2021 GD support thread.

Discussion in 'Gender Disappointment' started by motherofboys, Feb 12, 2021.

  1. topazicatzbet

    topazicatzbet mummy to 3 boys

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    I found all the supplements messed with my cm i have usually fallen pregnant with in 3 months but it took us 7 this time and I gave up the supplements after month 5. This one was concieved from bd cd 11 night and I ovulated cd 14 early hours and is still a boy. I'm glad I tried the swaying though as I ve no regrets now. I'm just hoping my sister has a girl when they get round to kids. Then I can do the girly bit with my niece but miss out on the hormones. Lol.
     
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  2. motherofboys

    motherofboys Home educating, TTC-ing, crazy mum of 5 boys!

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    It's taken me longer to fall pregnant each time. The last time took 3.5 years. I had tried to sway, given up, tried again, started exercise and injured myself so just went with diet. Which I had been doing several months when he was conceived. I've had anything from day to O to 5 days before O and thinking for sure I would be out because no way would I get pregnant that far out.
    I don't think it helps that I go back and forth between "I really need to sway hard to get this girl, I need her so much" to "what's the point, it didn't work last time, it won't work this time, and I don't even feel like I need a girl any more" :haha: I just can not picture it happening any more. When I think about the future baby I see a boy. Obviously if I had a girl I would be ecstatic and I know I will have periods where I desperately want a girl again before I fall pregnant and if I don't get a girl, so am trying to stick to it but it's finding the time and motivation for the exercise that I have issues with.
     
  3. jellybeanxx

    jellybeanxx NTNP #4

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    I think that’s one of my issues as well, it always takes me ages to get pregnant so I’m worried that swaying will reduce my chances.
    My 3 lads have all been from quite frequent BDing lol. Mostly because we were just desperate to conceive! I’ve never swayed with any of them. I’ve also been in the process of losing weight when I got pregnant with the youngest two.
    At the moment, I’m trying less frequent BDs (mostly because we don’t have much time to ourselves anyway :haha: ) and taking magnesium, calcium and cinnamon. I want to try the LE diet as well but I’m struggling to be motivated for it! I’ve just started taking conceive plus ovulation support as well as my periods seem to have stopped again (PCOS) which obviously isn’t going to help.
    It’s just a minefield! Trying to balance giving swaying a good shot with actually getting pregnant.
    I’ve read the chances of having a girl increase as you get older so there’s that too. I’d honestly be happy with another boy but I’d still like to try…
     
  4. motherofboys

    motherofboys Home educating, TTC-ing, crazy mum of 5 boys!

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    Yes I heard that about getting older. I suppose from July I'll count as "advanced maternal age" or whatever they are calling it now, so I'll have that haha
    I found the calorie side of LE really difficult. I did change my eating pattern, no snacking, and cut meat last time.
    With ds4 I had taken vitamin b6 to get my lp back to a length where it was even possible, to fall pregnant and then discovered afterwards that b6 can sway boy. It's really hard to give yourself a good chance of falling pregnant without taking years, while also swaying girl.
    But then I keep looking at my friends and thinking "well you weren't doing this or that, you were using these fertility boosting things and you got girls" one friend has 3 girls and 1 boy and had always done basically the opposite to a girl sway without realising it.
     
  5. IsabellaJayne

    IsabellaJayne Mum of 2 girls, pregnant with baby GIRL #3

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    I’ve just found out that my third baby is a girl (well sneak peek is 99% sure it is, I will have a scan to confirm) but I feel like I’m mourning the loss of a son! I really wanted a son and always have. I love having 2 girls close together but I do felt now was the time for a boy. I guess it isn’t meant to be! And then when I say this out loud, I feel like I’m selfish and ungrateful and should be happy regardless of the gender
     
  6. Bevziibubble

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  7. topazicatzbet

    topazicatzbet mummy to 3 boys

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    You don't have to feel bad about saying that here. We all understand. I def feel like I ve grieved the idea of a daughter in the past and was so scared to go through that again. Thankfully I accepted that I'm never gonna have a daughter much easier this time round.
     
  8. motherofboys

    motherofboys Home educating, TTC-ing, crazy mum of 5 boys!

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    Don't feel bad, you can't control how you feel about something. Yes we all want a healthy baby at the end of the day, but we are allowed to have a preference too.
     
