35 and over and ltttc for baby #2 for over 2.5yrs!

[eyemom]

Hi Orchid! I typed up a post earlier and lost it and didn't have time to try again until now. Overall, I think you can be happy with those results. Before, yeah some things were better, but (maybe my understanding is wrong but as I understand it) even with good number and motility, if none of them have the proper morphology to penetrate that egg, the rest doesn't do a whole lot of good. At least now SOME of them have normal morph and SOME of them can get there, so that is something! I have heard that male factor things are a lot easier to address too, so hopefully you'll get your miracle soon. Stinks you haven't gotten his Fertilaid yet. I started taking mine today. Hope I can remember to pack it for our trip we leave on tomorrow!

*waves* Hi gemmy!

Hi Cali, good to see you! How are you feeling?

 

[WhiteOrchid24]

Thank you all so much - I really do appreciate you all taking the time to reply - it means so much! I agree with everything said - SA's are so difficult as things can change from day to day. I think the main thing is DH is feeling ok about things and as you commented on we now have some with good morphology so I feel like at least now we do have a chance which I think mentally is huge! I also feel good that we are finally taking further steps to work on things so fingers crossed.

Cali - so great to hear from you! I've been missing you! How are you feeling? I hope for your sake you are doing well. Thank you so much for the info regarding his count. Im so happy he is seeing a urologist - maybe he will give him some antibiotics to help with things. I'm still keeping my fingers crossed the Fertilaid will help! But at this point I'll take anything! I know it's hard once you have your BFP but don't forget about us all - it's so lovely to hear from you and how you are doing with your pregnancy!

Eyemom - that's great you got your Fertilaid. I finally got an update on tracking ours and it's on it's way!! Got hung up at the border but will be here next week! At least I now know to order the next lot early as it takes longer than suggested to get it!! Was it this weekend you were visiting your friends? If so I hope you are ok. For some reason I have been going through a really bad time with this lately. It's kind of a long story (which I can fill you in with on another time!) but I totally understand how you feel. SO many friends are all either pregnant with their 2nd or have just had them (best friend #2 had hers this past week) and it is hard. I am so over-the-moon for them - I really am, but at the same time it's so hard and I hate being the only one not to have baby number 2.

Gemmy - thank you as well. How are you doing in your 2ww? I know you said you had some AF symptoms but keeping my fingers crossed for you!

Tommy - I hope you are doing well as well.

Barbi - miss you. I read your blog last night so just want to say I'm thinking of you and wishing you lots of hugs and luck. I know everything is going to work out for you!

Isaac - did AF rear her ugly head?

Hopefully I haven't missed anyone - I can't scroll back through to make sure!! Anyway hugs to you all. Have a great weekend x

 

[tommyg]

I just lost my reply.

White and Eyemom hope the fertilaid gets their counts up. Even of your first was a fluke it means it can happen again. Not easy dealing with other people's pregnancys esp 2nd Babies, but hey it will happen for us, eventually.

Cali, think I missed your BFP congratulations have a happy healthy 9 mths and I beg you to give the flu jab serious consideration if you've not already got it.

Gemmy and Isaacs hope AF stays away.

Barbikins I read your other posts so sorry but at least you know the issue can deal with them and good luck for January.

Me I'm about 10 dpo and trying not to this think about it. Got my Santa head on and decided should start playing my keyboard again.

 

[eyemom]

Hi tommyg thanks! In my case, I'm taking the Fertilaid for Women. I don't know what my issue is but dh's SA was good. So I'm just trying it out of desperation.

 

[CaliDreaming]

Hi ladies, everything is going fine for me so far! I still lurk here even if I don't post that often. I'm rooting for all of you and can't wait to see some bfps!!

 

[tommyg]

Sorry Eyemom, getting confused, I've never actually heard of fertiaid for men or women. Just hope it works.

 

[IsaacRalph]

Hey girls! Where to start?
Firstly orchid hey the fact his morphology has improved suggests that his problem is somethingthat can potentially change and get better! Hopefully the urologist will have the answer and it be corrected. I too have lots of faith that pregnancy is very much gonna happen for you guys. He has some even if the numbers aren't great atm some men have literally none! I suppose having an answer for your problem's is also a weight of your mind too so all the specialists and yourselves no what to concentrate on!
Cali- nice of you to stop by you got any early scans lined up?

