35 and over and ltttc for baby #2 for over 2.5yrs!

[tommyg]

Hugs Wish, I truly Wish you the very best. I'm so sad to hear that you have split up. It seems so out of the blue. I'm hoping that you are both able to sort your differences.

You've really been a bright light on this thread supporting everyone when your own situation wasn't looking hopeful. I hope your able to keep going on strong.

 

[momwithbabies]

Wish...thinking of you, sweet lady. Life truly sucks sometimes.

 

[Cookie1979]

Oh I'm so very sorry wish, must be really tough especially after everything you have been through. Concentrate on your girls and glad you have your mum to support you.

Tommy - I didn't know they did iui on the nhs. Good luck with the ivf xx

 

[eyemom]

Hey ladies,

tommy that's just so outrageous that they could mess up an IUI so badly. Excited for your IVF journey though.

I did try soft cups when ttc but gave up on them after a few months. I wasn't using them when I did get pg (on Clomid).

Wish *hugs* thanks for your cheerful spirit. I know you must not be feeling it sometimes, so as I say that don't feel like you have to act cheerful if you're having a down day. But you are lovely and you are missed when you're not online!

HI everyone!

 

[happyhourmama]

Hi everyone!
I'm so happy to have found a forum that is supportive and positive - it's not always easy .
My husband and I have a beautiful 2/12 year old girl. It took five months of trying to become pregnant naturally. It surprised most of the doctors because I have endometriosis, fibroids and a pituitary tumor. Despite these things, I never doubted I was meant to become pregnant and have a baby!
We've now been trying for 18 months for baby #2. It's a mental trip, that's for sure . My prolactin levels were a little high from the tumor so I've been on meds for that for 5 months. Other than that, we've been going very natural but doing everything possible - temps, ovulation tracking, diet, acupuncture.
We are going to give it another few months and then go back to the doctor for more testing to see what our next steps are.
I'm thankful every day for our girl and know in my bones our next baby is waiting for us - I just wish I knew when and how!!!
Thanks in advance for all of your support and just for being here. I'm sending prayers and love out for all of you!
xoxo

 

[eyemom]

Hiii happyhourmama. Welcome. Mental trip, yes ma'am that's one way of putting it hehe. I hope it happens soon for you!

 

[tommyg]

Hello Happyhourmama, hope you find a lot of support here. It sounds like you have a lot going on.

This is a great place with tons of support from people still on the journey and ladies who have got their babies or pregnant who continue to pop in and lend support.

Eyemom, I'm fine with what happened, this journey has been so long and hard that I no longer build my hopes up about anything. I'm not even building my hopes up for the IVF, which is odd when you are about to gamble so much money.

 

[tommyg]

As I thought the witch has finally arrived. I'm certain they mistook a empty cyst for a follical. However week or so and we see the IVF clinic.

 

[KTJ006]

Hi ladies...I have secretly been looking at this thread for a while. I've thought about popping on but am still having a hard time accepting things, and you never know how welcoming certain threads are.

