Yes, I am bitter and jealous!

[Wugz22]

Pet peeve of mine: when people brag about their babies sleeping through the night on facebook. Ugh. A friend of mine and I both have babies about 13 weeks old, and it feels like one giant competition with her! She always brags about her baby hitting milestones earlier on (rolling over at 3 weeks? I don't think so...) and sleeping through the night and blah blah blah. I have 2 words for you... sleep regression!

Yes, perhaps I am slightly bitter since my toddler just recently started sleeping through the night and my 3 month old still wakes 3 or 4 times. So keep it to yourself when your baby sleeps "12 straight hours, all night, every night!" at 12 weeks old. UGH.

 

[minties]

I hear ya. My daughter is almost 3 and only sleeps through on the odd occasion...maybe once a year!

 

[staralfur]

I think I get more annoyed by the ones who complain that their 6 week old is still waking once a night. Hi, my 3.5 year old still wakes up once a night and was up every half hour at that age. Shush.

I never really understood why people bragged about their babies STTN though, as though they had anything to do with it. Just luck of the draw.

 

[JumpingIn]

Imagine being surrounded by this when your 4.5 month old needs holding upright and rocking all night. I said all night. To clarify, I mean all.night. He thrashes around in my arms without respite.

You now feel a bit of my pain Those people can sod right off

 

[Wugz22]

Imagine being surrounded by this when your 4.5 month old needs holding upright and rocking all night. I said all night. To clarify, I mean all.night. He thrashes around in my arms without respite.

You now feel a bit of my pain Those people can sod right off

Goodness that is rough! So sorry, hun. Whenever I go to complain to my husband about sleep, grumpy babies, etc - he always reminds me that someone has it worse and to count our blessings Hoping you are able to get the rest you need.

 

[winterbabies3]

My best friend and I were pregnant at the same time, we both had boys and both wanted girls. She got her girl and I got a boy, that's all I saw her post about, oh all the pink and blah blah blah. Then when the babies were born her daughter did everything so early! Well we're no longer friends and I blocked her. Lol I can't stand it. So I completely know what your talking about.

 

[Mushymilkfor2]

I may be a bit bitter too, but I don't believe when people say their baby is sleeping through the night! My sil claims her son has slept through since about 6 months, but I've been around plenty of times when he wakes up, still to this day at 3 years old. So what if 4/7 nights they sleep through doesn't count to me! I've had my sil congratulate me because my baby slept until 5 am and then slept longer to 730. Apparently to her he sttn, but not to me!

But again, I may be bitter as well.

And on the whole competition front, I find that incredibly obnoxious as well! My sil tries to do it with my nephew and ds, and they're 2 years apart!

 

[Joybell]

I had same experience as PP. A friend I met at a baby group boasting all the time about her child sleeping through the night while I was up 7 times if not more and at the end of my tether. Giving me 'helpful' suggestions... Turns out after some questions he was 'sleeping through the night' except when he woke for milk 3 or 4 times. In what world is that sttn! Turns our he definition was waking for anything other than milk. crazy!

 

[kellyc1987]

I think i'm the bragger but I don't intentionally mean to be!

A girl I work with had her baby 2 weeks before me and we always talk about how our little ones are/what they are doing and send each other pics etc. Both of our DS's went through a bit of a regression but my LO now sleeps through the night (7pm-6am) and hers doesn't, I mentioned to her when he started sleeping through again but wasn't exactly bragging about it.

Also my LO is crawling & pulling up and hers isn't, obviously I shared it with her when he started doing these things and even said to her I hope you don't think i'm bragging, i'm just super excited!

 

[Larkspur]

I'm on my second terrible sleeper (17 months and only did her first 8-hour stretch LAST NIGHT) but I guess I don't care when people brag that their kid sleeps through UNLESS they try to pretend they can take credit for it!

Shit, I'd be excited as hell if I had a baby who slept 12 hours (especially since I've already toughed out one bad sleeper!) so I can't blame anyone who is stoked about it. I had four unbroken hours last night (before I woke up, surprised that the baby hadn't woken me) and god I felt so good! I can't even imagine how people who get eight hours' solid sleep must feel. Like superheroes.

 

[Indi84]

To some people sttn means five hours, in my world that is not the night!
I felt terrible when ds was little everyone was telling me their little ones sttn so young, then at six months my son suddenly did and has been a brilliant sleeper since, while theirs still did five hour stretches for ages. There was no need to make me feel so bad, felt like I was doing something wrong!

 

[AP]

6 years on.... no joy for me. Sleep is overated

 

[susan_1981]

Haha I was one of those mums that bragged about what a great sleeper I had. That came back and bit me on the bum when he hit 2! And then got me again when I had baby number 2! Don't worry, karma often comes round to those mums!

