33yr ttc#2 - buddies needed!!!

[Hopfl4bbynbr4]

Jessy, I couldn't tell on your test. Where the test line is, it's blurry so couldn't see. I'm so sorry you think it's a bfn though. I agree with Citrus, whats up with these tests?! I'm still crossing my fingers for you though.

Happycupcake, can you do a side by side with the test from yesterday or the day before and today's test? I swear today's test looks darker to me. Not trying to get your hopes up, I'm just saying what I see and would be interested to see a side by side. I guess you're right about the different positions. I didn't think about that. Sorry for TMI but it was from behind 😳 I'm glad I've known him since we were teens so I know what you mean by wishing you knew your dh as a teen as well. I feel as though I know basically everything there is to know about him and his family. I'm glad my in laws have liked me from the beginning because that would be awkward if they didn't like me and we ended up being together for so long lol I'm sorry you've had such a hard time with getting faint lines the past few months. What makes you feel like there's a progesterone problem? Have you had the chance to talk with your doctor about it? I hope it isn't a progesterone problem and just faulty tests. But like I said, your ic from today does look darker to me than yesterdays test. I already deleted the test I edited for you or I would have tried to do the side by side for you to show what I'm talking about. I like playing with photobucket lol! If you don't mind and you don't want to do it I could go back and get the picture again and do it for you?

Citrus, I agree with you again, if none of us get a bfp this month at least we will be able to keep each other company for the next cycle. Hopefully we can all go into the 1st trimester together although you and ladders will lead us if the two of you get bfps this cycle. Since me, Jessy and Happycupcake think we're out then we're waiting for Anni's test on Friday.

Anni, how are you holding out? Have you broke and tested yet or are you still holding out for Friday?

Ladders, I may invest in some of the clear blue digital opk's next cycle if this one coming up doesn't result in a bfp for me.

My mom and my father in laws girlfriend have been sending me pictures of dd and ds2 on their camping trips. They are at 2 separate beaches and it makes me feel better to know they're having fun and aren't sun burnt. I guess I'm just being over protective though because I know they will probably get sun burnt because they are at the beach for the rest of the week. My best friend and I are taking ds1 and her 3 kids to the river tomorrow so I'm glad ds1 will be able to to something fun too. I've been riding bikes and trail riding with him and planning on going fishing with him and dh on Saturday morning but I just feel like I'm not doing enough for him to have fun here at home. Even though he had the opportunity to go camping and chose not to. Does that make sense or does it make me seem like a crazy person?

 

[JessyG]

Morning everyone. Thank you all for your words of encouragement. Pretty sure i can feel AF starting as we speak haha and i am now ok with it. My OH just keeps telling me to relax. He would rather we didnt have a christmas baby anyway (if he could choose that is).

Kim thats so sweet you have been together since you were teens. I have known OH since we were 21/22 been together since 23 there is only a month between us age wise.

Sounds like you have done loads with your son this week and i am sure he is glad to have some one to one time with you.

Citrus, loving the idea of thinking positive and talking baby names! I have an almostly massive list of girl names like huge but the ones i always always come back to are Alice and Olive. I am in LOVE with Aubrey aswell but i saw it on teen mom 2 and part of me worries folk would think that if i told them! Haha

Boy names are always a struggle for me! I love names like Rufus and Rupert, Arlo and Remy but my OH is completely against it. He wants Rory for a boy which i dont hate but i also dont love.

Crikey i have even been looking at prams! Figuring out where all the stuff would go, thinking of gettin fitted wardrobes to make more space etc. In effect i am going slightly crazy over here which is bonkers considering 3/4 months ago i said absolutely no more babies!

Whats happening today then!? I am on the train heading to work. My OH is away on training atm so he is away sun-fri for the next 6 weeks so its all me. Its ok though as my mum has got my DD today and she is in nursery the other 2 days i work. Works out quite nicely.

Anyone poas today?!

Anni you have some willpower excited to see what tomorrow brings for you.

 

[citrusfruit]

Oooh I like your name choices jessy. Aubrey is sweet but I do instantly think of teen mom! My OH wouldn't go for any of those either.

I quite like Georgia for a girl and also Evelyn but OH doesn't like that. For a boy we both like Edward but I know quite a few Edwards so veering away from that. Also like Joseph and Myles and maybe Callum too. I like thinking about names

Did no one test today? Anni when are you testing? Tomorrow?

