2011 - The Year Of The Baby!!

[SillyMoo]

Our letter was quite strong and put across the points relating to IVF not being a luxury cos infertlity is an illness and not something we inflicted on ourselves. In their response they said that they have stopped all non-urgent treatments including (as an example)gastric banding and hip(hop) operations on people that smoke or have high BMIs.....

We are just really lucky that we are currently able to afford to pay for 2 cycles (thank god for DHs bonus).

Will have a think about what to call this thread, but you arent leaving us are you Rach?

x

 

[SillyMoo]

(Rach, Surrey PCT stopped IVF funding completely in November, we had our referral consultation in December and missed out by a couple of weeks)

 

[rachelle1975]

Ahh got it... see i'm just a fat bugger who weighed 5lb too much so that's why Roehampton cancelled my cycle after BCP and DR.... bumholes the lot of them.... but i'm not bitter

I'm going nowhere... but equally i don't want to outstay my welcome if you know what i mean!! xxxx

 

[Misscheifmake]

Rach - you can never outstay your welcome. You are with us with us till the end! lol x

We were so lucky as originally we got transferred to Kingston PCT in error and it took me 4 months to argue it back to Surrey - difference between one paid and two paid cycles so was definately worth the argument. We haven't got the money to pay at the moment. We only got approved in October so scraped it by a few weeks.

It makes me so angry as infertility is just not in the same category. Surely all it takes is a little empaphy to understand how devastating this is and one treatment can mean all the difference. Rant over!

 

[rachelle1975]

Must admit we have horrific credit card bills after the treatment.. I got a sainsburys Nectar credit card & now have enough points for a free trip to Bruges!! Just can't afford spending money

 

[rachelle1975]

Thread title changed.... PMA all the way!!x

 

[SillyMoo]

Whoop Whoop!! PMA is here to stay! Thanks for changing it.

Youll always be welcome here, we have all been through this together and will continue too.

Sunshine I hope you are ok, thinking of you lots x

5lbs over and they cancelled your treatment, really?!? Thats awful :'( My BMI was 36.6 when we first realised we needed IVF and then we missed the funding cos it took me so long to lose it - I feel totally responsible for our debt and the fact that the bonus will go on IVF and not a holiday for DH.

xx

 

[rachelle1975]

You & me both Silly... I was 38 and got down to a BMI of 30 but they forgot to weigh me until 6 weeks into treatment & so they cancelled it saying the anaesthetic wouldn't be good with my weight! Went to the lister having gained half a stone and they said it wasn't a problem... My BMI is 35 now after 2 treatments so I'm not planning on eating for 2 but I am planning on joining WW in October and doing lots of fresh air pram pushing!!x

 

[Misscheifmake]

You girlies have done so well with your losses - altho what difference does the BMI really make and differs from clinic to clinic, another stupid NHS thing!!

Loving the new title - yay with the PMA )

 

[Misscheifmake]

Sunshine, how you doing? Thinking of you xx

 

[mrssunshine78]

I'm feeling really sad and empty, keep crying. And to make matters worse one of my friends text yesterday to say she's preg again! This is shaping up to be the worst week ever this is friend number 3 who will have had 2 babies in time we've been ttc, I'm just getting so sick of it all

Sorry for the rant, please forgive me

 

[Wallie]

I'm feeling really sad and empty, keep crying. And to make matters worse one of my friends text yesterday to say she's preg again! This is shaping up to be the worst week ever this is friend number 3 who will have had 2 babies in time we've been ttc, I'm just getting so sick of it all

Sorry for the rant, please forgive me

No-one will ever blame you. You have every reason to be upset and this is just like sticking the knife into you. I'm SO sorry!

 

[Misscheifmake]

I'm feeling really sad and empty, keep crying. And to make matters worse one of my friends text yesterday to say she's preg again! This is shaping up to be the worst week ever this is friend number 3 who will have had 2 babies in time we've been ttc, I'm just getting so sick of it all

Sorry for the rant, please forgive me

Forgive you for what sweets? We all understand xx

Believe me i was a walking crying machine last week, but you will find the strength to move forward and somehow to do it all over again. Shield yourselves from your real life friends when you need to, i have and i am now at the point where i don't care if they get it or not. If they love me they will support me as i would them.

Just take lots of time and look after yourself. Remember your hormones are completely shot at the moment as well so if you want to scream, shout and cry just do it. And those that matter will understand.

Thinking of you

 

[rachelle1975]

:wave: ladies

I think you are all so incredibly brave, i really do. I just avoided this forum and it's pregnancy announcements and didn't leave the house for 2 months... i think i let the despair really get to me rather than trying to be logical.

You are all so wonderful and i'm so sorry that you all had to go through this. Life is very unfair and it sucks ass big time.

I just hope that you all get through this, come out the other side and that 2011 might have started off a bit cruddy but it will definitely end with much happier news

xxxxxxxxx

 

[Misscheifmake]

Hey guys, Just a quick note to say that I hope everyone is ok and holding up? xx

I'm definately in a PMA kind of mood at the moment and thinking that 2011 is going to end as being a GREAT year for us all! x

 

[mrssunshine78]

loving your PMA!!

i just want tomorrow out of the way, and then the bleeding to commence, i think only then will i be able to draw a line under this shitty experience. i'm still struggling with everything, crying lots and just feeling so emotional

anyway weight watchers begins on wednesday, i haven't got lots to lose, about a stone and i'd be very happy.

hope everyone is ok xx

 

[mrssunshine78]

taken a leaf out of your book misscheif, have updated my journal

rachelle am loving your blueberry!!

 

[SillyMoo]

Love you all LOTS, we havent had the easiest time but it WILL happen for all of us. Saw a hypnotist the other day and she said that PMA is a really powerful thing and best of all its FREE!!!

Sunshine, I will be thinking of you tomorrow and have secretly got my fingers crossed for some good news for you.

xxx

 

[mrssunshine78]

Thanks silly

 

[Wallie]

Yeh I'm hoping you have a miracle there Mrs S and you have good news tomorrow. Must be awful being in limbo, at least I know I'm out and that's bad enough.