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[addie25]

I think I will have the girls clean up after themselves from a young age. My parents did everything for me (not really cleaning up after me) but they did everything else for me and when I got married I didn't know how to do laundry and I hated opening up my mail bc my dad always took care of my mail and so on. I LOVEDDDDD that they did everything lol but I became a bit lazy because of it. My dad would wake up early, make my lunch (even in high school) and if it was snowing he would go clean off my car and heat it up for me. SOOOOO LOVELY!!!!! I want the girls to be a bit more independent. One thing tho is I always liked making my own money to buy my own things so at least I had that going for me I started a babysitting business when I was 12 and by the time I was 14 I was babysitting for 8 families!!

Wow addie..you and I had exact opposite upbringings. We were a single parent family, so it was just me, my mum and my sister so standing on ones own two feet was done out of necessity rather than choice. I am glad though because although not idyllic like yours, my childhood taught me many valuable life lessons

wow Addie your dad loves you lots to go out in the snow lol
mine was similar to yours Kit but i was with my dad when he lived in U.K and with my nan when he lived in Canada, when we lived in Canada (this is going to sound awful) but my dad was off gigging/working to support us, and left our cousin in charge, who wasnt very well mentally and we were left on our own to fend for ourselves, my older sister was 12 at the time, thats the main reason we had to come back to the U.K as my dad couldnt work and look after us, so we moved in with nan and she looked after everything we needed, which was different, i helped out and worked in a nursing home from 14 til i was 16, then moved out

Parents have to do what they have to do. I didn't see my dad 2 often just in the mornings really bc he would get home really late after work. He was around most weekends tho bc he was at almost all my sport games but during the week I saw him in the am and then if I was up late at night.

 

[mummyApril]

Its all good now, well apart from fear of pregnancy! Basically I had to sit and agree to our whole year of having emma-marking dates, booking holiday cover etc. I did this and hated it because it feels so restrictive, but I know it needs doing...then her mum alters EVERY holiday by a day or so, out of what seems to be sheer awkwardness. We agree-she changes it again. We finalise plans-she complains it will be hard for her to have her ''much needed and deserved holiday. It is two weeks Ed, I work very hard and need child free time'' (quote from email) she is using her work holiday to be away from Emma, despite leaving her with au pair 10 days a fortnight and we have her for two!! I shrug this off, and say no, we will stick to our dates.
She then emails asking about CSA payment-she is entitled to £20 a month based on eds income, amount of time em stays here, other kids etc...she wants 80, says she really wanted 100 but is prepared to be accomodating, being that they earn considerably more than us....8 times more roughly.
So i tell ed that no, we should pay £20 as CSA worked out...no. he thinks if he doesn't pay, she won't drive to meet us.
We then basically get to a point where I tell him I can't deal with having NO money whilst he is paying 4 times what he should-i am not a money orientated person, but when it is at a point that we can no longer afford to save for wedding, to go on little caravan holiday, or buy ourselves (not kids, they get what they need) shoes-then we should not be going to this expense. He says I am being unreasonable and forcing him to decide between me and emma-NOooooo.
Dumbass. So after me telling him I won't be second rate it all finally clicks-he gets it, tells her she'll have to go through CSA, he is happy to pay his dues but would rather use the extra so we can all do something fun-her reply? ''We'll see, I think you'll be sorry'' bitch.
Soooo....that's what's been up. If it sounds petty...sorry. lol.

can i give this vile woman a slap?

 

[mummyApril]

seriously need to eat healthy each day, sick of feeling ill

 

[emandi]

Lissy, the woman is pure evil! Poor Emma .

Sarachka, for you

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Childrens-...341?s=kitchen&ie=UTF8&qid=1331395108&sr=1-341

 

[addie25]

LUNA I registered can you approve me so I get on the new page please Im excited to check it out!!

 

[poas]

Feel free apes! Lol.
She is vile, my in laws are over and said she asked if they want Emma in the summer or if they want to pay for some au pair time lol. Ah well. Off to play with h and esme, love you all

 

[LunaLady]

sorry, addie- i just woke up so i need to feed the baby and have breakfast myself before i can sit down to do that. i'll be as quick as i can

 

[addie25]

sorry, addie- i just woke up so i need to feed the baby and have breakfast myself before i can sit down to do that. i'll be as quick as i can

Take your time I just wanted you to know I joined so you could approve me no rush.