Our story is tiring (at least for me). I have been pregnant 4 times. Each time we were successful on the first try. How that has happened, I have no clue. But I definitely took all that for granted. Out of the 4 pregnancies, we have 2 beautiful kiddos - ages 5 and 3. The last time we were pregnant, it ended in a missed miscarriage. I was almost 12 weeks but was measuring only 8. I chose to have a D&C, which I'm afraid that decision will haunt me for the rest of my life. I thought it would provide closure quickly since my body obviously wasn't ready to give up the baby. The procedure went smoothly but then I became sick 2 days later and ended up in the hospital with an infection and bleeding. After recovering from that, we started TTC right away. I thought it would take no time to get pregnant again as it has in the past. Well...flash forward over 18 months, a laparoscopy, hysteroscopy, hydro, HSG, blood tests galore, sperm analysis and many many ultrasounds, we still are not pregnant. Everything, from a Western medicine standpoint, is normal. My RE said if she HAD to find something, it was that my AMH (which measures ovarian reserve) could be viewed as the lower side of normal, but it's still normal. Besides that one little bit, they can't find anything wrong. I was diagnosed with unexplained secondary infertility. Our next option is Femara with an IUI, but I really want to try to avoid that. I just started acupuncture as a last resort. I'm on prenatals only but am also considering a hefty investment in essential oils in hopes to again avoid an IUI. Our faith has been rocked. My mood is low. That little hope I have each month is slowly dwindling. My 5 year old has randomly been talking about wanting another baby the past few months. If only she knew how hard we are trying and how much we want that too. I've had to deactivate Facebook because I just can't take another pregnancy announcement or birth announcement (I'm sure that's selfish sounding, but I need to get out of this cloud I'm in before I can see any of those). I'm not even sure what cycle day I'm on this month as I refused to do any tracking, but I already know AF is about a week out because I always get one particular symptom at this time that tells me she's coming. So now we continue to wait. And try. We've decided to try naturally until the end of this year, then start on the Femara in January. But I'm having doubts about that. I just hate medicine like that.

Anywho...that's a long and unorganized essay I wrote. I know you all are going through similar and harder battles. It's not fair. And I will pray every night that the dreams of our hearts are one day a reality.

 

[WhiteOrchid24]

Hi girls!

Welcome HappyHourMamma and KTJ - I'm sorry you've both found yourselves here but since you are in the situation this is the thread to be a part of. I've been part of it from the very beginning and have 'met' some wonderful ladies on here. What we are all going through is so difficult so having others in the same situation helps even though I'm sure none of us would wish infertility on anyone....

I've not been on as much as I used to because after just over 3 1/2 long years I finally got my BFP after IVF and I have being suffering really bad morning sickness but I definitely don't plan to leave this thread as I have received so much support and want to continue to give it to anyone that needs it! So bare with me if I disappear for a while!!

KTJ - I know the decision to go down the assisted conception route is really hard and everyone is different but if you do decide to go that route I can promise you it's not as bad as you think. I did acupuncture during my IVF and it made a world of difference so I think you are off to a great start with that. Unexplained is so difficult as there isn't one particular thing to focus on but sometimes as hard as that is maybe it's better than having that 1 specific thing and feeling guilty or blaming etc... If that makes sense. I think trying naturally til the end of the year is a great idea but if it doesn't happen and you do need to go on the Femara don't beat yourself up about it. Sometimes for whatever reason we need a bit of help to get us where we want to be. If you were sick and the Dr needed to prescribe a certain drug to help you get better I'm sure you wouldn't hesitate so taking Femara might just boost things a little and help you get to where you want to be. Anyway you aren't alone so try and stay strong although I know that's a lot easier said than done. Good luck - hopefully your stay on this thread is a short one and you get that BFP! Same to you HappyHourMama!!

How is everyone else doing? I'm thinking of you all and whenever I'm feeling a bit better I will be back on here. Big hugs xxx

 

[Braven05]

Welcome to the new ladies. I'm sorry you've found yourself here, but everyone is very supportive. Good luck to you both.

Tommy, sorry about AF but fx everything for the ivf goes smoothly.

Wish, so sorry to hear about your troubles. I hope things start to look up for you.

AFM, nothing to report. Hubby and I still working on eating well and exercising everyday. Had a gyn appointment this week and, as I knew I would, left in tears. Going through my details, he asked if I was on birth control and I said no. Then he asked if I was sexually active. (duh, I'm married) I said yes and he said, "then why aren't you pregnant??" mind you, I've told him we were TTC and he referred me to the RE. Then he told me if I wasn't going to get pregnant I should be on birth control. Um what? Does that make sense? Like I'm choosing not to get pregnant. Then I left after discussing things further feeling like it's all because I'm fat and old and it's all my fault. Such an insensitive prick. Ugh. Anyways, praying af shows before we head on our cruise on a week and a half!

