1 day DPO and in need of buddies :)

[confusedprego]

Hi Everyone!!

Alyssa - it is so good to hear from you! I was really worried about you! I totally understand you not feeling like you fit in sometimes but we care about you and hope you'll check in with us whenever you can! I think your doc visit sounds like a huge success!!! I'm so sorry you and Rob are struggling a bit but this type of situation is stressful on everyone, unfortunately! Feel free to vent here all you want in all aspects of your life if it will help you! I know a lot of people that do couple's counseling and it honestly has been super helpful for everyone I've heard talk about it - so I hope you guys have success with it too!!
I guess you'll be expecting AF pretty soon here if you did in fact O and it's probably better you take the summer to yourself and do the medicated cycle when you get back. I know you would have worried about the cycle being so long otherwise. I think having such a closely monitored cycle will be so good for you! Sounds perfect for you to know what's going on without all the questions of charts and OPKs! Good luck with the insurance! I bet they can chart things in ways that will make it more manageable for you!
Glad to hear your kitty is adjusting - we had a kitty that we got and when she was found, her eyes were infected shut, so she had some vision and MAJOR trust issues! She only ever adjusted to me but that's because I had her from a kitten - she never took to Kirk but he showed up when she was a few years old, so it was tough on her. But, she was probably the best cat ever to me

Mar - Don't worry about the dadada thing - Oakley could say "daddy" and "darby" FAR before he said "mama" but now the only thing out of his mouth is "mama? mama? mama?" he's like a broken record haha. Although, when Kirk isn't home he's always saying "daddy go? daddy go?" meaning "where did he go?" haha.
How are the boobs doing?? Probably a lot better by now!

Sam - I've heard it depends on the doctor around here, but yea, they can be difficult about vbac around here. I know a friend of mine had to switch doctors to be able to try vaginal and she's done 2 vaginal births since her first C-section with no issues at all, so keep it up while still keeping their suggestions in mind, of course! any names? or you're keeping it a secret?

Rach - welcome to the third trimester! time flies!! How's the job going?? will they be able to keep your position at the front desk once baby boy is born?? name developments??

Kels - how you doing?? I haven't checked your chart in a little while - hope everything has resolved!! Looking forward to August for both you and Alyssa!!

AFM - I think my cold is all gone with just a little residual nose runniness but might just be allergies/pregnancy. We had a nice father's day yesterday except for a trip to Wal-Mart with little O that was not so fun for me but overall it was a good weekend. I got a lot of questions about when I'll be done with school and that was giving me a lot of anxiety but I need to stop rushing myself so I don't totally burn out.
I'm sure I missed someone or something but I should get to work! Hope everyone is doing great!

Oh yea - I posted pics of the house on Facebook! Let me know if you didn't see them and I'll put up a link or something It's so nice to see the before and after's!!

 

[korink26]

