Mummy2aStar
Eva & Layla's mummy xx
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I was smacked...but im not an aggresive person at all..in fact it made me the total opposite. x
when i see parents hitting their children it is when their child has wound them up so much that they resort to hitting! The parent is usually so wound up too that I don't reckon they realise how hard they are hititng their child! It's all out of frustration and it's the child that suffers!
when i see parents hitting their children it is when their child has wound them up so much that they resort to hitting! The parent is usually so wound up too that I don't reckon they realise how hard they are hititng their child! It's all out of frustration and it's the child that suffers!
I think if this is the reason you end up smacking your children, then it's the wrong form of discipline for you to use. The worst thing you can do is smack because you got too angry to use any other form of discipline.
I was smacked as a kid, and turned out fine too, HOWEVER, I don't believe the line of "but I'm fine....." really holds any ground. That was over 20years ago and things were different then. We grow as a species and evolve and to continue doing whatever our parents did means that will be stunted.
So, in saying that, No, I will never intentionally smack P as a form of discipline, the only time I could ever see me doing it, would be a reflex action if he was about to hurt himself by touching something hot like the oven, or run out onto a road, and I know already that the reaction would more be from a momentary loss of control and worry/fear on my part then wanting to punish him for his actions.
My Uncle/Aunt have 3 young children, 2 boys, 9 & 7 and a daughter 6. They are generally good kids but will wind each other up constantly. One night I saw the younger of the two boys do something wrong (in their parents eyes) however the father assumed it was the older of the 2 as he was normally the 'naughty' one. He took him to his room and from the lounge I could hear him telling his son to pull down his pants so he could be smacked on the bum. All the while this boy was trying to get his dad to listen to him so he could say that it wasn't him that had done it. However the father refused to listen and smacked him regardless....
Until this night I was unsure if I would ever smack P, but I don't EVER want to be a parent that is so intent on punishing my child, that I don't actually listen to what they have to say first.
Not going to read any of the other replies because no doubt most of them are judgemental lol but yes, I have smacked my child. And I probably will again in the future if I feel it's necessary. She does not respond at all to any other methods such as naughty step/chair etc. She isn't a bad child but she is a 2 year old and she tests my patience on purpose. I can't remember the last time I smacked her tbh because it really is a last resort for me. I will get down to her level and tell her not to do something. If she carries on she gets told off properly. It's NOT abuse. A small smack on the bum once in a blue moon is in no way comparable to some of the sick things people do to their kids that IS classed as abuse. I don't believe it breeds violence, G is never violent towards me and doesn't hit me. It's just that sometimes, it is the only form of discipline she will respond to. Oh and I always said I would never smack her. Then she turned 2...