 

[Wish4another1]

braven - your doctor is an ass
what an absolute jerk - and I say if he can't remember even referring you to an RE - fire him... is there ANYONE else you can go to for your gyn needs?? seriously life is too short for this guy to be telling you to be on birth control... please don't let that jerk get you down... keep on with the exercising and eating right... seriously I would drop kick that ass to the curb!!!

KT and happyhourmamma - I too welcome you and hope your time here is SHORT!! keep the faith ladies it will happen...

Orchid - I am sorry the morning sickness is kicking your butt - I sure hope it is over soon - I can't believe you are almost to second tri!!! Yay!!!

tommy - your clinic makes me mad as braven's doctor does... inept and seriously they should know better... but I know you are moving on - and I appreciate your dedication and lack of bitterness... I am hoping that your baby #2 is just around the corner...

thank you Cookie and MWB for your sweet thoughts for me...

to everyone else I know I am missing some...
I am trying to stay off of BnB more and more... This part of my life is over now - but I love you ladies so I keep logging in the check on you. My husband is showing no remorse or anything about our situation - nor has he even apologize for his unspeakable words and behavior... and now I am getting evidence of him being with someone else... or at least he is hiding something... so I am moving on - I have separated our finances and will meet with a lawyer at some point in October... yeah not what I imagined at all but girls please know I am ok. I have a great counselor that I am meeting with once a week and a few good tears here and there ... mostly cause I feel like a fool... There are many good things in my life - and a possibly deployment in 2017... God is good - he hasn't changed even though my circumstances have - keep smiling ladies!!!

(and I sure do wish real life had these animated smilies!!)

 

[tommyg]

Hello Ladies

Braven what a twat to suggest going on the pill when TTC. Did he miss that class at uni? However good to hear that you are sticking with the weight loss / gym. Honestly it is much easier said than done. I'm hoping that loosing a little weight will get you that BFP.

Wish, The Queen 👑 of the smiley, I'm sorry you and your lovely girls are going through what you are going through. It's clear something has changed him and he clearly isn't fussed. You know what its his loss.
As for me not being bitter, yes I'm disappointed, but its hard to be bitter with the specialist nurses who are always lovely to me. More globally its the same hospital who dealt with my burst appendix about 12 years ago, without it I just wouldn't be here.
But I'm ready to give the IVF a shot and see what happens.

Cookie / Orchard hope the pregnancies are going well it must be ages since we've had 2 pregnant ladies at the same time.

mWB how are you doing, I've lost track of where you are at.

The new ladies hope your time here is short.

Hope I haven't missed anyone I'm on my phone and its not was to scroll back.

 

[KTJ006]

Thanks all

Braven - I had to re-read your post because I couldn't believe your GYN said all that. Is he always that ignorant? That would be enough for me to start looking for a new doctor. TTC is such a sensitive subject. You would think since it's part of his world he would tip-toe around the subject a bit better.

White - congrats on your BFP! And thank you for your words. Truly. I think I fear the Femara because of the chance of multiples. This may sound hypocritical, but we are not in a place for twins/multiples. We would love a third, but it would be very, very, very difficult if we received beyond that. And I'm still holding onto hope that my body had no issues before, so perhaps it'll get that way again. Perhaps come the end of the year I'll have a different mindset.

Wish - I don't know your whole story but I hope whatever it is you're going through you get through it and come out an even better and happier person than you were before. You sound like such a positive person - keep at it!

Hope everyone is doing well. We are about to get hit with some crazy rain tomorrow and over the weekend. Why does it always rain on the weekends? Guess it'll be movie and game days

 

[momwithbabies]

Tommy: Thanks for asking about me. I'm super depressed today. I should be due November 6th, and the reality of my miscarriage is taking its toll. I opened the mailbox today to find a box of free baby formula samples. I must have signed up for something on the Internet when I was pregnant, idk. To make matters worse, we are going to a wedding today...a wedding which I remember thinking I would be huge at. Instead, an empty womb and waiting for AF. It feels like the world is against you, sometimes.

