Trying for #1 is right!
At first, it was a "lets start trying because it may take a while".
Now its a "I want to be pregnant now" and I'm sad that I'm not!
Mind you we've been trying for just 3 months.
My boyfriend is paralyzed though. Only just discovered he could ejaculate. Chances are he has low motility, but we don't know for sure.
We have been using turkey baster method. I also have had irregular periods for many years, ironically, they regulated as soon as we started ttc. I still have not pinpointed my ovulation, but we just use the "fertile week" as best we can.
His urologist has already sent us a referral to a fertility clinic here in BC.
Its just a matter of waiting, and trying while waiting.
And money...money will play a factor when it comes to assisted conception!