Jess thinking of you today on your first day back!!! I'm sure you'll have even less time on here now, but when you get a chance let us know how it went. Are you still going to try and pump at work? Woops, maybe I should read all posts before trying to reply! I see you will pump at work. Now that you say it, that reminds me that I found it easier at work too because it was uninterrupted time for me to do it while at home I had to worry about her needing me. I only did it on my lunch---my let down was so awful that I would never have been able to on my 15 min. break. I have a friend who takes her 15 min. breaks and pumps like 12 oz! I could only wish!
Sam, you should be done now---so hope you're getting some "you" time before the baby comes! How are you feeling?
Lindsay--Khloe is already starting her little tantrums---our family always says it's the Irish coming out in her. I was the spunkiest kid that challenged every rule there is, so I'm just hoping she doesn't go that extreme. I feel like we're handling them wrong though because when we're out I'm so embarrassed I just let her get what she wants or quick pick her up and take her out instead of letting her tantrum it out (which I always swore I wouldn't care what people thought and just her tantrum until she's done). Ryan and I have both tried my Neti pot, and we've never gotten it to work! Maybe we wait until we're too blocked though...What's the neti bottle? Maybe I should try something like that...And how are you feeling mamma?? Your house looks awesome---love the look through window you added in the living room/kitchen.
Mar Ari is beautiful! Khloe said dadda way long before momma came along. Actually I think a lot of other words came before momma...what some stinkers. When I decided to stop nursing/pumping I thought I'd go cold turkey but it was just too painful. So before bed I decided to pump and then after that I never needed to again. But, at that point I was only pumping 2x a day so my flow probably wasn't very high. The soccer ball story gave me a little chuckle, sorry
Rach your bump is adorable! What did you end up deciding with insurance?
Alyssa--I've missed you so! So sorry to hear everything going on---I think fertility affects both couples, but really seems to primarily affect us. I found myself smiling though reading about your fs appt, because everything just sounded so great for you! This Dr. sounds amazing and like she has a total handle on your situation and that she's not phased by it at all. I'M REALLY EXCITED ABOUT WHAT THIS MEANS FOR YOU! I think starting this summer job will be just what you need to pick your spirits up, and the break from Rob will be also wonderful. Give you a chance to miss each other and the counseling sounds great. So happy to hear you're both willing to fight for your relationship---sounds like you guys are stronger than you might think. I understand it being hard to read our posts sometimes, so only come when you feel like it. we'll understand

 

[korink26]

Oh and yes my bleeding has been stopped for a bit now, had another blood draw on Friday but they STILL haven't called with my hcg numbers. Because my temps have been pre ov temps I'm hoping I'm at 0 already, but everywhere online made it sound like it takes at least 4ish weeks for them to be 0. Who knows!?

 

[babydust818]

Sam - just one more day after today!!! WEEE!! Hope to see a bump shot soon! Not much longer!

Alyssa - very happy to hear from you. Sounds like your FS appt went great. Sounds like you are finally getting some more answers. What is even better is they are specialized in this so they do know what they're talking about. After all of this you will be pregnant and have your baby in your arms. I'm sorry you have to go through all this just to get your rainbow, but it's going to be worth it. Sounds like they're heading down the right path with more answers for you. I know it's still irritating for you, but with time you're going to find out exactly what the problem is and they're going to fix it. I think this summer job is what you need right now to help get your mind off of things. Sounds like something you're really looking forward to doing and will help your body a lot to take some stress off. I'm glad your kitty is adjusting to the other cats. It makes me so sad she was abused in her earlier years She is in great hands now. You're a great fur mommy!!

Lindsay the pics of your house look great! Your house is beautiful. I love it. Did you say Kirk did all that? He is a miracle worker with those hands of his! lol. Something i couldn't do. What happened at Walmart with Oakley? glad your'e feeling better.

Jess - hope you had a great trip on the boat this weekend. Sorry you're back to work today. Hope it is a good day for you. Isabela is in great hands

Kelsey glad the bleeding has stopped. I hope your hCG is back to 0 or pretty damn close to it. Miscarriages are hard enough as it is, but having to wait for all the bleeding to stop and numbers to drop is agonizing. Love the pics of you, ryan and khloe on facebook! She is such a doll baby. Her eyes are sooo beautiful! She looks exactly like you. Such a pretty girl!

AFM i'm working a different shift this week and next. I was working 7a-330p, but now it's 2p-1030p. Yuck. Had my first shitty customer yesterday. It sucks because my hormones are crazy and i just want to flip out, but i can't LOL. Andrew and i have been arguing a lot lately. I know it's because i am so sensitive right now and that is not an excuse to be so mean to him. I was just pissed off bcz i didn't receive a card, cake or present for my birthday. I know i sound greedy, but i felt so unappreciated. His dad forgot it was my bday and never said anything to me. Yeah, all this little crap makes me soo sensitive lol. Just to know 3 more months... YIKES! Gonna try to watch my emotions and filter them. So hard though. I haven't got my insurance worked out yet. Supposedly i'm still covered on mine until end of June. I'm waiting for a certificate of coverage from my insurance company to give to Andrew's, but they can't give it to me bcz my coverage hasn't ended yet or some shit. Ugh. Well better go. Got to leave in about an hour for work. I'll talk to you girls soon!

