33yr ttc#2 - buddies needed!!!

[Hopfl4bbynbr4]

I'm hoping at least another 2 days. I want my body to hold out at least till Thursday because that's when my soft cups will arrive (according to the Amazon tracking thing) and I really want to use the soft cup this time! Lol

As for the pap, I actually haven't had one in about 2 years so it's time to have one. In my teens I've had abnormal paps and pre cancer cells that was all removed and have had normal paps since then. But do need to go have one done soon. Would this cause mid cycle spotting? I've never heard of this. I'll google it in a few minutes and see.

 

[citrusfruit]

Morning all, just to say I'm officially in the tww! So relieved to see that temp rise this morning. I guess I ovd yesterday which means we dtd on o, o-3 and o-5. In with a chance but still feel we missed an important day so not feeling too positive! Our o dtd was at night so possibly too late depending on what time I actually ovd.

Hope everyone else is doing ok? Kim you are waiting to o, cupcake you are in the tww yes? So is duster, ladders...Anni and Jessy are you still both waiting to o? Just trying to keep track of everyone!!

 

[JessyG]

Yeah another negative for me citrus. I am only cd11 so i am just going through the motions with testing right now.

I have a child free day today. It is soo rare and feels so good to clean without the guilt of 'i should be playing with her'. Got a day of cleaning and shopping lined up. Already done most of the cleaninh just the bathrooms snd dusting to do. Then i am going shopping to buy B a new duvet set and my friend a birthday present. Will pick B up at 3ish. She has such fun at nursery and i only took today as a holiday incase my leg was still sore after my tattoo (it is still bloody sore so feel like i am walking about with a limp!)

Hope evetyone is good. Citrus glad you are in the tww now too!

 

[happycupcake]

Kim, yes spotting during any other time than right before or right after af can be a sign of a potential problem regarding cervical screening or abnormal cells. I have to say it probably isn't, most of the time it isn't anything to be concerned about but if you are due a smear, I would book it so you know for sure.
Of course when you are ttc spotting in the TWW can be a sign of implantation so wouldn't be anything to worry about. You can also see some spotting when you ovulate as well.
The main things to look out for regarding potentially abnormal cells are spotting or bleeding between periods, pain during sex, pelvic pain, lower back pain, cm that isn't usual cm like if it smells weird or anything... I can't remember the other things! But even each of these are usually down to other things. Like I had a funny smell after sex a while ago and had had lots of watery cm for ages, turned out to be BV which is usually easily treatable with pessaries. I have always had some lower back pain which I put down to poor posture and having big boobs. I can sometimes experience pain or pelvic pain during sex depending on the position, but this isn't unusual for me.
So, don't think this is a cause to panic, and don't worry about having a smear done during pregnancy because they are completely safe. If you had a smear during pregnancy it can throw the results off and cause a false abnormal reading, so if you are due a smear it's probably best to have it done sooner than later as you are ttc.
It's highly likely though that the spotting you saw wasn't anything to worry about.
I reckon you have a couple of days, mine tend to look like yours soon before they turn positive, but it can vary for everyone.

Citrus - yay for being in the TWW! I think your timing is good, especially if trying to gender sway. Don't think dtd was wasted yesterday, I know most advice is the egg lasts a day, but I have read quite a few times it can live a little longer in some cases. Plus you won't know the precise time of ov, so I would say you timed things perfectly fine

Jessy - Bepanthen is good for tattoos, to help them heal. Also, if it's sore still try putting a bag of frozen peas on it to calm it down. I had a fairly sizeable tattoo in the same place and it hurt far more afterwards than during!

Yes I'm currently in the TWW as well. Fertility Friend puts me at 3dpo today and ov at CD10 but I think I ovulated CD11 since my darkest positive was then. We will see I guess, luteal phase is usually 14 days

 

[ladders]

Yeah for the tww!!! Cupcake you look like you got some perfectly timed bd in! And citrus I reckon for girl away your timing is perfect too!

Does feel good to not be thinking about o and bd for a while, was nice to go bed not feeling anxious if we would dtd, whether dh would initiate or I would have too etc etc.

