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[BeachChica]

Thanks Lindsay! Glad to hear that you had the same issues with the incontinence. I just don't feel very clean down there when I leak if you know what I mean. I probably leak during Bd too, never thought about that ugh!! I will probably make an appointment soon for the doctor just to get checked out. I am also feeling a little dizzy at night and first thing in the morning so I probably need some bloodwork too.

Isabela's doctor called and they said they are going to do stool samples so I just went to pick up the bottles and drop them off at daycare so they can start collecting. She has just started the foods - and apples and bananas lately since they put her on the BRAT diet - but the doctor did not think it was the foods. She thought it was more viral. It's been a week now and her poo must have been very acidic because she had a terrible diaper rash. We'll see.

When you let Oakley scream it out how long did you let him cry for? There have been a couple times when she just sounded like she was complaining so I left her and she fell back asleep and it bought me a couple more hours but last night she got very hysterical so we finally caved. I just couldn't hear her like that. Does it just need to happen at some point or will she eventually just sleep longer herself?

 

[confusedprego]

Let me know what the doc says about the incontinence. When I mentioned it to my doctor at my 6 week followup she mentioned something about classes that I could go to or someone that I could talk to and that just sounded awkward so I never looked into it further.

As for sleeping - I would literally give myself a certain time I was allowed to go into the room but if he sounded hysterical then I would always cave. Kirk would try to get me to stay in bed as long as possible but it's really hard to listen to them when they're screaming and wailing real badly. I started out with just giving him 2-3 minutes of crying and worked him up to 5 and eventually all the way up to 10 minutes but that wasn't until he was around 6 months or so. They get into patterns where they get used to you being there with them and it's a matter of breaking that habit. It's difficult but something you'll work through.
Another good suggestion beyond crying it out that I got from doctors here at work was to get up with Oakley but to not feed him and try to get him to go back to sleep without a feeding. That way they get used to going to sleep at that time without a feeding and will be more likely to put themselves back to sleep in the future.

 

[babydust818]

Hey girls. Been a bit but just trying to stay sane over here lol. I have an ultrasound tmrw at 130 to see babies weight and to make sure he is not breech. Dr said he's 99% sure baby isn't but wants to make sure. He said if the baby is 9/9.5lbs on thr ultrasound then he would like to induce sooner than 41 weeks. Otherwise, he will give it until 41 weeks to do it on my own or they can induce. He said with baby being as high as he is and with inducing he hates to do it bcz it would most likely result in csection bcz baby might not drop enough for me to vaginally push him out. I am so anxious to see him tmrw. I haven't saw him since 20w6d. He wouldn't cooperate for 3D so I honestly have no idea what his facial features even look like! So it will be amazing to see.

Lindsay I had a dream we met last night lol. I don't remember much about it but we got along greatand Kirk was super nice LOL!

 

[BeachChica]

Hi girls! Just a quick post...

Lindsay - went to the doctor this morning about the incontinence. She is sending me for pelvic physical therapy to try to strengthen the muscles there as she definitely saw that they were weak. She said because I'm breast feeding and haven't gotten AF yet my estrogen levels have not returned to normal and that is affecting things for strengthening up down there too. She also said that I am not going to be able to avoid a surgery to correct the problem. Something about a sling. She wanted to try the PT first to see how I do and said I would need to make a decision about having any more children before having the surgery. I'll keep you posted on what the therapist says. How are you doing?

How's everyone else doing?

Rach - saw you were officially on maternity leave!!! How long are you going to tak off? Do you get paid for any of it? What did you decide to do about the breast pump? You're almost there girl!! Keep us posted!!!

Oh the doctor told me this morning also that we need to get Isabela out of our room I know it will help us all sleep better but it's going to be hard!!! Ugh!