 

[confusedprego]

Kels - honestly, in public - Oakley wins 85% of the time and that 15% of the time that he doesn't, is VERY recently. It hasn't been until recently that I can tell he knows he's doing something wrong, so it was pointless to fight with him in public before. Now, I can tell in his eyes he knows exactly what he's doing wrong and I can negotiate with him. Like - I can say 'do you want a popsicle when we get home?' and if he says yes (which he always does) - I can say 'then you need to stop doing blahblahblah' and he gets it and sometimes it works and other times he just gets pissed off haha. I only let the tantrums run their course at home, but that was typically where the full blown tantrums would happen. He was OBSESSED with our freezer for a long time and just wanted to eat popsicles and stare into the freezer for hours on end and would pull and scream on the freezer door for practically an afternoon haha but thanks to our patience, he seems to have given up on it (for the most part). So, for the time being - I think it's OK to let Khloe win in public and you'll start to see the opportunities to fight your battles as she starts to understand more.

Rach - glad your job is going well - crappy customers are bound to happen! Ugh! I'm relieved to be out of the customer service field but I feel like the skills I learned were really useful for everything!
Wal-Mart was pretty bad, haha. Well, first of all, Oakley REFUSES to sit in the cart or a stroller or anything I can push him in. Recently I've figured out he'll sit in the cart but only if he faces away from me and since he's so super skinny, he can kind of sit sideways and face away from me and he's happy. I just have a hard time shopping because I can't walk away from the cart. Anyway - he wouldn't even do that so I had him in the big section of the cart and my mom was with me and put a bag of mini reese's in the cart and he was asking for some and I told him not until we left the store and it was just all out hell from there with him screaming. I had to take him to the bathroom to let him scream it out a bit and then he did calm down but wouldn't go anywhere unless I carried him. So, thankfully my mom was there and could push the cart for me but I had people coming up to me saying "oh look who calmed down! good thing he's cute!" kinda thing so he was definitely making a scene!! and I hope no one will judge me for putting him in the cart all the ways the cart tells you not to but *sigh* I have to try to get some shopping done as quickly as possible! I never leave his side!

 

[confusedprego]

Oh and Kirk and I did everything for the house except the most recent outside siding/roofing. It would've taken too long and was more financially reasonable to have someone else do it. Thanks for all the compliments! It's been a complete transformation with this house, it's crazy!

 

[pinksmarties]

Hi girls.

Alyssa - so sorry things haven't been great with you and Rob. Even in the best of relationships we have ups and downs but add on a house move and TTC after a loss. With everything that has been happening no wonder things have been getting too much but the appointment with the fs sounds sooo promising. She sounds the perfect dr for oyu and knows where to go and how to get your rainbow. I hope the summer job is great.

Linds - the house looks fantastic. The before and after pics are just amazing, you both have done such a wonderful job. Luckily B hasn't really had much of a melt down in public yet, not looking forward to that day. I doubt anyone would judge you for putting O in the main trolley and those that might probably have never had kids.

Kels - Glad the bleeding has stopped. I hope they get back to you with the hcg just for your peace of mind and so you know whats going on. I love the pics on Fb, Khloes hair is so long!!

Rach - glad the job is going okay and for getting through your first stroppy customer. TBH I would be very mad and upset for not getting anything for your birthday, even just a card. OH forgot mothers day last year/didn't even enter his head I was a mummy (my first one) and I was distraught. So its not just your hormones. Sorry the insurance people are still being a pain, hopefully though it'll be sorted soon.

Mar - B did actually mummmmm before dad but that didn't last long and now its DADDDD, Daddddy for everything - grrr so annoying. He'll even say quack quack before mum.

