or another family member that could do it, then I wouldn't mind them breastfeeding my baby, but not sure I could watch a stranger do it.

 

[twiggy56]

well I couldnt breastfeed due to having severe mastitis, cysts and infected ducts which eventually led to complete blockage....so I physically couldnt breastfeed after 2 weeks. And I will forever beat myself up about not being able to breastfeed abigail....

if another woman were to do it it would absolutely tear me up. I cried endlessly about not being able to breastfeed as I battled through excruciating pain to keep my milk when it eventually stopped. So to see another woman do it without any problems would make me feel like a horrible failure as a mother, even more than I already feel.

So personally, for my situation. I couldnt and wouldnt ever do it. She has thrived on formula. Formula may be a 'last resort' to many mums, but its been invaluable to us.

 

[cherryglitter]

Funny how the practise of wetnursing (for thousands of years) is disgusting, yet powdered milk (for what - 70 years?) is not...

Im not too sure how to take this one! I can't work out whether it was implied that formula feeding is disgusting or what.. but anyway...

I personally wouldn't hire a wet nurse, and I don't really think money should be made from it either.
My Gran had two stillborn children and she was advised to breastfeed other peoples babies as a form of therapy in a way. She loved doing it and still talks about it now. She felt that the babies were never hers and they never will be, she was just doing them a favour, as such. It's such a nice thing to do but I couldn't imagine Jake feeding from another lady. I don't find it disgusting or anything, just see at he's my child therefore I will feed him (I FF by the way!) xx

 

[lynnikins]

I would be a wet nurse and i would use one if i wasnt able to BF my child for whatever reason, the ONLY reason i havent BF my nephew and my ds2 be fed by his aunt is distance with them being half the world away it makes the babysitting arrangements difficult but i have discussed it with my sister and we would be happy feeding each others children if we were caring for them and they needed feeding. i express 50% of his feeds anyway and whoevers closest or not caring for our toddler at the time gives those EBM bottles to EJ i have a special bond with both boys that nobody but me will have but they both have an equally special bond with their Dad its just different to the one I have with them and always will be and FF my toddler and working 40+hr wks from the time he was 1month old till 7months old didnt affect our bond so i dont see how EJ getting his milk from another woman would affect my bond with him