 

[babydust818]

Jessie I just can not believe how much Isabela has grown! She is blossoming into a beautiful little girl! She is soooo cute and looks like she's so sweet too. Sorry about everything going on with no AF. I hope you can get everything squared away with it. I bet its nice not having it but also by not having it comes worry. I can only imagine the anxiety it will bring when you put Isabela in her own room. I can already feel it! I'll be so worried but they will do just fine. We know what kind of problem that can create so the sooner the better! ♡

I am on mat leave and I do not get paid for it Looking to go back to work around Halloween. Hoping baby comes soon so I have more time to spend with him. Still no signs at all....

 

[confusedprego]

Hi Ladies!

Rach - can't wait to hear about your scan tomorrow! I know you were hoping for one more scan so that's exciting you'll get one Have you been having any contractions? It's interesting he says he's worried about baby being so high and that if he induces you, you'll likely have to have a C-section as they told me Oakley was "floating" as even when my water broke he was still at the highest "station" and I was only 0.5cm dilated. Once they induced me he started dropping as I dilated but I really didn't have any trouble getting him out - I only pushed for 20 minutes before they brought the doctor in and 10 more to get him fully out. I think it's unique for everyone and try to not worry! My water broke on my due date and they had told me the week before that if they let me, I would have gone past 42 weeks so they had already scheduled me for induction at 41 weeks. I'm not going to lie - it was not fun being induced but not the end of the world either! I hope you wake up in the wee morning hours one of these days with contractions and it all works out on it's own!
Funny you had a dream we met! I'm sure we would all get together so well if we lived close to each other!! Maybe one day we can plan a vacation together!!

Jess - That's interesting about the incontinence! It's funny as I did notice a big difference when I stopped breastfeeding that holding my pee got easier and I've gotten a lot better with it over the past year especially. That's kind of scary about surgery but it kind of makes me feel better that there are things they can do! Let me know how the 'therapy' goes! Sounds intimidating to me for some reason haha. Have you guys thought about whether you will try for another?? I know it's hard to think about when you're already not getting sleep but you guys make such beautiful babies it would be a shame to not make another
I agree that Miss Isabella needs to get out of your room! I know it's hard but it will benefit everyone! We plan to put new baby boy (most likely named Miles BTW) will go into his room in less than a month. It kind of messed with my head having Oakley in our room - I always woke up delirious thinking I left him in the bed and was smothering him!

AFM - had a doctor's appointment this morning - they didn't check me this time as my contractions haven't been as frequent this week and based on where I was last week (Stage -2 and 0.5cm dilated) that it's unlikely he progressed enough to warrant a check. I don't think checking really means much anyway to be honest. I had a friend that was 4cm dilated for weeks with her second kid so you never really know! My SIL 'weighed' the baby and he's right around 6lbs! She guesses he'll be right around 8lbs if I go to 40 weeks. I can't wait for him to come but I need at least two more weeks for sure which seems like it shouldn't be a problem

 

[korink26]

OMG RACH!! 40 WEEKS!!!! I can't believe it, and Lindsay 36 weeks?!?!?! I thought you were closer to 30 weeks---so exciting!! How are you girls feeling?! Rach, my Dr. set an induction date, because she didn't think it was going to happen on its own. But, it did! There's just no way to tell. do you have a name yet?! I'm so excited to see his beautiful face!
Jessie---how did Isabela's stool samples turn out? And you take Isabela out of your room when you feel like it. I do think you'd probably sleep better if you're not sleeping the best now, but, you do what works for you. We put Khloe in her crib shortly after I went back to work. But, you guys have a pretty large bedroom, don't you? So is Isabela right by you guys, or just in the same room? I think I may have had incontinence issues after having her...but I don't think it lasted very long. I do think that until I got my first AF (which I don't remember when that came?) everything stayed lose. And after getting AF, things started to tighten back up, so I bet that will help you. Are you guys thinking about more kids--and if so when are you thinking? You make way too gorgeous of babies to not have another---(funny, I just read Lindsay's comment about you guys having pretty babies---we think alike!) How's BF'ing going??
Lindsay I like Miles--Oakley and Miles fit good together! Can't wait to see him. How has Oakley been feeling? How's school going?
Sam hope you're doing good with your boys!
AFM-Khloe I don't think ever got HFM again. She had a temp. for one day, and was "off" for about a week, but had no other symptoms. We are still struggling with sleeping, and she's getting up once or twice a month. since we can only get her to sleep on the floor, she's able to just get up and wander in by us instead of just crying herself back to sleep. We're taking her back and having her sleep in there. Somtimes then she's good until morning, othertimes she's back up in an hour. So frustrating--and tiring! Today appears to be OV day, and I'm excited because it's never happened on CD 14 for me! If my temps confirm OV the next couple days, then we timed it good this month. Trying not to let myself get excited.