Jessy I have to say I'm very jealous of your free day! Even if it is spent shopping and cleaning! I'm off work today so spending it internet shopping as we are moving dh into the spare room out of the nursery soon. Wanted to do it before baby comes and I clearly have loads of time! Stupidly thought I might be pregnant by now as stopped bc in Jan

 

[happycupcake]

I would have dtd yesterday as well, in fact I was desperate to (I can't actually help myself, especially this time of the cycle all I want to do is rip hubby's clothes off!) but stupid cystitis got in the way. Thankfully it seems to have gone. I agree completely Citrus has had excellent timing

I have to go out soon to buy something to wear for a funeral we are attending Friday. His wishes were for everyone to wear what they are comfortable in and didn't want everyone all in black suits and super smart clothing. I wear a lot of black anyway, but don't have anything smart/casual that isn't worn out. I don't usually shop for myself, it's usually the children, so I wear my clothes until they are unwearable because I also hate waste. I also hate shopping. Everyone says women love shopping but I don't... I would shop online but it means I can't try it on first

 

[ladders]

Oh cupcake that's not a happy shopping trip, I'm sorry to hear that! I generally hate shopping but mostly because I see alot of clothes that look great on the mannequin but make me look like a sack of 💩. And now I have dd I always feel guilty spending on myself. Rubbish that you have cystitis, I found the soft cups helps as you can still go for a wee after dtd without losing the swimmers!

 

[happycupcake]

Oh cupcake that's not a happy shopping trip, I'm sorry to hear that! I generally hate shopping but mostly because I see alot of clothes that look great on the mannequin but make me look like a sack of ��. And now I have dd I always feel guilty spending on myself. Rubbish that you have cystitis, I found the soft cups helps as you can still go for a wee after dtd without losing the swimmers!

I didn't go shopping, it started to hail so I stayed in and bought online. Hopefully they will be fine, but we have a local shop so shouldn't be any bother returning them if they aren't and I paid for next day delivery so providing they actually arrive tomorrow when they are meant to, I have some time to buy something else. Can't say I'm looking forward to Friday, though. He was a fabulous guy, a good neighbour and friend and I'm sad he's passed away, but the hardest part will be seeing his wife and children. I also haven't set foot in that place since losing my partner (or ex partner technically but we hadn't been split long, a matter of weeks so it feels too weird referring to him as an ex when we had been together for donkeys years) so somewhat selfishly as well I know I will find it hard going back there. Why can't people live forever?!

I know what you mean about the stupid mannequins. And why they have to make them tiny is beyond me! They don't have any curves, there aren't any hips or boobs or bums and I look and think, how is this realistically representing the clothes and how they are meant to look on REAL people, who come in all different shapes! And the thing with shopping for yourself without the children I find that hard too, I always feel selfish so I don't usually spend anything on myself.
The cystitis has gone I think. I have been drinking loads and purposely stayed up until about 3am to make sure I had drunk plenty so I didn't wake with it starting over. I ought to have used my MeLuna but I didn't think to re-sterilise it ready for use for that but in hindsight it would have saved a few of those precious swimmers

 

[Hopfl4bbynbr4]

Yayyy for the tww for you ladies! I'm already excited about examining your tests! Don't forget the post what you pee on rule haha!

Happycupcake and Ladders, I also feel guilty about buying myself anything. Honestly I haven't bought myself anything except the opk's last month and this month but this month I added the soft cups. I spent $36 on buying and delivery so I guess that's not too bad. I'm actually excited for tomorrow! My shipment should arrive! Hopefully... I desperately need new clothes but I keep putting it off hoping that I'll get pregnant soon and then I'll buy a few maternity clothes. If I don't end up pregnant any time soon then I'll just go ahead and get a few cheap outfits from Walmart. That's the plan, but knowing me I'll end up buying for the kids and not myself.

Happycupcake, I'm sorry about your friend. And also sorry you have to relive the memories of the last time you were there.

Jessy, hopefully we will O soon and be tww buddies! What cd do you usually O on? Oh wait you said you're recently off bc. Sorry I almost forgot. Again, hopefully you O soon and we can be 2ww buddies! Lol!

 

[Hopfl4bbynbr4]

Cd13 opk. Looks more negative than yesterday's test lol maybe my urine was more concentrated than yesterday's?

Edited to add: I actually just looked at the picture from yesterday and this one does look a tad bit darker. I already threw out the one from yesterday so couldn't compare. But I'll keep the one from today to start comparing.

 

[Hopfl4bbynbr4]

Ohh! I also forgot to add, ladders, I was in the pharmacy yesterday and saw the undead soft cups you were talking about for $11.99! There was 14 in the box. I just spent $14 on two. But they are the reusable kind. I only found the small size so if it doesn't fit or is uncomfortable then I'll just go get the instead ones from the pharmacy for next cycle. Hopefully I won't have to though because I'll be pregnant! But we'll see.