 

[mummyApril]

oooh im in pain right now

 

[addie25]

Whats wrong April??

 

[LunaLady]

sorry, addie- i just woke up so i need to feed the baby and have breakfast myself before i can sit down to do that. i'll be as quick as i can

Take your time I just wanted you to know I joined so you could approve me no rush.

Yep, i got an e-mail from everyone who joined.

I just went through and approved everyone who joined, so feel free to look around. I want the move to be easy and natural and everything, so if we end up still chatting here a few days as we transition I think that's totally fine. Whatever is easiest for us.

 

[LunaLady]

B, I made that forum because both Sarah's Inner Sanctum was going to be dissolving and because there seemed to be a collective want to make our chatter more private. I certainly wasn't meaning to make it a substitute for BnB - just simply a place for just us turtles to chat. I don't know if I misunderstood - but I made our new forum as a replacement for this thread so that we'd have a private place to continue our chatting, and I thought that was what everyone wanted. We can use the new forum however the group wants to, though, so if we end up wanted to just keep our chatting here then that's fine, too.

 

[HollyMonkey]

Hi dudes, been doing some light gardening! Will attempt a catch up!! Hey Lissy I think our men have the same ex!!!

 

[LunaLady]

Okay, off to eat/feed... I will be back in a bit

 

[addie25]

So on the new page someone has to start a thread it is not just pop open and the convo flows?? I am really bad with computers so just want to make sure I am not missing the chatting on that page bc I can't find it.

 

[mummyApril]

Addie after doing the girls room my scar is really hurting im trying to relax but with a 7 month old on the go its not so easy :/

 

[HollyMonkey]

B, I made that forum because both Sarah's Inner Sanctum was going to be dissolving and because there seemed to be a collective want to make our chatter more private. I certainly wasn't meaning to make it a substitute for BnB - just simply a place for just us turtles to chat. I don't know if I misunderstood - but I made our new forum as a replacement for this thread so that we'd have a private place to continue our chatting, and I thought that was what everyone wanted. We can use the new forum however the group wants to, though, so if we end up wanted to just keep our chatting here then that's fine, too.

I like bnb But I'll just follow the herd https://smileys.sur-la-toile.com/repository/Animaux/mouton_corde.gif So long as there are smileys in the new place though!!

 

[LunaLady]

So on the new page someone has to start a thread it is not just pop open and the convo flows?? I am really bad with computers so just want to make sure I am not missing the chatting on that page bc I can't find it.

Addie, the chatting is in the top forum where it says "Chattery".

Open that and then there are few 'sticky' threads with pertinent info and then a thread that says 'March 2012 Chit Chat' - that's the new conversation thread.

I had the idea to have our conversation flow through monthly threads (just start up a new one on the 1st of each month and then pick up where we left off from the last thread) as a way to help keep things a little organized and easier for us to look back and re-read whenever we want. If that sounds like a bad idea to anyone, just let me know.

 

[LunaLady]

B, I made that forum because both Sarah's Inner Sanctum was going to be dissolving and because there seemed to be a collective want to make our chatter more private. I certainly wasn't meaning to make it a substitute for BnB - just simply a place for just us turtles to chat. I don't know if I misunderstood - but I made our new forum as a replacement for this thread so that we'd have a private place to continue our chatting, and I thought that was what everyone wanted. We can use the new forum however the group wants to, though, so if we end up wanted to just keep our chatting here then that's fine, too.

I like bnb But I'll just follow the herd https://smileys.sur-la-toile.com/repository/Animaux/mouton_corde.gif So long as there are smileys in the new place though!!

Well, like I said - if the new place just totally sucks we don't have to use it for anything other than keeping our addresses/contact info secure.

I moved a large portion of the BnB smileys over there. I will continue working on moving more in little spurts as I can.

 

[LunaLady]

Addie, I deleted the thread you started so it doesn't confuse - but I set up the March 2012 chat thread so that's where we can start chatting. Does that make sense?