3 failed IUIs. How do you cope?

[StayHopeful]

And Strawberry, you're not out yet! Some pregnancy symptoms can be a lot like AF symptoms. FX for you!

 

[Strawberry13]

Ohh you're so close! Hang in there and keep drinking that Gatorade!

 

[StayHopeful]

ER set for Wed!

 

[Maverick007]

So happy for you Stay!! Finally the big day is here!

How is everybody doing this week? Strawberry do you have your pg test tomorrow? I hope no news is good news, we need some success around here soon!

Barbikins, Orchid, how are you guys holding up? Do you have a plan yet for next cycle?

Pink that is awesome you are starting soon! I just started my BCPs a week ago so I still have another week to go. Good news though, I just learned my insurance is covering my IVF meds! Well, 80% at least. So there is one good thing that happened this week. The IVF nurse at my clinic is amazing and spent two hours on the phone with Aetna with at least six different people telling her "no" and then finally finding out that actually, my policy does cover the meds. Thank god for her, otherwise I'd have never known.

 

[Strawberry13]

Wow that's great that insurance will cover the meds. i have Aetna too so I'm gonna look into that! You are well under way with the process now... So stims start on in a week or 2? So soon!

Stay- good luck tomorrow! Let us know how it goes and how many eggs they get.

I took my beta today and will get results tmo morning but def feeling like I'm getting AF tomorrow. I will keep you guys posted.

 

[StayHopeful]

GL, Strawberry!

 

[Maverick007]

Yes I'm hoping to start stims on the 20th!

 

[Bma11]

Stayhopeful- GOOD LUCK TODAY! You will feel so much relief after they get those eggs out!! FX for good quality eggs! I'm so excited for you.

Strawberry- FX for you!

Maverick- glad your insurance covers some of the meds. So did mine and it helped a ton. Remember add up all the costs of fertility treatments and meds so you can use it on your taxes! I'm excited for you to get started!!! It will go by so fast.

 

[barbikins]

Strawberry, good luck! have you taken a pregnancy test at home?

Maverick, no major plans...will be doing another IUI. It will happen some time early next week. If it doesn't work out, we try on our own for August & then back to IUI.

 

[PinkPeony]

Good luck Strawberry!!

How are you feeling Stayhopeful? Have you had any side effects from the meds?

 

[Strawberry13]

Thanks everyone! Unfortunately I got my bfn yesterday. On to the next cycle... this month they're going to try letrezol (sp?) instead of clomid. If that fails I'm hoping to do ivf the next cycle as my consult is in August.

Stay how did it go today? Give us the update when you're feeling up to it.

Bma how are you feeling?

Barb good luck, do you know how many follicles you have now?

 

[Orchid6]

Hi strawberry, I'm sorry to hear about the bfn *hug* hang in there.

My update, SIL shower wasn't as bad as I expected. The hardest part was the anxiety and paranoia that i had built up within me. I subconsciously had set a personal milestone to her shower, deep down I thought I would have been pregnant by her shower and it was because of her shower that i was so aggressive with my treatments. Hope that makes sense Oh well c'est la vie, it is what it is, onwards and upwards.

I have my RE appt this afternoon, he replied to my email and thinks that we are unexplained and that it could be an egg quality issue [my amh (2.4 ng/ml. normal for my age -31, fsh is 4.5, antral follicle count is 16, 26 day cycles like clockwork and I over stimmed on all my clomid cycles??] or an implantation issue (?? I have been tested for autoimmune, nothing to report, and I've had triple lining with over 9mm lining on almost all clomid cycles) The genius doesn't think it's a sperm issue, my DH has great count and motility but 1-3% morphology and undescended testes that was surgically corrected when he was young.

Anyways I felt like I got sucker punched from his email. I originally was dealing with the largest ivf clinic in my city but had the worst RE, her bedside manner was atrocious and I felt like I was just a number to her so I dumped her after one iui cycle and moved to my new RE and a different clinic? He's super sweet and makes me feel good every time I see him but he's not very aggressive, I still remember him saying during our first consultation that he doesn't believe there is such a thing as unexplained and that if you dig deep enough that you will find the causes. So yep apparently It's unexplained, by far the worst words that I have heard during ttc. So my options are limited, no more clinics to get referred to so I guess ivf it is and it will be a diagnostic test to see what the hell is going on. Im hoping to start ivf in august, so it looks like a Few of us Will be cycling together Sorry for the rambling post.

 

[barbikins]

HI Strawberry, I'm so sorry that you got a bfn
Are you switching b/c you didnt O? You did O right??

I'm starting CM on Saturday so I dont know but medicated so I should only have 1 follicle.