 

[BeachChica]

Rach - happy 40 weeks! You made it!!! It could be any time now! I hope you're ready!!! I can't wait to see your new little man!!!

Lindsay - happy 36 weeks! Time is flying for you too!! Do you think you'll go to 40 weeks like you did with Oakley? I really like the name Miles!! Can't wait to see your little guy too!

Kelsey - glad Khloe did not get the HFM again. That stinks about the sleeping problems. I hope she will get better about that soon. I know how tough it is going to work when you've been up several times. Yeah for O!! I have everything crossed for you this month! Oh Isabela's stool sample came back normal and her BMs are back to normal. Now we both have a cold Ugh!!!

I was just talking to Chris today about you girls today and how after a couple years and a lot of heartbreak everyone will finally have their rainbow soon... Some two!!! So exciting!

Regarding any additional children for us. I am just not sure. I feel so blessed to have 1 healthy little girl after all those MCs and chromosomal problems. I would just hate to have something slip through the cracks and have problems. Also I'm 41 so not only does my risk continue to increas but I'm getting old!!! I don't know, something we are going to think about for the next few months.

Chris and I took off today and we are spending the night on the boat. So nice to get away even though I had tons to do at my house!

 

[pinksmarties]

Hi girls.

Rach - happy 40 weeks OMG ca't believe how fast that seems to have gone. How did the scan go? Hope to be hearing news of your boy soon.

Kels - keeping everything crossed for you cd 14 is great timing for ov, hoping tomorrow you get your CH. Glad Khloe missed the 2nd bout of HFM. Sorry she is not sleeping great. B is still in his cot with all sides up but he never treis to get out so might be okay with out the sides but as he is good with it just now Im not going to risk it by remiving the sides just yet!

Jess - I can understand your reasoning to think about more children. It is a bit harder when you are older, I am 41 now and I really feel it sometimes!!! Isabela is just the cutest and I love all the boat pics, so jealous of the lovely weather you guys have.

Linds - looks like you had a great time at your shower, not long to go till you meet baby number 2! I too love the name Miles and think it does go well with Oakley. Does O have any idea about the baby?

afm - I have been stalking and writing the odd update on my journal but haven;t had much chance to post elsewhere. Having 2 is HARD, I feel guilty about not spending time with B then feel guilty of I have to let Oliver cry to sort out B. I think OH has struggled with having 2 also and doesn;t seem to be bonding as well with Oliver as most of his time is spent with B now. As I am bf Oliver will only seem to settle with me ( cries alot in the evenings) and that makes OH feel even more remote. B is very good with O though, lots of love and kisses although he can be a bit rough but not in a bad or nasty way. O sleep at night isn't too bad either. Down at 8 (feed and then sitting up for a while - constant sick which I am going the talk the the Dr about on Thursday when he get his first set of injections eek!) then wake at 2.30ish then maybe last till 6 then up after that. No routine during the day as of yet and tbh this time I am not going to force one just yet. He is growing like a trouper and weighs 11lb!! Averageing 10oz per week. Better go O waking up

 

[BeachChica]

Sam - so good to hear from you and sounds like things are going well overall! I have heard it's sooooo much harder with 2. Isabela had those bouts of screaming in the evening as well. It got really hard at times! We took a lot of walks because that seemed to help and BF calmed her down as well. It did get better by about 3 months. How is the BF going this time around? Better?