 

[JessyG]

I like your names too. Georgia is gorgeous. Shame a friends wee girl is called Georgia or it would be on my list too.

AF has reared her head. Its not full on red blood yet just the begining browny stuff (sorry thats gross isnt it). Assuming she starts properly tomorrow, should i count tomorrow CD1 or today. Quite relieved in a way as at least now i know i have had a normal 27/28 day cycle and can stop thinking about poas for a few weeks!

Hope everyone has had a lovely day. Citrus you must be on cd5/6 now. When do yoy usually ov?

 

[ladders]

Ah sorry af has got you jessy that's crappy. I think I would count cycle day 1 as the one where you get red blood but I stand corrected if any of the ladies know differently.

Cupcake thank you so much for all the info on temping definitely going to start that if not successful this cycle might be too late to start at this point in my cycle.

Loving the names ladies, my dd middle name is Olivia but love olive too just didn't flow as well with her first name. I also like aubrey but teen mom 2 is all I'd think of too. For girls I like Autumn, esme or Eloise but dh not keen. If we have a boy we have a name picked and would be Eli Peter but I also really like Seth.
Find it harder this time choosing names as you kinda want them to go slightly with the others and as dd got a not very common name I wouldn't want the other one to. Mostly because dd never going to find her name on seaside stuff lol.

Question ladies I'm due to ovulate Tues so expecting positive opk Monday which would be the best days to bd as I only have 3 vials of conceive plus and Tues he's out late so might not be till weds morning and worried that would miss it

 

[citrusfruit]

If you o on Tuesday, then my understanding is that the best days would be Sunday, Monday and Tuesday. I think conception day after o is possible but not super likely?

I'm on cd 7 so AF gone (hooray) but don't o till day 19ish. Will start getting a few bd in tho, I find having sex only at o time really awkward like we don't actually want to be doing it!

 

[ladders]

I have that too citrus and my th is always up for it but seems to sense ov and then not interested lol. It's hard also because he's always the one to initiate so it's blooming obvious when it's fertile time and then he feels the pressure

 

[Hopfl4bbynbr4]

Sorry I haven't been on till late tonight ladies. Been super busy with ds1. I had to tell him tomorrow we're taking a break and relaxing because I'm wore out lol

I like all of your name choices. I'm sure I'll have to pick other names than the ones on my pp because dh doesn't like either of them.

I'm sorry af got you Jessy. Good luck for this new cycle.

Ladders, I agree with citrus. Sunday Monday and Tuesday are good days if you O on Tuesday and I've always heard try the day after (Wednesday) for good measure. Maybe you try to initiate it a few days a week (whether you succeed or not) so he won't feel like its the fw and feel pressured?

Citrus, hopefully the lead up to O goes quickly for you and it doesn't feel like forever to get there. I'll be joining the wait soon I'm sure.

I didn't test today. I looked at the calendar on my phone and turns out I've been a day behind this whole week! I'm actually 15dpo today instead of 14. I don't know when or how I got behind but I put in my calendar the day of O and put in a reminder for 8 12 15 and 18dpo. I don't know why I didn't get a reminder for 8 and 12dpo but I did get one today at 15dpo. I counted because I thought I made a mistake but sure enough I'm 15dpo today. If af doesn't arrive by 20dpo which should be Tuesday then I'll get a frer and test then.

Happycupcake and Anni how are you ladies doing? Did you test again Happycupcake? I'm excited to see your test tomorrow morning Anni!

 

[happycupcake]

Hello everyone I'm sorry I did check in yesterday but was distracted and didn't remember to reply until today. I can't remember what everyone wrote! But as expected af arrived today. I didn't bother to test yesterday because my temp dipped and did precisely what I expected it to, and today it dipped further so I knew I would see af today at some point, bang on time for my usual 25 day cycle.
I selfishly spent a tiny fortune treating myself to a few things for my makeup bag, I haven't treated myself to anything like this in AGES and I thought it may make me feel a little better about myself. The timing I think was good, since I was hoping so much af wouldn't show this cycle. I also paid off my contract and updated my phone because my old phone was smashed and has been for months and has been getting harder to use since. I'm the opposite of materialistic, every penny we have is used on bills, shopping and the children, but occasionally it is nice to treat myself. We bought the children a little something each as well of course.

