3 failed IUIs. How do you cope?

[StayHopeful]

Willow, I am saying a prayer for you and your baby. Like the other ladies have said, there is a heartbeat and that's the most important thing right now. Try not to get too far ahead of yourself, focus on one day at a time and hang in there until the next appointment.

 

[moni77]

Willow...take it a day at a time. Pulling for you! .

 

[PinkPeony]

Willowgrace this is exactly what happened to me. My first US my twin A was measuring a few days behind and her hb was 90. I had several doctors tell me she was most likely not viable. I had another scan at 7 weeks which still didn't look promising, but at 9 weeks she was looking normal and the doctors said she would most likely be fine from then on. I do think it's a bit of a grey area, but I am so hopeful for you. It's so hard to be in limbo like that. Hang in there.

 

[WillowGrace]

Hi ladies,

Thank you for all of the kind words of encouragement. Since yesterday I have felt crampy off and on. I'm not sure if this is "period like" cramps or stretching. It's hard to tell. It's low and uncomfortable and comes and goes, but it's not waves of pain or anything like that. I'm also not fatigued like I was. Saturday and Sunday I spent a good couple of hours each day napping because I was just so tired. Yesterday and today I've been completely fine, not a single yawn like I was experiencing last week. I was yawning by 1 p.m. all last week and could barely keep my eyes open by around 4 p.m. I'm not sure if this means I'm losing symptoms, but I'm ready for whatever comes next.

I'm feeling upset, but I am ok with whatever happens--it is meant to happen however it ends up happening. I had a long talk with this baby Monday night and told him/her how I feel. I am at peace now. I trust my body is doing everything it needs to do to carry this baby. If it is a chromosomal problem, which is very likely the cause there is nothing I did or can do at this point.

I found the articles below to be informative. I'm a science kind of person I want to know statistics and probability, so I was looking for it and this is what I found. The probability that this pregnancy will go on is very low based on scientific studies and again I am ok. Although this sucks so bad I am feeling at peace. I may be upset Monday, but I am STRONG and I can handle this. We will have our healthy baby one day. Thank you for listening and being supportive. It really means so much!


https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/21701037

https://www.jultrasoundmed.org/content/14/6/431.abstract

https://radiopaedia.org/articles/fetal-bradycardia

 

[Dini]

Willow I am glad you are at peace with whatever happens but I am still pulling for you! At around 7-8 weeks I lost all my symptoms, even sore breasts were gone and I was so scared, but they came back and baby was just fine. They have come and gone quite a bit for me. The cramping you describe I had everyday until about 12 weeks and it was replaced with pulling/stretching pains that I still get daily, some worse than others especially if I need to use the restroom or am dehydrated. I do hope all is well with you and baby but glad you are preparing yourself, you are correct, it would likely be a chromosomal problem and best if the pregnancy didn't last so baby doesn't suffer but it is still hard.

Huggs for you!

 

[WillowGrace]

Thank you for all of your words of encouragement. It has been a hard week of being in limbo. I was really strong most of the week keeping busy at work, but the weekend was really hard for me. My husband is out of town on business, so I was alone and anxious about this morning. I just got home from my appt. I am going to type this quick because I need to get myself ready, so I can get back to work.

The doc, sonographer, and nurse came in to do the 8 week scan. There was no heartbeat. The doctor said the anatomy looked very abnormal. The growth was not of a genetically normal baby. He said there is no doubt in his mind that this is genetic.

So, I have to decide what to do next. I can see if I pass this naturally during the next week or go right to a D and C. My husband doesn't return until late Wednesday, so the earliest I can do is Thursday for a D and C. Prayers ladies that this passes smoothly or that I can get in for a D and C soon. I'm so sad. It's almost a slap in the face that this last IUI worked, but then didn't work. I guess we will be moving on to IVF with ICSI after all.

 

[moni77]

Sorry willow...

