GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR....... This is driving me mad.......... Right here goes... We are obviously going to get married, and have decided that we will save for this rather than get in debt, as this is the last thing we need! Well, the thing is, I have found a venue where we would love to have the wedding & reception, but it is very pricey.........this means we would have to wait a few years before we tie the knot as there is a list of 100 people already and that is really without trying! Sooooooo, me & Paul have just been talking and have decided that we are going to stick with our vernue, as it is something we both really want, but we are going to cut the wedding list right down in the hope we can tie the knot sooner rather than later! Well this is the thing.....I don't have my Mum anymore, so I would love my Mum's family to come, plus if we didn't invite them, I feel they would take it personally, so I have included them...Paul said about leaving out his family (as it is very small and his mum & Dad have split and it could get awkward as his Dad has just re-married), well if my Mum's family is coming then he feels his family should come LOL! Which is fine by me, but it aint helping my numbers! I have got it to 65 I think and we were so trying to get it to nearer 20, but we have that nearly with just our lot and my sisters LOL, PLUS there are a few friends that I will not even consider not inviting, so they are defos! Paul says be ruthless.....how should I do it, tbh I am happy to have a BIG wedding, but I am not happy to have to wait so long, and I am also happy to have a very small wedding, but there are certain people I REALLY want there..........what should I do?! LOL!! I feel like informing everyone of our plans and saying you are ALL invited, BUT we can't have you all there, so we will be pulling names out of a hat, so nothing personal! HELP!!