1st month TTC after a miscarriage

[tankel]

I'm going against dr advise too by ttc before af even showed up. I couldn't find anything that said it was more risky. I just think that if my body is not ready, the egg wont implant and I won't know the difference when af comes to town.

ps congragts again bee bee

 

[.hopeful.one.]

At least I know I'm not the only one. I have done a lot of research and I just don't understand why she said it's best to wait two cycles. The wait has been killing me already!

BeeBee: Yay! Congratulations

 

[Spudtastic]

Bee bee - congratulations that's fantastic

Tankel - I'm sorry to hear what you have been through with the doctors and getting the ultrasound done. They don't offer any here after mc either. I thought I would want one too but I was told that the surgeon who did my erpc takes in a machine and does an ultrasound to check she got everything out. will you be looking for a different doctors?

Cl59 - I could have written your post. My dh drinks and smokes every day. If only my dh had one now and again. I think men don't see how drinking and smoking does affect sperm quality. I actually asked my ob/gyn so I could give dh some facts.

Cd27 here after Erpc. My opks are so white I need my sunglasses to look at them.

Hopeful - two doctors and a respected ob/gyn said I don't need to wait to ttc so if I ovulate I think I may just get some bd in with dh lol.

 

[Spudtastic]

Except dh is away until Sunday now but I don't think I'll o.

 

[Spudtastic]

This is also my first month back TTC after an ectopic in December. I've also had one or two chemicals before that. Just had a HSG test done and doc gave the thumbs up for TTC this month. He also gave me a HCG trigger after ovulating since I had more than one follie ready so I have 2-3 eggs to work with this month. So, I'm feeling really good about it! I am currently 4DPO

Two to three eggs? Twins or triplets perhaps?

 

[bernie86]

My Dr. said 2-3 cycles is best, but if it happens before thats ok too. So we aren't wasting anytime either. Even if nothing happens this month, it makes me feel like we are at least moving forward. I feel like if im not moving forward than Im sitting here dwelling on the loss and I will become depressed. I did not test any OPKs or anything but knowing my body I am pretty positive I ovulated 2 weeks post D&C and I got a BFN last week so I know that I'm clear of any left over HCG. If i don't get AF in the next 2 weeks Ill test again.

 

[tankel]

Tankel - I'm sorry to hear what you have been through with the doctors and getting the ultrasound done. They don't offer any here after mc either. I thought I would want one too but I was told that the surgeon who did my erpc takes in a machine and does an ultrasound to check she got everything out. will you be looking for a different doctors?

I'm gonna go back to a more holistic approach to medicine. I only wanted to get an ultrasound because my dh and my mother really wanted me to. Sucks that it can't be easier to get one if you need it. I know a good midwife for when I conceive again and also my sister is graduating in April (she is a TCM doctor) so I'll have her to help me.

 

[Bee Bee]

This is also my first month back TTC after an ectopic in December. I've also had one or two chemicals before that. Just had a HSG test done and doc gave the thumbs up for TTC this month. He also gave me a HCG trigger after ovulating since I had more than one follie ready so I have 2-3 eggs to work with this month. So, I'm feeling really good about it! I am currently 4DPO

Two to three eggs? Twins or triplets perhaps?

I could only hope! Lol!

 

[tankel]

This is also my first month back TTC after an ectopic in December. I've also had one or two chemicals before that. Just had a HSG test done and doc gave the thumbs up for TTC this month. He also gave me a HCG trigger after ovulating since I had more than one follie ready so I have 2-3 eggs to work with this month. So, I'm feeling really good about it! I am currently 4DPO

Two to three eggs? Twins or triplets perhaps?

I could only hope! Lol!

Oh what I wouldn't do for twins!