Sorry to unload all of that, but it does feel better to vent. I've cried a bit today, so my eyes will be nice and puffy this evening at the wedding.

Did AF make her way out? I hope good news is headed your way soon.

Wish: What a ba*****! I'm so sorry, but I'm glad you're finding out his true colors before he hurts you more. Blessings as you move on and heal from this.

Braven: I'm so sorry. Doctors can be so ignorant sometimes. A lot of them lack emotional, relationship skills, or at least the ones I've dealt with do - But that's no excuse for not updating himself on your medical history. What an idiot. I hope you find a better one that doesn't have their head up their ass.

October is here! I'm so excited for the fall weather and leaves changing.

 

[Srbjbex]

Hi everyone.. Sorry I've been absent lately, ive been trying to keep up with posts. I've had a horrendously busy time at work, then last week we were on holiday for a much needed week away. We went down to Dorset and struck it so lucky with the weather - wouldn't believe it was October!

Welcome to the new ladies. I've been part of this thread for around a year now. Secondary infertility is such a hard thing to process and get your head around, and the support I have found on this thread has been invaluable and helped me so much throughout this journey.

Wish - so so sorry to hear all that you have been going through. It's sounds like you have some great support around you so hold on in there. You've been such a support on this thread so thank you for everything you have given us

Orchid - great to hear from you! Can't believe how quickly your pregnancy seems to be going...although I bet it doesn't feel like that to you

Tommy - good luck in the next stage of your journey , have you had your ivf appointment now?

Braven - cant believe what I just read, your gyn sounds a complete idiot!!! Time to ditch!!

Mwb - big big hugs to you. Make sure you cash in some real hugs tonight from OH.

I've tried to catch everyone, sorry if I've missed anyone. AFM I'm about half way through my TWW. Obviously first cycle of TTC since surgery so I'm feeling more hopeful than I have been for long time, although saying that it feels very 'normal' so far, no symptoms as such nd boobs starting to be tender s they normally would do. See if we can make it to the end of next weekend hey.

 

[tommyg]

Good luck Bex

My first appointment with the clinic was today, so far so good. Get blood results etc in a week or so.

 

[momwithbabies]

Hi, ladies. I've been on a TTC break ever since my miscarriage and it's looking like I won't be going anywhere. Some issue have come up with my daughter (7). She hasn't been eating and is losing weight. She has this fear she is going to choke on her food. This has been going on for two weeks, so I took her to the doctor to make sure it wasn't something physical. The doctor said it seems to be anxiety issues, which I believe started with my miscarriage (very traumatic). Unfortunately, my daughter witnessed the bleeding and me being loaded up into the ambulance. I think this event triggered her anxiety, as this episode with eating isn't the first issue she's struggled with. It's unbearable to see your child hungry, but they can't swallow their food. Please pray hard for her and our family. It seems like it's been one thing after another lately. The doctor said she needs to see a therapist, so we are looking into that.

 

[tommyg]

Sorry to hear that. Hope she gets help soon. Hugs x

 

[Srbjbex]

mwb - so sorry to hear that. I hope you all manage to find peace soon. xxx

tommy - what did the clinic say the next steps were, what blood tests did they do? AMH?

AFM - my AF showed last week so I was very sad about that as I'd got myself built up that I was going to be all fixed from the surgery! But hey ho - I'm also used to disappointment as we all are! I'm nearly back round to fertile time again so here we go!

And also I got great news that my brother and SIL are expecting their first! Which will also be Elliot's first cousin - I'm so excited for them (even though they live in Germany and wont get to see them loads). If we cant manage a sibling then a cousin is definitely the next best thing! Most pregnancy announcements hurt but this one really didn't - was absolutely over the moon for them!