Happycupcake, I also forgot to mention that I don't have any kind of pelvic pain or smelly cm or anything like that so hopefully I'll be OK. I will schedule an appointment to get a pap though since its been a while. Just to be on the safe side.

 

[citrusfruit]

Hopefully your tests will turn positive in the next couple of days Kim, just on time for your delivery! Then hopefully you can get lots of BD in.

Sorry about your friend and the memories cupcake. Try to concentrate on the beautiful new life you might have growing inside of you instead of lost ones

I'm having a glass of wine...don't usually in the week but you never know I might not be able to soon so I thought why not! 1dpo and counting!

 

[Hopfl4bbynbr4]

Enjoy your wine, Citrus! Even if you do concieve then 1dpo certainly won't affect potential baby.

 

[happycupcake]

Kim, your test is definitely darker! I think you will see positives soon - perfect timing for your delivery! Oh, I have to ask, did you mean to say "undead soft cups"?

Ladders and Citrus, thank you. Funerals will always be difficult but it's part of life I guess.

Citrus, enjoy your wine! I love sangria but I can't drink due to the meds. Completely unimpressed with this lol

 

[annio84]

Sorry cupcake. Funeral are just the worst, as is death in general I guess.

 

[Hopfl4bbynbr4]

Happycupcake! No! Hahaha I didn't even catch that typo haha! It's supposed to say instead soft cups!

 

[dustergrl]

Checking in. I'm bad at updating every day, but my 10 acres, DS, and DH keep me busy.

Hopfl, keeping fx that everything goes well for you.

Cupcake, sorry about the funeral.

Citrus, enjoy the wine! When I was pregnant widh DS (very early; didn't know I was yet), I went to a wedding and kept drinking wine. Never felt it- which was strange because I am normally a one-drink date! My body knew to protect my baby and just flush it out.

Jessy, those childfree times are amazing! My mom came over to watch my son so I could take our cat to the vet today and I just felt like I could breathe!

Ladders, yeah for the tww!

Afm I am a bit crampy today so we will see what happens. Also- we got our newest bunch of chicks today: 7 of them! Pic attached. They are all supposed to be pullets (female) but hatchery sexing is never 100%.

 

[Hopfl4bbynbr4]

Omgosh, duster! They're Sooo cute! How many animals do you have? Other than the cute little chicks lol

 

[ladders]

Ha ha Kim undead softcups made me laugh! Don't think I'd fancy putting one of those up my foo lol. Don't worry I bought 2 non reusable ones for 6.50!!! Because I dont think you can get them in the UK anymore so people are able to rip you off! I used one on ovulation day so hoping it will have helped.


Citrus don't worry I had wine last night too, I very often have a glass in the evening once dd in bed and I'm cooking dinner. I especially like a glass when dh on a late shift because I can sit down with it relax and watch all the girly trashy tv which dh wouldn't watch lol


Duster those chicks are so cute! I'd love chickens! I did have to do a double take at the picture for a second as I read you were cramping and for a second looked like a pantyliner 🙈🙈🙈


So I had dd 2 year review yesterday and feeling like a crap mother. Was asked how is she when doing craft activities (haven't really done anything at home) and painting *(scared of the mess!!) Or playdough (ends up stuck in the carpet or on the dog so dont do it) And had to admit iv not really done it anything like that with her at home, so off today to buy paints and craft stuff and playdough etc. Also going to buy some plastic sheeting as I have to admit I'm scared of the mess. Feel rubbish as I have a friend who's daughter is the same age and she makes Christmas cards and birthday cards and Easter hats ect with her and I'm a bit ocd.

Oh and I got told off for not giving vitamin d vitamins, in my defence dd goes at least a two hour dog walk a day so always gets sunlight so didn't think it was needed but apparently it is, bad mother strike two

 

[JessyG]

Well cd12 here and still blank. If i have another 29 day cycle i would have thought id o on cd15 so should i not have flashing smilie now? Anyway guess its still a waiting game. We have bd cd7, 9 and 11 but guess all of them were too early! *sigh. Oh well will just keep trying. Probably miss tonight out as fraser is at football and then try friday again.

I missed B too much and ended up going to get her at 2pm. Saddo or what. Id done everything i wanted and was just sitting about.

Hope everyone is good. Kim is it just you and i waiting to o now?