Tommy- good luck with the rest of your tww mine has been the worst in history! You gonna test?

Gemmy- what dpo are you today?

Eyemom- how's af treating you?
Afm- this cycle has nearly come to a bitter end wow what a drawn out time with worst pms in history! Due on today or tomorrow and the fact my womb feels like it's gonna fall out suggests she is very much on her way! Should hopefully start meds Monday night and be able to arrange a scan a week on Monday too. X

 

[eyemom]

Hi ladies!

Thanks for stopping in Cali! I can only speak for myself, but if you can find time to say hi now and then and let us know how you're doing, seeing happy news does the heart good. Glad things are going well.

No problem tommy. I've only heard of it b/c the site where I buy my cheapie hpts sells Fertilaid also. The women kind has prenatal type ingredients + some herbs which are supposed to help fertility. You stop taking it as soon as you find out you're pregnant though. Same company that makes Fertilaid also makes one called Ovaboost which is supposed to help egg quality, but idk.

Isaac, sorry this tww has been a killer. Glad you have a plan moving forward though, seems like maybe that might help a little.

AFM, this AF has been not-so-bad! I usually have my period for 8 days (though it's really light toward the end). Today is day 4 and it's all but stopped. I was dreading dealing with it while we're out of town, but the cramps are over and it's not really much to contend with anymore. I am getting hormonal headaches which is an issue for a couple of days after the cramps stop. But all in all it's fine. We're having a good time with friends (they're not pregnant again yet), will be visiting family starting tomorrow.

 

[gemmy]

Hey ladies, wishing you all well!! 8dpo here if I did ov on cd15... I expect to have 5 days to go. Can't decide if the heavy feeling I keep feeling on and off low down if an af thing or something new. Too many 2ww s now to know what is what. Bb still sore too. But I still feel a little hopeful. X

 

[WhiteOrchid24]

Ahh I hate that "bowling ball/womb falling out" feeling! It's the worst! Normally I get it when I have my period not before but regardless, it sucks! Has AF reared her ugly head Isaac?

Eyemom - glad AF hasn't been too bad this cycle. Hope you are enjoying your trip and catching up with everyone.

Gemmy & Tommy - any updates in the 2ww?

AFM - nothing much to report. Think I am possibly 3 dpo maybe 2. Not entirely sure. Had symptoms on Thur but nothing Friday, but today I have been getting really sharp horrible pains/twinges right in the middle of my uterus - a little like cramping but sharp. Very strange and a bit of a worry so hope its just something random and nothing I need to worry about! Other than that though nothing to report. Not really expecting anything this month esp. since we weren't able to DTD on Friday. Fertilaid will be here this week - yay! I'm not charting or anything this month and I have to admit it feels lovely!!

I hope you've all had a good weekend

 

[tommyg]

Hi Ladies

I'm about 12 dpo and got a BFN. Was quietly hopeful this month but it could still happen.

 

[IsaacRalph]

Hi Ladies

I'm about 12 dpo and got a BFN. Was quietly hopeful this month but it could still happen.

Hey Tommy sorry about your bfn but your right there's still time yet!
Quick reply at work starting spotting yesterday and full flow still not here yet but it will do, can't phone the clinic until it's full on! Come on af!

 

[WhiteOrchid24]

I agree with Isaac Tommy - there is still time. I know tests these days can be used early but really they do work best once your period is late or at least due! Wait a couple more days and try again - especially if you are thinking things might be different this month. I have my fingers crossed for you. Good luck! x

 

[gemmy]

I agree with issac ralph and white orchid tommy there is still time. Hope you get that bfp!

I am holding out tests until the weekend at least, I will probably be itchy at the end of the week but I don't think I will get that far since bb are getting more sore, I would love to believe that this time it is pregnancy related, I have hope but sense disappointment.

Issac ralph I hope you get going with your cycle soon and af just gets on with it. fx for you

White orchid I hope you did it welcome to the 2ww

Eyemom glad af hasn't been too bad, you are at a nice point, before you know it ov will be here.