I have to add, I hate cycle day 1. I hate the fact it's always heavy for CD1 & CD2, I hate the cramps, the digestive changes, headaches, tiredness and the self pity and the utter misery I fall into. I felt it hit me yesterday and in part was why I was so distracted, because the sudden dip in progesterone seems to make anxiety hit me like a train. I spent earlier today having an argument I inadvertently caused with my husband, then crying. Then my dad visited so I said it was hay fever... the joys of day 1 of good old Aunt Flo

 

[annio84]

Hi ladies,

Sorry I disappeared again. I went to see my Nan in wales and had no wifi or data signal.

To cut a long story short my spotting turned into AF yesterday at presumed 10dpo. I really hope I was wrong about when I O'd (or just didn't) because 10 days is very short. I'lll update properly later I'm off out in about 20 minutes and I'm not ready.

 

[Hopfl4bbynbr4]

Oh Anni and Happycupcake, I'm so sorry af got both of you. The good thing though is we'll all be here to support each other for this new cycle. I'm a few days behind. Af should arrive by Sunday or Monday. So we'll all be here for this new cycle.

Happycupcake it's OK to buy yourself something too. I know what you mean though I never spend money on myself either. I hope you start to feel better soon hun cd1 sucks. That goes for you too Anni.

 

[happycupcake]

Anni I'm sorry have you recently stopped bc? You may have said before but there are so many pages I can't remember!

Kim, thank you. Have you tested anymore? I don't think I see anything on those tests but perhaps something will show soon?
You are right though, I think although it's rubbish seeing af, at least we all have each other in here
You know to make things so much better for CD1, I discovered my wedding ring has cracked and almost snapped a few minutes ago
It's only a super cheap white gold ring, the skinniest ring they had because I liked the smaller rings, but because it was so cheap (we couldn't afford much!) it's discoloured and I think repairing it would make it look weird having a new part of white gold with the older white gold. Anyway, it would most probably cost more to repair than it cost in the first place. It's made me sad

 

[citrusfruit]

Oh cupcake, CD1 is just awful whether ttc or not but especially when ttc. Sorry AF got both you and anni I'm on cd8 today and already feel a lot more positive even though it's an age till I o.

For a number of reasons I really hope we conceive this time. The timing would just be much better than the following few months. I kind of want to discuss this with my oh so he understands the need to dtd at the right time, but I also don't want to put pressure on him. I just hate it when he says no on the most crucial days. If he says no 2 days in a row that can be you pretty much out, which is exactly what happened last cycle. And if I o when I normally do then the most crucial few days are going to be a mon tue and wed which are the worst days! Argh! It's so tricky!

 

[Hopfl4bbynbr4]

Oh no! I'm sorry your ring cracked! That sucks. Don't worry about it being cheap. It's the thought that counts and it has so much sentimental value for you that I'm sure no amount of money would be able to replace that particular ring. That's the way it is with the ring I use in my test photos. That one isn't my wedding ring but it's the first ring dh ever gave me. It's a promise ring and the only time I've ever taken it off is to use it to take my test pictures. Actually the day I used the Bobby pins instead of my ring in my pictures was because I took the ring off and had it on my tests to take the picture. Well ds2 was getting ready for school in my bathroom. After I watched him get on the bus I realized my ring wasn't on my finger so I go in my bathroom to get it and it's gone! It was then that I realised ds2 had taken my ring to school with him! Fast forward to that afternoon when he got off the bus, I immediately told him to give me my ring back. He tells me he can't because he thought it was his sisters ring since I never take mine off and he gave it to his girlfriend at school!! Thankfully the lil girl lives next door to my sister so I asked her for the girls moms phone number. So I call her and told her what happened and that the ring wasn't expensive or anything but it was the first ring dh ever gave me and it has been on my finger for about 15 years. When the girls mom got off work that day she got the ring back from the girl and brought it to me. I'm happy I got it back and had a talk with ds2 and told him if he ever wanted to take anything to school to give to someone he needs to talk to me and dh about it first to make sure it's OK. After I got the ring back I thought it was kinda cute that ds2 wanted to give his gf the same ring dh gave me all those years ago. Ds2 is 9 and in 3rd grade by the way.


Well I'm now with everyone else now. Af got me after the last post I wrote. So onwards and upwards to the next cycle. I'm actually happy about it though because that means I had a 16 day lp this time instead of 19 day lp. It's only a few days earlier but I'll take it.

How is everyone doing today? What are your plans for Easter?

