3 failed IUIs. How do you cope?

[StayHopeful]

Congrats, Chris!

It definitely helped put my mind at ease when I could feel the baby move. I kept getting that reassurance that he was doing ok.

 

[Chris_25]

Thank you! I went to the doctor every single week for an ultrasound throughout my pregnancy just for the reassurance! I was pretty crazy lol

 

[moni77]

Scan went great today, I've graduated from the RE. First appointment with the reg ob next week.

 

[Dini]

Scan went great today, I've graduated from the RE. First appointment with the reg ob next week.

Congrats!!! That's so exciting

 

[WillowGrace]

Chris, congrats!!!! You will get sleep one day, I promise!
Moni, congrats to you, too on graduating from the RE.


Update on me. Last update was we were going to give one last IUI cycle 5 a try then doc. recommended moving on to IVF with ICSI next.


My last shot IUI was on the 13th. I had NO hope at all. When the doc came in and did the insemination I was just at peace and said to here you know I'm just really happy knowing we have a plan after this one is done. I'm feeling good. So September 29th I went for my Beta test.



It was 154 WHOA, I'm pregnant!!! It worked!!!!! Holy Moly OH MY STARS!!!

Beta#2 on the 1st was 324 Beta #3 on the 3rd was 744

No more blood work! I'm now waiting for my ultrasound on the 13th. I still can't believe it!

 

[summer2011]

Congrats WillowGrace!! Fab news

 

[Dini]

Willow I'm so very happy for you!! Please keep us posted!!!

 

[SashimiMimi]

Oh Willow that's amazing!!! So glad you followed you gut and went for the iui!

 

[PinkPeony]

Yay Willow!! Happy for you! I love when IUI's work for people.

 

[moni77]

Yay Willow!!!!

 

[Maverick007]

Chris, congrats on your little one! It sounds like you are both doing great!

Moni, how exciting that you are graduating to your OB!! I'm so glad all is going well.

WillowGrace that's awesome!! I almost never hear of IUIs working so that is so exciting, congrats!! Thank goodness you went for it!

To everyone else, I hope you are all feeling good...

Not much is new over here, my little one is doing well but she's just getting her first couple teeth so she's not too happy!

 

[StayHopeful]

Congrats, Willow!

 

[WillowGrace]

So we had an ultrasound on Tuesday at 6 weeks and a few days. RE says that the positioning of the sac is in a good place and everything looks pretty good, but no heartbeat at this ultrasound. They said it could be early, so they are having me coming back in on Monday. He also added all early pregnancies don't last, which really has me worried he even felt the need to say that. I'm very aware of that and it kind of made me walk out of there feeling---uneasy.

I am not spotting or having back pain or any other indication that the pregnancy is not viable, but it could still not be viable if there is no heartbeat at this next ultrasound.

I am hopeful that Monday will bring good news, but I am also mentally prepared that Monday I may hear bad news. I am experiencing some symptoms of pregnancy like: headache, fatigue, bloating, weird cravings, some food aversions. I am not experiencing as much nausea as I was expecting.

 

[Piper183]

Willow---Congratulations! I pray that you receive great news on Monday & are able to hear your baby's heartbeat soon!

 

[Dini]

Fingers crossed for you willow! They found a hb on my baby at 6w4d, well that's what baby measured but I knew I was 6w6d at the time. I know lots of people on here don't see the hb until about 7 weeks so I'm praying for a strong heartbeat Monday!

 

[summer2011]

Give it a couple more days Willow. I think we saw the heartbeat at 6w2d. A day or 2 may make all the difference.

 

[WillowGrace]

Thank you ladies for all of your kind words it really means so much!

I had my ultrasound this morning. The doctor prepared me before they did the scan that he didn't want me to have any expectations and many early pregnancies do not last.

They did the scan and did find a heartbeat this time. The conversation quickly became very unsettling. The doctor is not happy with the baby's growth. I am 7 weeks and the baby is measuring 6 weeks 4 days and the heart beat is only 88 bpm. He said at 7 weeks it should be around 110. We left being told this probably was not a viable pregnancy and to mentally prepare ourselves. They want us to come back next Monday to check and see if the baby has a big growth spurt, but they don't seem to think that is what will happen. They also said to call if I have any bleeding or want to talk but this was not a good visit and everything is NOT okay.

I am feeling blindsided. I am feeling lots of symptoms of pregnancy. I can't button my pants, I'm unbelievably exhausted, I'm having weird cravings, food aversions, headaches, and some nausea. I don't get it.

I feel gutted. I don't know what to think. On one hand I'm so happy they were honest. I prefer an honest professional conversation vs. a sugar coated version. I am also feeling so unbelievably disappointed and sad.

More of my coworkers have announced their pregnancies in the last few weeks. One of which is a week ahead of me. She and I work very closely and I just don't know how I'm going to handle seeing her go on in her pregnancy if this does not progress for me. I have not told people at work only my boss. I'm so so unbelievably happy for everyone, but my heart is aching even more than ever now. UGH.

 

[Maverick007]

Willowgrace, I am so sorry for what you are going through. I completely understand your fear and anxiety about this...sometimes doctors don't deliver the news with very much empathy or heart . But because it is still fairly early, try to keep the faith that the little one will pull through - so much can happen in those first weeks and doctors do not know everything. Also, just a few days off in measurement does not seem to be a big deal from everything I've read and been told by doctors but of course I'm no expert. I am not trying to sugar coat anything for you, but I do believe that hope will be good for you and the babe. If I could give you a hug and a shoulder to cry on I would!! Hang in there.

 

[summer2011]

I agree. My specialist says measuring within 5 days is fine. At one point my babe measured -3 days and my docs were ok with that. At the next scan babe measured +1 day. I have no idea what the heartrate should be as they didnt measure it for me at all. Everything crossed for you hun. Sometimes docs can be so negative

 

[SashimiMimi]

Willow im so sorry that you had a stressful visit. I get really annoyed when doctors are so matter of fact and wish they had better bedside manner. They forget what it's like for women who struggle and I know that this must be a massive stress for you.

But the great news is that there is a heartbeat!! So you aren't out of the woods and I hope you can find a way to relax as much as you can. I'm sending you lots of positive thoughts. And I agree with the other ladies, it's always seemed normal to measure a few days behind and I'm not sure why they feel it's a big deal. You're feeling pregnant and there is a heartbeat so that means your little bean is in there!

If you can, I highly suggest you download a pregnancy meditation by Glenn Harrold called Joyful Pregnancy. This is something that has really helped me in times of pregnancy fear and uncertainty. I found it in the iTunes store and have it right on my iPhone. It has really helped a lot... (Especially now, I've been going through some genetic counselling for this pregnancy and my doctor got me a little worried. She was concerned about my NT scan results, the genetic counsellor said she wasn't concerned, then i received a letter in error from the genetic people saying I was in fact at high risk for genetic abnormalities. So I feel like I've been through the ringer. I'm waiting in results of a blood test and I'll feel a lot better after that.) I also had a scare with my son's heart at 18 weeks that turned out to be nothing. So it seems that doctors set you up for the worst case scenario and then it's fine!!!

Anyway, willow I can only imagine the stress you are going through. Often these babies pull through and defy all odds. I know they are trying to set you up for the worst scenario but they also said you could have a major growth spurt. I'm praying for you and your baby. This is not the end of the road yet. Try that pregnancy meditation, it has really helped me relax. Also I'm sorry you have to agonize a whole week. We are all here if you need to vent and express your fears. I'm sure pregnancies at work are the last thing you want to deal with!!

Big hugs to you!!!