Lindsay - saw you had a shower this past weekend? Was this your first for little Miles? Oh, have you revealed the name to anyone or are you waiting?

Rach - how are you feeling!!?? It can be any day now you meet your new little guy! Did the docs give you a date they won't let you go past? Who will watch him when you go back to work?

Kelsey - any progress with the sleeping? I need to go check your chart.

AFM - Chris and I spent Friday and Saturday out on the boat. It was a bit windy but overall nice. I love this time of year when it's still hot during the day but cooler at night.
Saturday night we moved Isabela to her own room. It went well other than missing being able to look over and see her sleeping. She's still up twice each night so I need to start working on that. Although I must say, it was much easier feeding her in the glider in her room than in my bed. We have her 6 month appointment tomorrow so I am sure the doctor will tell us that she should be sleeping through the night
Her food feedings seem to be going ok but I can only get her to eat about 1/2 of a container before she seems frustrated. Any suggestions? I don't think she minds the food, she may just need to enjoy the experience more. I need her to open her mouth too, it's just a bit if a chore. Although she seems interested in our food, grabbing at the plate etc.

 

[BeachChica]

Kelsey - your chart looks good. Definitely looks like O to me on CD 14 but it will be interesting to see what happens with your temps over the next couple days. Are you still BDing just in case?

 

[pinksmarties]

Have you tried baby led weaning? I think might try that this time round although traditional weaning has worked well for us as he is great at eating and uses a spoon/fork really well. I used to show B what to do by opening my mouth really wide so he would copy and that really helped and I don't think they take too much this early, I am sure she'll take more as she get bigger.

 

[BeachChica]

Thanks Sam! What exactly is the baby lead weaning? I had gone over to the feeding boards some time back when I was first weaning but it wasn't very helpful over there so I didn't pursue it anymore.

 

[confusedprego]

Hi everyone!!

So good to hear from (most) everyone!

Jess - I much preferred Oakley in his own room and I'm glad that you're finding it easier than you expected - have you thought of getting a video monitor? We have the Motorola one and I don't think I could survive without it, even now when getting up in the night is more rare. It has an option to have multiple cameras so we have one in Oakley's room, Miles' room and one in the basement so I can keep an eye on him/them where ever they are
Miles as the name is still a secret when it comes to family. We had quite a bit of drama with Oakley's name and would rather not have any opinions. I have shared the name with my sister-in-law that is also pregnant as I didn't want to 'steal' her name in the rare case they may have been thinking the same, but really no one else knows. I told my dad the other day because the drama with the name was on Kirk's side of the family and I didn't feel it was right to keep him my family out when there was no drama there last time. So, I guess it's not much of a secret but it is a bit - nothing on Facebook until he's born, for sure.
How is breastfeeding going?? Kirk's cousin was talking about fenugreek to stimulate production and I've heard oatmeal helps - have you tried anything like that (if you're still struggling, that is!!). As for feedings - she's only 6 months, so I'm not surprised she's only taking half a pack of food at a time - I actually think that's pretty good! Are you mixing it with rice cereal or oatmeal? That was the best way to get Oakley to eat more but even then, it seemed as though it went more on his tray and him than inside of him Be patient with it - she'll get the hang of it. When Oakley started finger foods, it helped him with being spoon fed and then he quickly decided he only wanted to feed himself and we went from there.

Kels - yay on the CH!! Keep up the BD just in case but it looks promising!! I'm glad Khloe didn't get full blown HFM again! Maybe she had some immunity built up from the last round. I'm hoping Oakley has some immunity now and if (when) it goes around his school again he'll be protected.
He's been feeling well lately, we had a bit of croup about a month ago but that's been it lately *knock on wood* He had a runny nose last week and we were convinced we were going to be floored with something again but I think it was just allergies as Kirk had a runny nose too but nothing came of it for either of them and I got nothing - which means it wasn't a cold because I seem to get every single cold Oakley brings home!! lol.