 

[Hopfl4bbynbr4]

I know exactly what you mean, Citrus. The week days are so hard for me to get dh to dtd. I understand that he's tired from working but it frustrates me when he comes in, plays with the kids, (not this part) washes the work truck, watches TV, walks around in the yard with me and is all out active the whole afternoon but if I mention anything about bd or doing the hokey pokey or anything he's all of the sudden super tired and not interested and falls asleep after he showers and eats dinner. But if it's not the important days and I mention dtd he's all for it. Even if I never mention when the fw is. It seems like its been like that for the past 5 months, but he talks all the time about wanting another baby and trying and what not.

 

[citrusfruit]

I love that you have a truck, Kim. It's such a perception of southern America here in the UK that you all have trucks! My husband would love a pick up, hehe. I have a bit of a love affair with the south too, as I love country music. I don't know if you know him but we just went to see Charlie worsham the other week, he was great. I bet country music is a big deal where you are, it's not big at all here and I pretty much had to bribe a friend to go with me! Ha!

Sorry AF got you but yay for shorter LP and yay for us all being on cycle #2 together. Let's do this ladies!

 

[Hopfl4bbynbr4]

Lol citrus, hubby has a big truck. Not excessively big but bigger than most of the trucks in our neighborhood. There are a lot of trucks in the south lol but I have a car. I'll be getting an SUV soon though because my car keeps breaking down. We've had it for years so it's time for a new car for me. Most of the people here do like country music. I on the other hand do not lol I mostly listen to rock or metal but everyone who meets me and hears the music I listen to are always shocked lol apparently I "don't look like I like rock music " I hear that a lot. IDK what someone that likes rock music looks like but apparently I'm not it 😂 but my whole family likes country so IDK where I got it from. I have no idea who that is 😂 I'm sorry... I'll ask dh if he knows who it is. He listens to literally everything so he may know. And yes I'm happy for a shorter lp and that I'm not going to be too far behind everyone else this cycle again. We've all got this! We'll all have bfps this cycle. Positive thinking is what we need ❤

 

[happycupcake]

Oh Kim! I'm sorry af arrived, I hoped she wouldn't show! Hope you are ok.
That's some adventure your ring went on! Thank goodness you got it back though. I lost my engagement ring a while ago. I had to have it resized as I lost weight and my fingers were smaller so it fell off in the house but thankfully it was found the following day. I also lost a charm, down the toilet of all places! My bracelet must have been undone and I hadn't realised, I saw it had disappeared but couldn't think where I had been when I saw it last but for some reason something told me to look in the toilet and there it was!
My husband wants to buy me another ring first thing tomorrow, I said don't worry about it but he's insisting. I have to put my wedding ring in a safe place, I don't want it to completely snap and lose it somewhere. It will always be special. It's all battered and dented too but it's my wedding ring, means the world to me.
It's good your lp is shorter this time, perhaps it will stay this way. Or does it tend to vary each month?

Citrus it's good you feel positive
I don't know why but I don't feel comfortable telling my husband about ov or the fw. I think partly because I think he will think it's the only reason we do anything. Which it isn't, but I don't tend to have much of a sex drive afterwards. If I tell him I won't say anything until later and he's usually oblivious to the fw

 

[ladders]

Oh ladies I'm so sorry af got you all I was really sure we would get at least one bfp this cycle. At least we all have each other to support through another month, the first few cycles days are rubbish so I'm thinking of you.

Citrus my dh is exactly the same and all I can think is trying the het some bd in this weekend but hard as we are both doing 12 hour shifts Sunday and Monday then Tuesday he's onto lates so I hoping for a positive opk tomorrow as have no chance Tues onwards. Trying to drink more also to help with cm because I do think I'm always a bit dehydrated. Dd had a bad night last night and was up about 4 times so he's gone to work feeling tired and grumpy this morning so worried it will mean no luck tonight!
Ahhh I kinda hate ovulation time too!!
Cupcake I think if you can get away with bit saying anything about fw then that's all the better

 

[JessyG]

AF has still not fully arrived here, still brownish atm which is annoying me as i am on cd28 but wanted to be on cd1 by now so could crack on with round 2! My OH is away next week then back home working the following two weeks so hoping to get in a few days of bding. A January baby woulf be great!

Nice that we are all still in it together but sort of hoped someone would of got their bfp this month!

Hope you are all having a nice saturday