 

[SashimiMimi]

Willow im so sorry. I've been thinking of you a lot and sending positive thoughts. I'm so sorry your husband is out of town for this. I hope you have some family close by for support.
A similar situation happened to a friend in one of my infertility groups. She was devastated, but a few months later she got pregnant again and had a healthy baby. She said looking back, although at the time it was the worst thing in the world, she now has the baby she was meant to have and she sees why things worked out the way they did.
I have no doubt in my mind that your baby is coming to you. Big hug to yo, stay strong.

 

[summer2011]

So sorry willow I feel for you, I've been in a similar situation about 1.5 yrs ago. Hugs to you,

 

[Sunshine24]

Hi Ladies-

I have been trying to catch up on all these posts!! Congrats to many of you, fingers crossed to many of you, praying for ALL of you- always.

I joined this board after 5 failed IUIS in 2012/2013 and then one laparoscopy followed by a SUCCESSFUL IVF. I now have a healthy 11 month old and we are going for #2 via FET. I know this is an IUI board but it brought me luck ( and so, so much support before ) so I just wanted to put this out there.

Any advice about FETS or anything in general dealing with that would be great.

Much love and many prayers to each and every one of you!

 

[SashimiMimi]

Sunshine!!! I just PMed you but wanted to say I can't believe your baby is almost 1!!!! Did you have a boy or a girl!!??
Good luck with FET!! I think you will find that now that you have been pregnant once, your body will know what to do and i have no doubt that you will find success. My son was 13 months when I got pregnant again.
Glad to hear you are doing well. Your story is so inspirational!

 

[summer2011]

Hi all,
It's been an eventful couple of days! First of all we found out we are having a boy yay

but during my cervical scan they measured my cervix at just below 2.5 cm (anything above 2.5 is considered normal) so I'm now on progesterone sups AGAIN and off work for who knows how long. Hoping beyond hope that my body holds out for this little babe. We got a new pic at 17 weeks, in my avatar, cutest little button nose ever Cervical check in another week to see if the prog and rest help it hold out at 2.5 (fingers crossed).

 

[moni77]

Summer - I am also having a boy!! Got my harmony results back on Monday! Plus low risk for all chromosomal disorders - so no need for a CVS or amnio. Great pic and I'm sure it will work out with the supps.

Here is my pic from Mondays NT scan:

 

[SashimiMimi]

Hi summer, welcome to team blue. I'm having another boy in March! I have faith you will be just fine, sounds like they are just taking precautions. My placenta was functioning really low at 13 weeks and just had it rechecked, all is fine. I was also sent to a genetic counsellor for Down syndrome even though my test results were normal, I had a NIPT blood test over an amnio and it all came back clear. Seems there is always something to worry about, but it sounds like 2.5 is normal.

 

[WillowGrace]

Thinking of you all.

I go in for my D and C tomorrow. Prayers and thoughts please.

 

[PinkPeony]

Thinking of you all.

I go in for my D and C tomorrow. Prayers and thoughts please.

So sorry Willow. Thinking of you.

 

[summer2011]

Thinking of you. Hope you're doing ok

 

[WillowGrace]

Got there around noon. The staff was so respectful of our feelings and said they were so sorry we were here for this...
Then all the questions, paperwork, prep, anesthesiologist, etc. I went into the OR around 1:30 p.m. We left when it was almost 3 p.m. I'm feeling crampy and of course bleeding. They gave me a script for Vicodin my husband filled for me. I'm just resting on the couch now and finally at a meal. Hot decaf coffee and gluten free/dairy free blueberry muffin. I'm glad I'm off tomorrow due to Election day. I'm going to rest up as much as I can. I was pretty emotional immediately after the nurse started talking to me in recovery and I realized I was out of the OR and it was *done*. So sad, but I am trying to stay positive. We will be back at TTC in a few months and IVF with ICSI will work for us. Thinking hopeful thoughts...

Thanks for all the prayers and positive thoughts. It means a lot.

 

[Dini]

Willow I am so sorry for what you are going through but glad the procedure went well. Get some rest and Take the pain meds if you need them! I'll look forward to seeing you back here soon!

 

[StayHopeful]

Thinking about you, Willow.