  9. motherofboys

    motherofboys Home educating, TTC-ing, crazy mum of 5 boys!

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    We are taking a short break from TTC as I've applied for a job and don't want to rock up on my first day like "BTW I'm pregnant" so I'm going to use this time to concentrate on getting a sway going I think. I've been rubbish so far stopping and starting but I also realised how much weight I've put on the other day, and a girl sway will help with that too, so I'm going to give it a go.
     
  10. Bevziibubble

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    Good luck with everything :)
     
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  11. jellybeanxx

    jellybeanxx NTNP #4

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    @IsabellaJayne don’t feel bad, this is the place to be able to say all that without judgement and with as much support as you need :hugs:

    @motherofboys good luck in your new job! I’ve been reading about how it’s best to start some of the swaying stuff before even TTC so now would be a perfect time for you!
    I’m still trying to get control of the diet part of my sway. It’s so difficult!
     
  12. motherofboys

    motherofboys Home educating, TTC-ing, crazy mum of 5 boys!

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    Yes! It's the toughest part. Once I get going with the exercise then it's fine. One problem we have as well is all the timing/abstain vs frequent release stuff too. Due to DH age he should not abstain due to sperm quality, although all my boys are the result of accidental abstain so I'm not sure how much that really matters, frequent release (so every day) is best, but I've never managed to fall pregnant with him frequently releasing, so was advised on the Gender Dreaming site to carry on "as normal" but then have 1 attempt in the fertile window at +opk. Which is more like boy timing, but it's easier to pin down that 3/4 days before ovulation when your cycles are all over the place. But I don't opk any more as I can become quite obsessive. And I know how little timing really effects things as all my boys have different timing. So I go round in circles as to whether I should be worrying any of that at all.
    Due to attempting to do the diet so many times over the years and no being able to stick with it fully I don't really wat breakfast any more.
    Last time I went Veggie and no snacking between meals, but replaced eating in the morning with eating at night, so still 3 meals. But looking back my calories would have been way over. This time I've been on and off with calories. I just can't seem to stick to it.
     
  13. jellybeanxx

    jellybeanxx NTNP #4

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    I’m not sure what to think about all the timing. We’ve always struggled to conceive but when I have got pregnant it’s basically been what would be considered frequent release. Usually at least once a day throughout my cycle!
    DH was tested back in 2012 so a lot could have changed I guess but back then he had a very high count but really low morphology (2% normal) so I think frequent release was better for us fertility wise anyway.
    The more I read, the more I think the key is finding a personalised approach. There are so many contradictions because everyone’s bodies are different so the same things won’t always work. For us I think the key is lowering testosterone in both of us (I have PCOS) so I’ve been gearing my supplements towards that and I know losing more weight will help too. I also feel like I should be trying to do some things the opposite to how we’ve conceived our boys. So maybe less frequency.
    I know meat free diets are meant to sway girl but I’ve been veggie for all our boys but have just started eating meat again after 20 years (personal choice, non of it had to do with TTC) so I’m feeling conflicted about that too!

    It’s such a minefield! I know what you mean about the OPKs as well. I’m trying to avoid all that too so I don’t become obsessive about TTC again but I feel like I’m just transferring all that into swaying now :haha:
     
  14. motherofboys

    motherofboys Home educating, TTC-ing, crazy mum of 5 boys!

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    It's hard not to obsess. And apparently obsessing or even being competitive raises your testosterone so its like Aahhhh! I even stopped wearing pedometer watch as I was "in competition" with myself trying to get more and more steps in. I bought scales to try to lose weight then realised regular weighing would have the same effect.
     
  15. jellybeanxx

    jellybeanxx NTNP #4

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    Ahh no way! I had no idea! I’m so competitive :blush:
     
  16. motherofboys

    motherofboys Home educating, TTC-ing, crazy mum of 5 boys!

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    I mean, I don't know how much stock I put in each individual part of it, but that's what I've been told :haha: I didn't realise I was until I started taking notice really
     
  17. jellybeanxx

    jellybeanxx NTNP #4

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    It would explain so much for me :haha:
     
  18. motherofboys

    motherofboys Home educating, TTC-ing, crazy mum of 5 boys!

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