I also have lots of friends who brag about their kids and all the things they can do. My son was always the last to do anything. I remember one chat I was having with 2 of my friends. They were saying how their babies were cruising all over the place and taking steps yet my son couldn't even crawl - which I'd say. Their response would be "oh he'll get there in his own time, it's not a race" yet there they were trying to out-do each other. I just think it's natural - although very annoying - because my second son was so much quicker at doing everything. Walking by 11 months, by 20 months, knew all his alphabet in order (he's obsessed with letters). It's proud mummy moments that piss off the mums with the kids that just take their time.

Try not to let it get to you. I was speaking to a lady who runs my son's nursery and she said that by year 6 (which yes feels along way off) most of the kids will have all caught up with each other.

In fact,I think I was one of those advanced kids. I remember being able to read so well at aged 6 yet my cousin who is 2 years older was getting help with his reading because he wasn't very good at it. I remember reading his book and thinking how easy it was. He is now a journalist and comes out with words I've never heard of. It's safe to say he definitely excelled where I didn't! x

 

[_Meep_]

Ugh I have one of those on my Facebook! Everything her baby does seems to be suspiciously perfect. She's also constantly getting stuff done in life while I drown in mess, inertia and incompetence!

My baby is ten million times cuter though, even though she didn't perform a tapdance for the nurses during her newborn examination.

 

[CaptainMummy]

I think maybe people just share because they are excited, and not to brag? (although I do sometimes think people must be lying about their 5wk old babies sttn because I have 3 and not one has been close at that age!)
I have had two awful sleepers (dd1&3) and a great sleeper (dd2) and I remember posting on Facebook about how she slept from a-b (It actually came up on my memories a few days ago.) I wasnt bragging at all, and I certainly hopw nobody thought I was.
I also have three very advanced daughters (not bragging, but it is the truth) and quite often post pictures of my 4yr olds drawings, or videos of my other two doing stuff, but I am just excited to share and I have never had a negative comment about anything. I dont see why I should stop posting because someone elses child doesnt do something? (not having a go at all, and dont want to come across as a b****, but when I see posts of other children, I am always genuinely happy, regardless of if my child does it or not)

*runs and hides*

 

[Indi84]

I think maybe people just share because they are excited, and not to brag? (although I do sometimes think people must be lying about their 5wk old babies sttn because I have 3 and not one has been close at that age!)
I have had two awful sleepers (dd1&3) and a great sleeper (dd2) and I remember posting on Facebook about how she slept from a-b (It actually came up on my memories a few days ago.) I wasnt bragging at all, and I certainly hopw nobody thought I was.
I also have three very advanced daughters (not bragging, but it is the truth) and quite often post pictures of my 4yr olds drawings, or videos of my other two doing stuff, but I am just excited to share and I have never had a negative comment about anything. I dont see why I should stop posting because someone elses child doesnt do something? (not having a go at all, and dont want to come across as a b****, but when I see posts of other children, I am always genuinely happy, regardless of if my child does it or not)

*runs and hides*

I think things like that are different, ds is advanced in lots things and I'm very proud, but was late talker and was open about it. I think if someone says 'I'm struggling, I'm tired' and the reply is 'oh x has slept great since 3 weeks' that's bragging.

If you just mention out the blue you had a good night's sleep that is proud mum!

 

[CaptainMummy]

Yeah, you are right. Unfortunately for me I am usually replying with 'right there with you!' or similar. Seems that every single person I know with a baby, they sleep through... Which I find impossible to believe!

 

[LoraLoo]

I guess with some people it's bragging, but most people it isn't.

My second child sttn from 3 weeks old. 12 hours solid. Did I tell people? Possibly, but it wouldnt have been to brag- I was probably just grateful to have a baby that actually slept after having no sleep from his sister for 4 years.

He was also the most perfect baby- literally, he was so good. He slept when he should, never cried, ate what I put in front of him. Turned into an absolute terror at 10 months old and went downhill from there! Swings and roundabouts.

 

[AP]

I think its just the way people brag isnt it? Like, sleep is no indication of how "advanced" or "intelligent" your child is. You're just showing your excitement of a good nights sleep

Thing is, sods law says the minute you mention you've had a good nights sleep....

 

[LoraLoo]

I usually get one sleeping through and have another lol. I don't think ive slept properly in a decade!

Even now my 6 yr old wakes up up to tell me she's goinf for a wee. Every single night. There usually another that wakes for a drink, or becUse his teddy has fallen out of bed.

When does it end??!!