 

[Spudtastic]

Tankel - that sounds better witht the midwife and your sister. Actually that will be amazing to have your sister help you. I will be changing my midwife if I get pregnant again. She delivered my dd and was good but I'm disappointed in how she dealt with my miscarriages and any relationship we had is gone from my point of view. After my mmc she didn't tell me to do anything nor did she refer me to the early pregnancy loss clinic. I had no idea. It was only because I went to the doctors two weeks after the scan that showed baby had died was I given information and the care I should have been having. I went to the doctors for something else and I just had no idea. thw midwife never even texted or called to see if I had miscarried yet either. I know that that is not her job but even a phone call a week would have been appreciated.

Bee bee - keep us updated. Will you get a six week scan?

Bernie - well said. Im not worried about getting pregnant this first cycle either but I'm more positive if I think it could happen also.

 

[tankel]

Tankel - that sounds better witht the midwife and your sister. Actually that will be amazing to have your sister help you. I will be changing my midwife if I get pregnant again. She delivered my dd and was good but I'm disappointed in how she dealt with my miscarriages and any relationship we had is gone from my point of view. After my mmc she didn't tell me to do anything or referred me to the early pregnancy loss clinic. I had no idea. It was only because I went to the doctors two weeks after the scan that showed baby had died was I given information and the care I should have been having. I went to the doctors for something else and I juat had no idea. thw midwife never even texted or called to see if I had miscarried yet.

My Midwife was the same. I told her I was bleeding and she disappeared. She texted me 3 days later to ask me if I needed anything. It was awful. The midwife I want to get for my next is the one that helped me through my MC when the midwife I paid abandoned me.

 

[Spudtastic]

Tankel - that is awful too. I felt so abandoned too. This new midwife sounds good though. I hope I can find a good one next time.

 

[.hopeful.one.]

I don't understand how any medical professional could leave you to fend for yourself during that time! That's awful.
I call my doctor more than I'd like to admit but they're always there to answer my questions.

 

[tankel]

from what I hear, it happens a lot with midwives. I wrote mine a long letter telling her how disappointed I was with her.

 

[Spudtastic]

Well done tankel. Perhaps I should do the same.

 

[Blu10]

Hi ladies can I join please? Sadly beanie died between 7/8 weeks and I had ERPC on Friday. I'm classing Friday as CD1 and WTT

 

[Spudtastic]

Hi blu - how are you doing? I can't remember if you said or not in the other thread, but are you going to try to ttc straight away? Are you doing hpts to get a bfn?
The last frer I did was nearly two weeks ago. I reckon I'm going to get one soon to see if I can one. I'm sure I will. The last one was a barely there line.

Dh is away until Sunday so if I did happen to o then there's no ttc before af anyway.

 

[Bee Bee]

Tankel - that sounds better witht the midwife and your sister. Actually that will be amazing to have your sister help you. I will be changing my midwife if I get pregnant again. She delivered my dd and was good but I'm disappointed in how she dealt with my miscarriages and any relationship we had is gone from my point of view. After my mmc she didn't tell me to do anything nor did she refer me to the early pregnancy loss clinic. I had no idea. It was only because I went to the doctors two weeks after the scan that showed baby had died was I given information and the care I should have been having. I went to the doctors for something else and I just had no idea. thw midwife never even texted or called to see if I had miscarried yet either. I know that that is not her job but even a phone call a week would have been appreciated.

Bee bee - keep us updated. Will you get a six week scan?

Bernie - well said. Im not worried about getting pregnant this first cycle either but I'm more positive if I think it could happen also.

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I have no idea yet. At this point I'm just going to see how my HCG doubles for the next few days lol. With my ectopic I only got to the second bloodtest before I found out I was losing it. I know I am going to go midwife once I know things are looking good but I might go through my RE for scans for a bit

 

[tankel]

Awe sorry to hear about your loss blu. Your in the right place though.

 

[KozmikKitten]

Congrats on the BFP Bee Bee! I really hope its a sticky rainbow for you!

Anyone still planning on testing in February? I *could* test next week Monday. I might, because that is the day I have my genetic counseling apt. But it would be really early and likely a bfn anyway...Otherwise I would expect AF around the 25th/26th.