Jess - Hope today goes okay and that little Isabella is having a nioce first day in school. Do you get chance to ring up to see how she is> My nursery used to send me photos on my mobile!

afm -OH had to take today off work as B had a bad night and had a temp this morning of 38.3oc. He has been very clingy and cuddly which isn't really him. He has 2 lots of calpol and 1 dose of ibuprofen to bring his temp down. I think he might have a sore throat as his chat/cough sounds different. He has seemed a bit brighter this afternoon but has been cough lots since going to bed tonight. OH will have tomorrow off if needed as it will be my last day at work.

 

[confusedprego]

Jess - hope yesterday went OK for you! I bet Isabela is young enough that she doesn't even cry when you leave - that was the worst for me! Now Oakley blows me kisses as I'm leaving, haha.

Sam - I get so embarrassed every time O has a meltdown in public but then I remind myself that everyone around me probably just feels bad for me and to just try to not worry about it...and if they are annoyed by it - well then they don't have kids and they can just get over it! ha!
Poor B being sick!! That boy is going to have the immune system of an Ox (assuming they have as strong of immune systems as their bodies!). Happy last day of work though!! I can't wait to see pics of your new bundle!! He'll be here before we know it!!

 

[korink26]

Aww Rach those shitty customers suck--def. want to throat punch them! Having preg hormones can't make it any better. And girl, pregnant or not, I LOVE my birthday and would be TICKED if it wasn't acknowledged! Hopefully you gave him enough of a piece of your mind, that he won't make that mistake again.
Aww Sam hope B feels better fast! And I hope even more that you don't catch it--that's the last thing you need.
Khloe's meltdowns have been most apparent when we try and go out to eat. I actually dread going out to eat, because she HATES sitting in her high chair and it's total meltdown when we try and make her. although this past weekend for father's day we went to 2 diff. restraunts and she was ok at both sitting in her chair. But Lindsay like you, she hates to be strapped into a cart or her stroller---so that sometimes starts the tantrum. She's just not old enough to reason with yet, so I feel like I can't let her cry it out just yet. Find it so funny how much our kids are alike, and probably most kids, but when it's your kid doing it you feel like yours is the only one!!
Jess---how did it go yesterday! Will you always be the one to drop her off?
AFM-nurse finally called and my hcg was 57. Darnit, was hoping for lower. Did you guys pay any attention to how soon AF started after it dropping to 0? I get conflicting info if you OV when it hits 0 or if AF starts when you hit 0, and actually maybe that's because everybody is just diff.

 

[confusedprego]

For me - I O'd both times when I hit 0 but I've heard for others that it triggered AF, so I think it's different for everyone. Do you know what happened with your first loss?
You're lucky you can even get Khloe in a high chair - Oakley completely refuses to the point where even if we can't get a booth, he has to sit in his own chair or on my lap lol. He does really good honestly when we give him that freedom - until the end of dinner when he wants to get down and run around but he's also getting to an age where it's easier to entertain him with crayons and activities. I completely dreaded going out to eat for a while with him until he figured out how to color/entertain himself!

 

[BeachChica]

Hi girls! Just a quick post to say hello... I'm actually in our mothers room at work pumping! Lol! Sounds like Isabela did well on her first day, so they said. Not sure if they were just being nice I was so busy at work that it kept my mind off of missing her most of the day. They did send a couple pics and an update which was nice. One pic was of her in the crib sleeping which made me feel a little sad that she was all alone.
Both times I've dropped her off she was sleeping so that was nice.

I'll update more later!!!

 

[confusedprego]

Aw! Glad Isabela is transitioning well so far! If she's sleeping at daycare, it can't be that bad, right?! You're almost through your first week! How do you feel so far about it?? I go through stages where I feel like it's a good thing Oakley is in daycare and then I feel so guilty about how much time he spends there but he honestly has learned so much with them that I don't think he would know yet if he were home with me all day, so it is definitely good! There are lots of days that he doesn't want to leave so I know he's happy there and I'm sure Isabela will be the same!

