14 and pregnant

[14yearoldmomi]

im so happy
my boyfriend just asked me if i would say yes if he were to ask me to marry him=)

 

[TashaAndBump]

Ooh You think he's gonna propose?? Congratulations, but getting married is a big comitment... I don't know much about you personally, but I do know that a lot can change in a few years - especially when you are so young...I thought I was in love with my first partner, and wanted to spend the rest of my life with him, but now we can't stand each other and never talk - Would have beena disaster if I had married him!! Would your parents give their consent for you to get married (because you would need that unless you wait and have a four year long engagement). Also weddings are very expensive! A baby will cost enough, will you be able to afford a wedding, too?? Just some food for thought for you... You will have to talk all this over with your OH. Congrats on him asking, though - It's a positive sign that he wants this level of committment to you and your potential family - most 16 year olds would be running to fields if they discovered their girlfriend was sprog-bound!

Hun, you asked previously if your sexual relationship with your partner was statutory rape (only just saw it sorry!) I can't answer that unless I know which state you are from, as the law differs from state to state....

Good luck, hunni x

 

[lily24]

So are you pregnant...?

 

[Serene123]

So just to make sure I'm getting this right: you're 14, assume you're pregnant but don't really know, and are getting engaged? Have you tested yet? Also, I don't mean to question you, and someone may have asked this already, but wouldn't a clinic have made sure you got the results? And if your mother was that bothered about you being pregnant, surely she'd have called to get the results?


Maybe I've got this thread wrong. I didn't read every page.

 

[xXhayleyXx]

If u have support like u say then ask someone to buy u a pregnancy test. I see u have put ur expecting but u havent done a test yet! x

 

[nikky0907]

So just to make sure I'm getting this right: you're 14, assume you're pregnant but don't really know, and are getting engaged? Have you tested yet? Also, I don't mean to question you, and someone may have asked this already, but wouldn't a clinic have made sure you got the results? And if your mother was that bothered about you being pregnant, surely she'd have called to get the results?


Maybe I've got this thread wrong. I didn't read every page.

Nope.thats pretty much it....it seems you got it right.

Still doesn't make it any less confusing...

 

[Sparky0207]

Nope, far too confused to read anymore of this thread!

So are you actually bothered if you're pregnant? I know if it was me in that situation I would be DESPERATE to find out for sure.

 

[Serene123]

I don't get why your mum took you to a clinic but didn't bother getting the results?

 

[leeanne]

 

[VanWest]

she's probaly at school right now

 

[mrscookie]

HOW HAVE YOU NOT TESTED YET? im so confused! You can get tests so cheap! Relying on friends parents is stupid and Macdonalds pays peanuts by the way, he'd need something better than that if he is to support your baby, if there is one... since nobody knows and you don't seem too bothered in finding out. We are here to give you advice but we cant tell you whether you are pregnant, only you can do that so get to it gal! If I had any spare i'd flipping send you one.. Go on ebay they are dirt cheap on there.

 

[Always&4ever]

I honestly don't understand all this

 

[armychicmkm]

I mean if you're not pregnant then you're worrying about it for nothing.
If you are pregnant then you can start making some important decisions and start getting medical care.

 

[vicky9207]

im 16 now had my bby at 15. i didnt test till 5 months my periods wernt cming but they were always ilregual! wasnt showing! i kinda new deep down i was pregnant but couldnt take the test i jut put it 2 the back of my head! my bf made me take the test n there is was a i didnt know how important anti-natel care was. know i wished i would of tested earlier my baby is near 4 months n he is a fine happy baby thank god. being a ypung mum is really hard. i love my baby 2 bits n wouldnt change it but as i said it will change ur life n it is so hard

 

[Blah11]

i think this whole thread is a bit of a joke. You're 14.. don't even know if you're pregnant but are just assuming you are and now you're wanting to get married.

Sorry but it sounds like you're not mature enough to be a parent just yet so I hope you're not pregnant.

 

[trishawootton]

i think sum people are being really harsh on her she might be scared about finding out, i no i was and im 18 i didnt want to test at all it was my oh who made me test, i was scared about all aspects of pregnancy, being a mum, telling people, what they would think ect... so i just put it at the back of my head for ages, so dont be too harsh on her she needs advise not a lecture and on the money situation she has said her bf is gettin work at mcdonalds and working with his dad to help provide for their baby what more can any body do but actually try their damned hardest..

sorry for the rant it just annoys me how sum ppl can judge when they are trying their hardest

and hun i still think u need to test it is better for you and lo if you do and as for your mum making you have an abortion if u are no one can make u do anything you dont want to it is your decision no1 elses good luck and do that test as soon as ya can loadsa hugs xxxxx

 

[Blah11]

i think sum people are being really harsh on her she might be scared about finding out, i no i was and im 18 i didnt want to test at all it was my oh who made me test, i was scared about all aspects of pregnancy, being a mum, telling people, what they would think ect... so i just put it at the back of my head for ages, so dont be too harsh on her she needs advise not a lecture and on the money situation she has said her bf is gettin work at mcdonalds and working with his dad to help provide for their baby what more can any body do but actually try their damned hardest..

sorry for the rant it just annoys me how sum ppl can judge when they are trying their hardest

and hun i still think u need to test it is better for you and lo if you do and as for your mum making you have an abortion if u are no one can make u do anything you dont want to it is your decision no1 elses good luck and do that test as soon as ya can loadsa hugs xxxxx

I don't think being scared should be an excuse for not testing yourself. I was scared and still did it. I think every first time mother is scared anyway. She hasn't even said she is scared, just made stupid excuses up like 'I dont have the money' and 'i just know my body'. i doubt she has ultrasound eyes. She needs to get it done sooner rather than later and I think she needs someone to be a bit harsh with her. 10 pages of obviously hasn't worked or she'd know by now. She NEEDS to know so as to get the correct antenatal care and to plan for the baby. If she's already 12 weeks she only has 6 months left and that's not long at all.

 

[trishawootton]

im not gettin involved anymore i have gave my opion and advise if she takes it she takes it if not then thats up to her

 

[TashaAndBump]

im not gettin involved anymore i have gave my opion and advise if she takes it she takes it if not then thats up to her

I think that what you wrote made a lot of sence and came across really well.

 

[polo_princess]

eeeer yeap!!

I havent quite caught up with exactley whats going on but pleeease tell me youve tested by now? Even if you are scared, theres always a chance you might not be pregnant and are just worrying yourself.