Would you take a 3rd old to a funeral?

[hypnorm]

Well its all done with now, and I took Ewan to the funeral and the service he sat between my self and my dad and we fed him sweets, he was a bit fidgity but kept quiet and was looking through the hymn books, think he enjoyed everyone singing!

Luckily the service was only 20 mins long, my dad actually made him worse by trying to take the books off him or feed him smarties!

After the service we came out to see Ann and her daughter, Ann was soo happy to see Ewan and gave him a big hug whilst crying which set me off!! i'd been fine through the service as I'd had Ewan to concentrate on. She said she was so pleased that i had brought him.
He wasnt really phased by anything although he looked a little concerned at 'Grandad Crying' i explained to him what had happened but not sure if he really understood, never asked for Roy but was wanting to see Ann all the time.
Kept everyone amused at the wake too! glad i did take him, yes it was hard work and a bit stressful for me but it worked out fine.

 

[Jo]

I'm so glad it all went smoothly for you x

 

[Mamafy]

glad it went well xxx

 

[LilFlower08]

I wouldn't take a three year old to a funeral...

My dad told me something once "people will always pass away, so avoid going to as many funerals as you can because there will always be more... too many infact. and who wants to remember people like that" (sorry if that offends people but it's stuck with me as a bit of open honesty from my dad, a man of not much wisdom)

I wouldn't want my baby to go to any more funerals that they had to... they will get enough of the horrible heart ache as they grow up..xx

 

[LilFlower08]

OK ignore my post... glad all is well. Nice to see she enjoyed his company and i guess it made it easier for her... xx

 

[hypnorm]

She thanked me for bringing him, and said Roy would have been pleased.

Luckily that was only my 2nd funeral in 31 yrs!

 

[LilFlower08]

Wow i went to two my best friend and my grandads in the space of two months exactly!!! Hope things are better tho!! xx

 

[angelsXmummy]

hi i took my dd to my great nans she was 2 and she slept as soon as every one started singing lol bless her but and the whole family was fine about it seeing a baby did help alot not get so upset but it could be tricky if they dont go to sleep think you would prob have to wait out side just incase he started screaming or shouting but you know how your child will be so its up to you sorry to hear about the loss xxxx

 

[momoftwo]

I would definetly not a 3 year old to a funeral. He or her will start asking you all kinds of questions and you may not have all the appropriate answers for a 3 years old.

Even fro a close relative, I believe the best approch is not to and tell him/her later on at a more appropriate time.

 

[hypnorm]

I would definetly not a 3 year old to a funeral. He or her will start asking you all kinds of questions and you may not have all the appropriate answers for a 3 years old.

Even fro a close relative, I believe the best approch is not to and tell him/her later on at a more appropriate time.

Blimey someone has been digging up old posts!

This was all in September, If people read above i did take Ewan to the funeral with the family blessing, they were actually very pleased to see him and he was well behaved. The service was about 20 mins if that.
He could not see the coffin and was much more interested in looking through the hymn books. he didn't ask any awkward questions, shout or scream, and some smarties kept him quiet! although my dad kept stuffing them in him which actually made him a bit agitated... but my dad didnt want to be at the funeral as it was his best mate who had died.

At the wake Ewan was again fine and provided entertainment, i did get some strange looks from people but that could have just been me being paranoid.

I'm not hiding the facts of life from Ewan and he now knows that 'uncle Roy' is now in the stars and no longer ill.

 

[soliloquise]

i think it depends on the child but i also feel it is not at all healthy to shelter kiddies from reality of life and that includes death. i personally WOULD take a 3 yr old.. but i would explain it well beforehand. sorry for your loss

 

[kookie]

personally i wouldnt sorry for you loss hun xx