gingerroxi
Waiting for IVF-4 YEARS!!
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I thought I would come over to the LTTTC section. I fear this is going to be a long post so if you read this then get comfy
I've been TTC for 22 months now and have just officially been put on my area's IVF waiting list - mainly because the nurse dropped me a bombshell on the phone: the waiting list is 4 YEARS The nurse figures that she'll see me in a year, then give me 6 months of clomid and then if still no baby then when the IVF team sees me I've been on the list for 18 months.
I currently fit in to the "unexplained" category and I think that's almost worse. I've been praying that there was something wrong with my tubes or anything because that would have explained why after almost 2 years we're still not pregnant and at least it could have been something that could get fixed. Don't get me wrong. I'm glad I'm fine but that doesn't help me feel better - If I'm so fine, why can't I get pregnant??
The fertility nurse keeps going on about my weight. I'm not the slimmest gal in the world but I have recently lost 2 stone (28lbs). All the nurse can say to me is you need to lose another 2 stone if you want to get IVF. I'll do what I have to but I've seen other women in my family that are massively heavier than me and they all have at least 2 kids. How is that fair?? I think that because I don't smoke, drink and have nothing physically wrong with me, my weight is all that the nurse can pick on
So all I can do now is play the EXTREMELY LONG waiting game and hope that one day it'll happen. My OH and I have pretty much given up trying because we feel that there's little chance that we're going to get pregnant.
How do you cope with this?