Lots of to everyone good luck! And cali glad baby is settling in well x

 

[WhiteOrchid24]

Wow.....I just went onto FB and saw a photo of one of my friends holding a pumpkin in front of her tummy with the caption "We're expecting!". I feel like someone just kicked me in the stomach and I burst out crying Although I always feel a sense of disappointment when I hear someone else is pregnant with Baby number 2 this one is really tough. Her DS is 6 weeks younger than mine but she always said she wanted a big gap between her children and she is the LAST of my friends who already have children to have her 2nd. I am so delighted for her but at the same time utterly crushed. I just want it to happen to us SO badly and it seems like with literally all of my friends they just click their fingers when they want to and bam they are pregnant! Wow - this feels horrible!!! I want it to pass

Only good thing is we are having a party on Saturday and they are coming so I am SO glad I found out today rather than at the party in front of everyone! TBH I have been expecting this - I knew it was only a matter of time before the news came, I just never in a million years expected it to be so hard.

Sorry for the rant girls - I'm shocked at myself for my own reaction - maybe it was the whole "FB" thing although it was cute. One strong cup of tea coming my way (Oh and just to really screw me up what's with this new B&B format!!!)

 

[gemmy]

we understand so well rant away x

 

[tommyg]

Yip feel free to rant, thats was bnb is for!

 

[IsaacRalph]

Aww orchid I think all of us girls have been in your position I know I have several times this year alone! For me though its defo getting easier as I sort of just expect it fo happen and for people around me to get pregnant with ease. I sometimes feel I must've been a bad person in another life or something?? But then most days I look at my little gorgeous perfect son and think I'm the luckiest women in the world! If he is supposed to be our only child I will not be miserable forever because he is just amazing! Hope your feeling better today?? Just think you don't have to follow in the same path as all your friends and when your baby comes it will be at the right time for you as a family!
Good luck gemmy hoping you get your bfp when you test xx
Afm- af arrived yesterday so phoned clinic and start meds tomorrow!

 

[eyemom]

Sorry this will be a short one b/c I only meant to lurk but then just had to comment....

tommy, sorry for your bfn. Fx it's just too soon.

Orchid I feel ya, doesn't make you a bad person to have those feelings. I know you're happy for her. But you just can't help but feel sad for yourself. I definitely get it. Sometimes you just gotta rant so when you need to, we are listening ears!

Isaac, sorry AF got you but yay about the meds. Onto the next, praying this works for you quickly!

Hi gemmy *waves* crossing my fingers for you too!



AFM, nothing to report. Going home this evening. Has been a nice trip, but will be happy to sleep in my own bed.

 

[WhiteOrchid24]

Thanks so much ladies. It's amazing that just knowing other ppl understand fully can make such a difference. I'm feeling much better today - I knew it was just the initial reaction but that one was definitely hard to take. Of course when I mentioned to DH that I had been upset his response was "Great for them!" (which I agree with) then told me how I can't let things like that upset me!! Makes it very difficult as feel I have to be a little careful as to what I say as would hate to upset him or make him feel in anyway bad. Anyway fine now although might still have twangs of heartache at the party on Saturday when I see not 1 but 2 pregnant ppl.

The one positive thing that came out of it for me was that it really made me realise that I desperately do still want another baby and I'm not ready to give up on that yet. I'm a believer that things happen for a reason and so I have found myself in the last few months wondering if there is a deeper reason that we can't get pregnant. I get tired a lot so wonder if I would manage with another baby, especially since DS has slept through the night for years!!! And I had a horrible pregnancy followed by a bad labour so of course all these things ring out in my mind sometimes but I know I'm just making excuses to myself and so yesterdays reaction was a good thing for me as it clarified exactly how I feel! Hope that makes sense!!

Sorry that AF arrived Isaac but since you knew it was coming I'm happy for you as you can now get started with your meds!! How exciting. I know for me just knowing that we are now being referred to specialists has made me feel a lot happier as I feel we are finally being proactive so although I know you must be nervous it's super exciting to really be a giving a good try! I have my fingers crossed tightly for you!

Tommy - any luck?

To everyone else hope you are all doing well. Eyemom - enjoy being in your own bed tonight - I know how lovely that feels after being away. Gemmy - what day are you on now? I'm either 4 or 5 dpo and have had some mild cramping pains yesterday and twinges of sensitive breasts already so that's definitely not a good sign! Doesn't normally start this early but at least by the time AF shows I'll be more than prepared!

Hugs to you all