I got a phonecall today from Oakley's daycare and they're moving him out of the Infant/Toddler room starting this afternoon and is moving in with the 2's/3's room. I'm a bit nervous for him but I understand why they're doing it early for him. Now that it's summer time, there are much fewer kids at the daycare and he's been switched back into the Infant room and has actually been sleeping in a crib instead of a cot for the last couple days and they're worried it will be difficult for him to switch back. They also have 'tested' him lately and he has reached all of the academic marks for being in the 2's room - knows all his letters, numbers, and shapes and he socializes well with the 2's when they have outside play time. The only thing I really worry about is that he can be really shy and he may not 'take' to the new teachers well. They said he'll get transitioned with a teacher he knows for the first month over there, and they hope by then that he will have bonded with his other teachers. We'll see!! I'll let you guys know how Monday's drop off goes!

I feel like it's the weekend as I'm home writing today and tomorrow but happy almost Friday to everyone! We find out the gender of Kirk's brother's baby tomorrow - I can not wait!!!!

 

[BeachChica]

Awwww Lindsay - I can understand your concern about him moving up but how great that he's so advanced already!!! Sounds like he's a smart cookie!! I am sure if they've watched him socialize well with the older kids he'll do well with the change and it's great they have a teacher he's familiar with helping with the transition!

Alyssa - so sorry you are having such a tough time. Don't feel like you are going through this alone... We are here for you to vent and help you get through this! It sounds like you are in great hands with your new doctor. I am so happy you are finally seeing a specialist. It's a long process but hang in there! It sounds like you have a motivated doctor and you will be on your way to getting your rainbow in no time!! So jealous about your trip to NYC. Are you staying in the city? When you go do you stay at a hotel or does the school have something set up?

Rach - how is your new job going? It's good you are still on your insurance through the end of the month. I hope something opens up for you soon to get more hours. How long are you planning to take off for maternity leave? Anymore thoughts on names for your little man? The shitty customers definitely do suck but like Lindsay said, the skills you learn from dealing with that are so valuable!!!

Kelsey - how are you feeling? Any sign of AF? When will you start trying again. Love your family photo on FB!

Sam - you should be home now!!! How are you feeling? You're almost there? Are you ready? What theme did you decide to go with this time? Have you decided on a name yet?

AFM - so far Isabela seems to be doing well at daycare. Although yesterday she had a huge blow out right after I dropped her off, I've never seen anything like it!! Work is going ok although we are going into a quarter end so next week might be nuts. Anyone have any plans for the 4th? It's nice that it falls on a Friday this year. We are going to try to head out on the boat to see the fireworks.

 

[korink26]

Hi girls!! Lindsay---what a smarty pants you have! I was so worried when they moved Khloe out of the baby room---but it's been amazing! Only thing I worry---she still doesn't seem to show much interest in the other kids? She's usually exploring or playing alone when I get there. We went for a play date last weekend and she was SUPER shy and didn't really like the others to get too close---one girl was about a year older though and the other was 9 months---so one wasn't much fun and the other was bouncing all over the place and Khloe was intimidated...
Did you find out the gender yet of your niece/nephew?!
Jessie---yahoo for your first week almost being done! haha to the blowout, Khloe I guess had awful diapers 2 days ago, they asked if she ate a dead cow! lol Work being nuts will keep your mind off Isabela and make he day go fast. Pumping at work is still going good? Do you have total privacy or are you in there with other mother's?
AFM--HAND FOOT AND MOUTH DISEASE IS GOING AROUND LIKE WILD FIRE IN KHLOE'S ROOM AT DAYCARE!!!!! aahhh! Like I'm seriously freaking out, it sounds so awful for them to handle...the kids that have it aren't eating for a week and losing a bunch of weight I found out first on Wednesday when I picked her up--but the kids were already getting sick with it the Thursday before so I'm sure she's already been exposed. I kept her out of daycare yesterday and today--I worry I'm just delaying the inevitable. Lindsay---I've been dying to ask---how long do you think the germs will stick around?? Like if there's no kids there this whole weekend, would the germs still be active on everything Monday? Ugg...downside of daycare is the sickness....