Rach - I hope you're hanging in there hun and that they've booked an induction date for you! As much as it sucks to be induced - it's way better than waiting and waiting and waiting!

Sam - I'm sorry to hear 2 is being difficult on you! I can only imagine! I already have a hard time juggling everything and here I am on the verge of #2! Eeeek!! I keep thinking I couldn't possibly get any more tired than I already am and then I remember in a few weeks time I will have a newborn and try to squeeze a nap in

AFM - I have another doctor's appointment tomorrow. I assume they'll check me, but I thought they would have last appointment and they didn't. I don't know if that's because I saw one of the nurse practitioners or because they just typically don't check at 36 weeks. I know I probably shouldn't, but I checked myself every couple of days and as of this morning I'd say I'm at 1cm but I have no idea on the stages - I don't think he's dropped much more but I don't really know how that one works. I should probably stop sticking my hands up there anyway and leave it up to the docs! I'll let you guys know what they say - apt is 10am tomorrow!

 

[babydust818]

Hey girls! Hate how I don't have a laptop anymore. So much harder to keep up with this site. I'm not the type to text a lot. So writing this on a phone pisses me off lol. I text but not long messages.

Things over here are still going lol. Baby doesn't wanna leave the womb yet. I'll just be happy if he's here by Halloween jk. I have a dr appt tmrw at 345 to check things out and see if baby is anymore engaged. I really don't think he is. Nothing feels different than a month ago. I still have yet to experience one single contraction or BH. I have no cramping or anything. I know labor can come out of anywhere so that is the only thing keeping my hopes up with any sort of faith that I won't need to be induced. Dr said last week he does not let his patients go past 41 weeks so Friday I believe will be the day we set up for induction if he doesn't come on his own. I got my breast pump out today and tried it for the first time. Read online nipple stimulation will release oxytocin which helps you get contractions, but nothing happening here. I did get a few drops of colostrum to come out though. I'm worried my shield is too big. Idk how you know?

 

[BeachChica]

Lindsay - I do have the Motorola monitor as well with the 2 cameras. Chris also has a wifi camera set up in our living room so we can spy on the parents when they are baby sitting LOL! Anyway it is great still being able to hear Isabela at night since her bedroom is across the house. I remember the drama yiu had with Oakleys name so I don't blame you for keeping it a secret. Hopefully you won't have any issues this time.
Breastfeeding is going well, just wish I could produce a little more. I mentioned the issue and fenugreek when I went to my OB last week but she said rather only way to increase supply is by suckling. I may try the fenugreek just to see. I do mix the food with rice cereal to help it for being so runny and fill her up a bit more. When did you start with the hand foods, like the puffs? I think she'd like that! Good luck with your appointment tomorrow. Will you get a scan? And yes, I think we discussed this before... Lol you should probably keep your hands out of there!!!

Rach - what happened to your laptop? What kind of pump did you get? Yiu probably shouldn't pump anymore because yiur baby needs that colostrum during the first few days. You can probably try some other forms of nipple stimulation without getting milk to come out. Also, regarding shield sizing. Be sure to ask to see a lactation consultant while you are at the hospital and ask to be measured. I went back in and had this done because I was using the wrong size too. There are also videos on the Medela site but I would measure just to be sure. They usually have the shields at the hospital too.

 

[pinksmarties]

Jess - BLW involves giving them the same foods you are eating (if you make it yourselves without added salt/sugar etc) and let them eat itthemselves. It is very messy and maybe they don;t eat as much as spoon feeding staight away but it allows them to avoid all the pureed foods.

https://www.babyledweaning.com/

I think I want to try it this time but i'll see closer to the time. Fenugreek is supposed to help and I know some ladies even been put on metaformin to help milk production. I thought about trying fenugreek with B but chickened out, not sure why really.

