I think if you've spent your younger years looking after a child or didn't have much of a childhood it's all the more reason to give yourself some time just for you, when you have a child although I try not to be totally sacrificial and still have my own identity, your child has to come first. I think you and your husband deserve time to yourselves, to be selfish. To be honest I class myself still as a child of sorts at 17, not in the sense of needing looking after, but 16-22 are great years because you're old enough to be independent but there aren't many obligations or pressure usually, I went to uni but I know that's not for everyone but it's a time you can enjoy yourselves, even make a few mistakes here and there lol. There's still plenty of time to have a child young, I wouldnt take back those years for anything, especially as I was blessed enough to spend them with my now hubby.