1st m/c January, 2nd m/c May, still trying for 3rd BFP

[starry83]

Hi ladies! Just to let you know I had my baby in the early hours of yesterday morning... We had a GIRL! Her name is Jessica and she weighed 9lbs 1!!

She is absolutely perfect in every way, had a pretty intense second half of labour and when I couldn't bare the pain anymore I was gonna ask for epidural only to find out I was 10cm! Anyway she was still a bit high up so had back to back contractions for an hour! When the time came to push I was at it for about 2 hours!! I had a third degree tear so had to go down to surgery so they could put me back together!

All worth it tho, she's perfect. We couldn't be happier! Xx

 

[bazzb]

Congrats stary!!
Glad your okay xoxoxo

 

[mannymoo]

Hooray starry! Welcome baby Jessica (my dh's favorite name!) so glad your little girl has arrived and all is well although labour sounds like a bit of a nightmare. I hope you recover quickly so we can see a pic of baby Jess. Congrats to you and your oh. Xx

 

[bazzb]

Just read 83sbirth story it's in the spoiler on her name!!

83 you've been through hell so glad your okay
Much love to you and your baby xx

 

[mannymoo]

Just found it. Wow 83. That sounds totally hectic! I can't believe they all missed it. So bad of them. What would have happened if the nice doctor hadn't have come along?!? Glad you and Nia are both well now. How are you recovering?

We are all now waiting for your birth story bazz! Hopefully not much longer to go. Keeping everything crossed for a bfp first round of clomid!

 

[A1983]

Congratulations Starry! Pics when you can :-D

It was hell-and if Angel Dr didn't save me I wouldn't be here writing this according to the surgeons. I'm certainly recovered now but still teary at times-low tolerance! But I think im struggling with little Nia and her crying. Ppl keep telling me it's what babies do but im always looking for ways to help her/find out what's wrong. She has gained weight well but im thinking she is getting 'lactose overload' from too much feeding where she's learnt to associate boob with sleep...but actually she needs just sleep but wont settle without boob if that makes sense so that then leads to gas, pain, and therefore difficulty sleeping. Answer is if she's had a big feed to try and wait three hours til next one (rather than her sometimes 30 minutes) as this is daily-not now and again, and soothe her in other ways which atm she doesn't like so just screams but I need to perserve. But it gets me down.

 

[mannymoo]

Have you tried a dummy/pacifier? It really helped me a lot but josh will still only take one if it has been dunked in gripe water (the pediatric version obviously). He fed much more then every 3 hours too. Try do some bicycles and lunges with her legs to get rid of gas. It really helps. I think that constantly feeding and being gassy and uncomfortable is totally normal for a new born. If she is gaining weight then you are doing a great job so try not worry.

 

[bazzb]

My Evap! I don't normally get these
Little buggers lol

We only bd te morning after O anyways
I took this test at 11 dpo last night with a two hour hold

 

[mannymoo]

Any chance it's not an evap? I suggest a frer with fmu just to be sure. Maybe you ovulated slightly later. So excited for you. Keep us posted. X

 

[bazzb]

Thanks
Yah pretty sure when I od I'm temping!

Will keep you posted

 

[bazzb]

My chart

 

[mannymoo]

Yip - looks like it is probably evap then but you just never know. That egg may have lurked around for a while. The test is very pink though. I would definitely do another one anyway.

 

[bazzb]

Thanks manny
Prob test if no at by my bday

 

[A1983]

When's your birthday Bazz?

Manny, thank you-yeah im feeding her a lot this eve-she's been awake and crying since 1pm my head kills. I know im constantly contradicting myself but I really don't think she's had wind today-just wont sleep and settle. Would Josh do this?

 

[bazzb]

My bday is Sunday!

 

[xoxo4angel]

Bazz ~ Whst a dreamy birthday present that would be!

Starry ~ Congrats on your baby girl!

Manny ~ I cannot stop admiring the pics of Joshua...keeping my eye on the prize. I think I can...I think I can...

83 ~ What a labor/birth story...thank God you are well and were persistent! You certainly had the experience of a lifetime. I do believe we have similar babies...the pediatrician told me today she believes Pierce is feeding every hour because he is a "snacker." Instead of getting a good alert feed, he nurses strong for 10-15 min, then nods off and misses the hind milk because he will pacify himself/sleep latched on for 30 more minutes. She told me to brace for a tough day, to undress him and force an alert feed, then use pacifier/swaddling to extend the time between his feedings to 2 hours. I'm a zombie...

 

[mannymoo]

How frustrating for both of you. A few more things that worked for me:
- tickle his/her chin while feeding to keep them awake
- change nappy before every feed as this will also prepare them to feed and make them sleep better afterwards
- put something that smells like you in their crib
- try get someone else to rock them to sleep after a good feed. Josh went to sleep beautifully with other people but not with me. I think he could always smell the milk
- go for a walk outside every day. We did from about 3 weeks. I think the fresh air is good for them and josh would always sleep well outside (and it was winter here)
- up until one month we bathed josh every second night and from one month every night (don't use soap every night tho) I think the warm water helps him sleep for longer periods at night too.
- baby wearing (in a sling). I left it too late to try josh in a sling but a lot of my friends swear by it. With baby #2 I will use a sling from day 1.

Whatever I tried though josh would still cluster feed for up to 4 or 5 hours in the evening (non stop!!). i think some babies are sleepers and others aren't. Josh still has days where he has 2 x 15 min naps ALL day! It makes a mother go mad!! But he sleeps well at night now and I would rather he were awake during the day then at night. He has just woken for a feed now after sleeping for 9 1/2 hours! We have also always made a big deal about day and night. Every morning we have a (very dramatic) opening of the curtains and all day feeds are done in the light. We then close the curtains and dim the lighting for bath time and evening feed and have min lighting for all night feeds.

I hope some of this helps. I'm really no expert and I know what works for one baby doesn't necessarily work for another but it doesn't hurt to try different things. I think your babies are just being newborn babies so try not worry too much. It will get better very soon. Xxx

Bazz yay for a birthday bfp!!!

 

[A1983]

Thanks Manny-I will try those things. Did you let Josh fall asleep at the boob? I've read you're supposed to break the association between boob and sleep but its the only way she'll not cry!!

I think my issue is she does eat well-loads of mustard poos and boobs drained but she just wont sleep for more than 10 minutes in the day-and she's exhausted. Im going to take her out every day now. Plus bath in evening-but it's hard to say that will be between 6&8 as if she's been up all day she'll be so grouchy or asleep, and I can't then wake her..but ill try.

Ps do your babied fart a lot too? Nia just did some very loud ones whilst having her nappy changed-she was crying too so more forecful! X

 

[mannymoo]

Josh still only sleeps when he falls asleep on the boob - a bad habit that I am trying to break now. But here they tell you not to worry about bad habits for the first 3 months. He also does LOADS of farting. I normally do bicycles with his legs at least once a day and also gently bring both his legs up to his tummy. It gets rid of all his wind and he is so much happier afterwards. Also Josh's baths were at very random times in the beginning. Only in the last month are they at a more consistent time (between 5 and 6). Just do whatever works for you both now and worry about the bad habits at a later stage

 

[bazzb]

Hi ladies

AF came today so a 40 day cycle-no complaints though it's better than a 127 day one lol

I start my clomid Wednesday-wih me luck!