 

[Strawberry13]

Orchid our situations are very similar... I also was dx as unexplained w my first RE, but my second RE says problem is my DH who has 5% morph (everything else is ok with him and me). My first dr didn't think the morph was a problem but this new dr as well as our urologist (who is one of the best in the country for male fertility) insists it is and there is actually a lot of research out there to support that anything below 8-10% strict morph yields lower success rates (I've googled the crap out of it). But some drs don't agree, just one of those things where there are different opinions, who knows whos right? Also- my DH had undescended testicles corrected when he was 3, our urologist said that 90% of men who had this will be infertile or subfertile. So yeah we are happy the sperm is as good as it is and it's only his morph! You should be too!

Anyway sorry for the dump of info, but just pointing out that there may be other factors and different opinions between drs.

I'm glad the shower wasn't that bad, those are always terrible for me! And i know exactly what you mean about the milestones and thinking youd be there by now. But you gotta be happy for them, and realize that you will be there one day! Just maybe need to wait a bit longer. Good luck as you begin ivf you've got lots of cycle buddies here!

 

[Strawberry13]

HI Strawberry, I'm so sorry that you got a bfn
Are you switching b/c you didnt O? You did O right??

I'm starting CM on Saturday so I dont know but medicated so I should only have 1 follicle.

Thanks! What is CM? Yes I O'd 3 eggs every time I did clomid but since iuis havent worked yet he's going to try a different medication this month to try and mix it up.

You're almost halfway through your cycle- hang in there!

 

[StayHopeful]

Strawberry, sorry about the BFN! I was surprised to read what you were saying about morphology. DH has 4% morphology but all of his other numbers have always looked fantastic and the nurses at the RE's office comment on his "super sperm." Is IVF supposed to help with morphology issues?

Orchid, so sorry to hear about the email from your RE. I'm unexplained too because my only diagnosed issues is not ovulating because of PCOS but I haven't gotten pregnant during any of our induced ovulation cycles. I also overstimulated on Clomid, but understimulated on Letrozole and Menopur. Part of the reason my RE suggested IVF is because of our unexplained diagnosis. It does suck to hear though, I agree.

ER went well today, I think! They got 36 eggs I won't know until tomorrow though how many were mature and were fertilized. I'm a little worried because I've read in a few other forums about women who had a ton of eggs but because there were so many, not all of them were very good quality and they only had something like 5 that were mature. So I'm holding my breath until that phone call! The ER itself wasn't as bad as I thought it would be. The worst part was that my RE wanted me to do an at-home enema last night in preparation I was nervous this morning, but once they took me in the actual procedure room and the anesthesiologist started talking to me, I don't remember a thing. Evidently I was pretty groggy for a while and the nurse said I kept asking her the same questions over and over. And I do remember being super glad to see DH when they took me back into the room where he was waiting. I'm pretty sore now though. And I just weighed myself and I've gained 5 pounds since this morning. DH just went to go get me some extra-strength Tylenol and a heating pad, that's what the nurse recommended. Now it's just a waiting game.

 

[Anne24]

Hi All

I am posting in this thread for the first time. I have had 3 failed iuis, all injectibles, all perfectly timed with good follie size and yet no success. I want to know how many iuis are recommended before I move on to ivf. I know it varies from clinic to clinic. i have an appointment scheduled with my FS this weekend but I'm just curious to know all your opinions. Thanks in advance and baby dust to all.

 

[StayHopeful]

30 out of my 36 eggs fertilized! I'm so excited!!!

Anne, my clinic recommended moving on after 3 IUI cycles. I also had 3 perfectly timed cycles with good follicle size and BFN on all of them. Welcome and GL to you!

 

[Strawberry13]

Stay-that is amazing congrats!!! You are going to have a ton of frosties I bet. You must be so happy that part is over.. Are you doing a 5 day transfer? Hope you are resting up today.

As far as morph yes they say ivf helps with it bc w icsi they will be able to fertilize regardless of sperm shape. Did you do icsi or natural fertilization?

Anne welcome! So sorry about your failures, my 4th just failed (3 were well timed, high sperm count and 3 or more follicles) so I know all of the agony that goes with all of this. My dr is recommending 5 or 6 but I don't necessarily agree with that, as stay said most places only recommend 3 or 4 before moving on. Let us know what your dr says this weekend.

 

[Maverick007]

wow Stay that is pretty amazing to get 30 fertilized!! that is great!

Anne, welcome! My RE also says statistically, more than 3 does not prove to be successful in the long run, but there are lots of people it does work for... I think a few ladies on the earlier parts of this thread did 4-5 and it worked for them, so it just comes down to what you feel is right for you. Good luck to you!