Rach - Really hope you go yourself before 41 weeks and avoid induction. I know the last few days seem to drag but make the most of them as you will miss being pg and having that bump. Can't help with the shield thing, it was only here that I knew you could get different sizes and pumping doesn't seem to be as big over here as with your guys. I am thinking of trying to pump so OH can give a bottle (and for Oliver to try an bottle as I am getting worried he might not accept on as he will not take a dummy and we have tried lots).

Linds - Hope Miles is heading down the way, but they say 2nd babies may not engage until labour starts!

af again - I didn't want my post to sound so down about having 2. Its great to see B interacting with O I just miss my special time with B atm but I am sure we'll get there again. O is starting to smile a bit. Lots of people think he looks like B but I can see that they are brothers but they are definitely different. I'll try to put a pic on when I get a few more minutes free.

 

[BeachChica]

Thanks Sam! I will check out that article. I can't wait to see a pic of Oliver! So are you not BF with him now? I was confused by your post. I heard about a prescription for increasing milk as well but the doctor told me it has a side effect of depression so I really didn't want to go down that road. I may look into the Fenugreek.

 

[babydust818]

I probably won't use breast pump again until he's here since it didn't do much for me. The point was to get contractions started but it never happened. Sam I wanted the breast pump for the same reason you just said.... that way DH can help feed rather than constantly relying on boobies. I'll probably introduce the bottle when he's 3-4 weeks old. i only hope he comes on his own so I won't need to be induced. I hear pitocin is a biatch. I'll do whatever I need to though. I must admit, I'm getting sick of being asked everyday if he's here yet lol..I know ppl mean it in the nicest way but it irritates me and makes me want him here even more. Trust me, when this baby is on his way I'll let everyone know lol. I believe we going with the name Rowan. DH and I really like it. Lindsay I think Miles is sooo cute! I understand about the whole judgement thing. I haven't told a soul about any of our picks. I just dont wanna hear it.

 

[confusedprego]

Rach - I'm so curious to hear about your appointment today!! My SIL that had her baby 6 months after Oakley said she never had any contractions at all which made it really easy to tell when she was in labor! I had very few with Oakley and they were not painful until the week leading up to him coming. This one has been a different story - lots of painful contractions. So many that I'm worried I won't know when it's real! Although this past week has been very mild. I hope you don't have to be induced but it will be better than just waiting and waiting
I would also put away the pump for now - if you need nipple stimulation, make hubby take a crack at it Keep up the BD, I think I read somewhere that something in semen softens the cervix.

Jess - You're funny with the camera to spy on your parents!! How funny!! My mom got us a dropcam which is a wireless camera that we can watch Oakley if we're away - I just love it!! It makes overnight trips away from him so much easier!!!
Kirk's cousin swears the fenugreek made her produce a lot more! She only took a few seeds and saw a difference and once she was producing more she stopped and has been producing fine ever since.
We started the finger foods when Oakley started looking really interested in our foods and that was around 6-7 months. You could start with the little puffs that dissolve any time now, I would think! Oakley LOVED them! We just did one at a time until we knew he could handle them.
My SIL is working today so I'm sure she'll try to get a peek at little Miles! Since he's already engaging, it's a bit tough for her to get pictures of his face but we'll see!!

Sam - As of two weeks ago, baby Miles was down to the -2 stage, so he's dropping a bit but I've read that too that he may not really engage until it's time for labor. I'll be curious to hear if he's dropped any more today and if we have any more dilation (I was at 0.5cm last time).
I think it's a great idea to try to break out a pump to allow your DH to feed Oliver to try to get more of a connection with him. Kirk and I have discussed that when Miles comes that he will be 'in charge' of Oakley. We've already started having Kirk be the primary person to get up in the middle of the night if Oakley needs something so it's not a transition when Miles comes, although, I'm sure we'll still struggle because Oakley demands me when he gets hurt or is upset, but I think that's just a mommy thing. I think it's normal for DHs to be a bit disconnected when babies are exclusively breastfeeding - I know Kirk felt a bit useless the first few months. He was happy when we switched to bottle feeding so he could play a role.

AFM - appointment is at 10AM - I'll update you ladies when I get home!