 

[confusedprego]

lol Jess - the blowouts only get worse and have worse timing too, it seems! Once they start getting solid foods in them it seems to get better and then you'll get the random days of pure nastiness haha. Breatfed baby poop is so much better haha. I just ordered new cloth diapers for baby #2 that are a bit smaller as we had issues with Oakley leaking out due to his skinny skinny thighs! Glad she seems to be doing well at daycare!! That's awesome!

Kels - I wouldn't worry about Khloe not socializing. It took Oakley a while to connect with the other kids. The only kids he connects with in the 2's room right now are the ones he had spent some time with in the toddler room that 'moved up' before him. Some days I come in and Oakley will be with the teachers (they'll be carrying him around because he's kind of clingy) or he'll be running around the room like a maniac or sitting around with his two friends he's made. I don't know that he'll connect as well with the kids in the 2's room since there are so many more of them. He only had at most 3 or 4 kids with him in the toddler room at a time, whereas I think there are up to 10 of them in the 2's room - which means MORE GERMS that I'm not looking forward to. Speaking of germs - Most viruses (like foot and mouth disease) can only live on surfaces for 24hrs and very few can live up to 72hrs. I'm sure she's already been exposed but it is probably better you kept her out for a few days as her body may be able to fight off a low exposure but not repeated. I'm not sure about the 'incubation' period of foot and mouth - meaning how long after infection will symptoms appear but I would think if you make it through the weekend without symptoms, she's probably been spared!!! It really is the worst thing about daycare! Lots of great things but that is a major downfall! My BIL's baby is at a daycare that is in a woman's house with only two other kids, so he doesn't get sick nearly as often as Oakley but he doesn't get as much of the educational stuff that Oakley does. Pros and Cons, I suppose!!

I'll find out the gender of Oakley and Baby G #2's cousin in less than an hour!!! I can't waitttttttt - O was good and went down for an early nap for me today so we could go out to lunch to celebrate the other new Baby G's gender with his cousin, Cash!

 

[confusedprego]

The verdict is in and Oakley is going to have another baby BOY cousin!! The G boys are taking over!!

 

[BeachChica]

Kelsey - we have a pretty nice mothers room at work. It's a small room with a comfy chair, sink area, small refrigerator, magazines etc. You are in there alone and book your time there similar to the way you would book a conference room in Outlook. Pumping is going well I guess. It's nice to actually have the time to pump now that I didn't really have at home. I am pumping twice at work every 4 hours for 20 minutes so I am hoping to be able to be able to increase my supply some. I am only getting about 4.5 ounces all day It's basically covering 1 of the 3 bottles I prepare for her to have a daycare the next day (at work). When I get home I usually breast feed her with maybe about 2 ounces of supplementing here and there. I have just about cut out the supplementing at night now as the BF seems to be enough during that feeding. I thought about trying to get in a 3rd pumping session at work but I would probably need to do that at lunch and I don't know if they would want someone making the room smell like food.

Oh I've been meaning to ask you girls, how long did it take for you to get your first AF. I know BF can delay it a bit but I am hoping I don't have a surprise at work.

 

[korink26]

That's so awesome because they're all so close in age!!!! Khloe has nobody on either side
Thank you so much for the info on the germs---I knew you'd know! Pray we make it through the weekend

 

[korink26]

woops, we were posting at the same time Jessie! I would think others do it on lunch---I had to do it on my lunch because I didn't let down fast enough to do it on my shorter breaks.
Oh I'm trying to think when AF returned----between 4-6 months I think??? I'd have to look at my notes and see if I mentioned it. I remember being disappointed and had hoped it would stay away longer. Oh and you had asked about my current AF situation---and no such luck. My temps have been all over the place but yesterday I had some watery cm and a temp super drop. I don't generally temp on the weekends, but I may tomorrow because if my temp is up again I'd say yesterday I OV'd. (was hoping I'd be one of them that gets AF when hcg gets to 0, but I think I might be one of the OV'ing ones).

 

[BeachChica]

So Kelsey when you mention the let down, is that for the milk to actually start flowing? Mine starts within a couple minutes but just not getting a lot to come out.