35 and over and ltttc for baby #2 for over 2.5yrs!

[tommyg]

Bex that's good news. I find news of first babies easier to take than second babies.

Sorry the witch got you. But give it time. Few people get pregnant on their first month trying (I know its no but its first after you've been fixed)

AFM Yes she checked AMH. And did a scan confirming PCOS. Still waiting on the results coming back. DH SA is back no issues. Remember this is a new to us clinic who insist on redoing the tests. Next appointment is a week on Monday.

 

[Cookie1979]

Hey ladies, I hope you all are doing ok.

Bex - very exciting that you are going to become an auntie, I have a niece due next month and either a niece or nephew in March. Busy busy!! My son loves his cousin, who is a year younger than him, so much so he wants to marry her lol. xx

Tommy - best of luck with all the tests and ivf. My friend who has been trying two years has decided they are going to give ivf a try, they don't have kids and all the tests done on the nhs have come back normal but month after month nothing. Feel so bad for her. IVF is not cheap though so they are currently saving. Keeping all my fingers and toes crossed for you. xx

Momwithbabies - I hope your daughter gets better soon xx

Wanted to check in and see how you are all doing.

AFM - I'm doing ok, although because falling over once in pregnancy wasn't enough, I have now fallen over twice! I mean seriously...apparently staying on my feet is too much to ask. This time I was outside the school gates, it was raining, I was calling to my son to slow down on his scooter and wasn't paying attention to where I was walking and tripped on the curb. Lucky when I fell and got most impact on my knees and arm, although did fall on my side. Ended up going to Triage in Labour ward to be checked over and given an anti d jab, all was fine with baby so big relief, did worry me. That happened Thursday and baby is nice and active still so feel like I can relax now. No more scootering to school for my son, we are walking and I'm not going to rush after him and risk another fall. He's not happy but he speeds off and I lose sight of him which is how come I was concentrating on him rather than myself. Other than that all is good, feeling surprisingly well although heartburn has kicked in.

xx

 

[tommyg]

Oh Cookie what the heck is it with 4.5 year olds and cloth ears and not listening? When you find an answer let me know! I really wish DS had cousins closer in age. Exciting times.

AFM both sets of results have came back great other than the PCOS. AMH is really high and SA is good. We see the consultant next week.

 

[Srbjbex]

Tommy that's great news about your results.....nice for you to get good news for a change!

Cookie - lovely to hear from you although sorry to hear about your fall. Glad everything was ok though!

 

[Braven05]

Been so quiet around here. How's everyone doing?

 

[tommyg]

Hello Braven how are you doing?
I'm doing ok, need to get some tests from my GP ie copies of my rubella immunity and smear test, and some blood test that were done by the NHS clinic (or get them done again at my expense) we next see the clinic at the beginning of December. I'm a little disappointed we are to late to get the ivf done this side of Christmas but what ever.

 

[Braven05]

Aw I'm sorry Tommy. Hopeful you'll be able to move forward soon after.

I'm okay. Just here. That's about it lol

 

[Srbjbex]

Hi everyone - no news here, currently 13dpo and waiting for AF to show at any moment... hate this bit - the longer it takes to arrive, the more my hope builds and the bigger the disappointment.

Tommy - rubbish you have to wait until after Christmas, but in the long term that's not too bad. Christmas is only a few weeks away! Hang on in there and stay positive!!

Hi all!!

 

[Srbjbex]

Everytime I post an update like that my AF arrives!! haha

CD 1 for me again!

 

[Cookie1979]

Hi ladies, wanted to check in and see how you are doing.

Tommy - sorry you won't get to do ivf this side of Christmas but 2016 is going to be your year. A new year and a new start where anything can happen.

Bex - sorry the witch got you xx good luck for this next cycle.

Hope you are ok brave. X

Afm - 29 weeks now, all is going well...no more falls since the fall outside school, hopefully that's it for me being clumsy. Having in law issues, always thought I was quite lucky with the in laws but apparently not. Sometimes feel like families are more hassle than they are worth. I won't go into whats happening but would seem I have an inconsiderate and unreasonable Mil. I mean don't worry that I'm pregnant and it was the 6th anniversary of my mums death yesterday, like I don't have enough to deal with. Feel very anxious right now. Anywho got to stop letting people get to me.

As I said pregnancy is going well, after this week I've got 6 weeks left at work so roll on 18th December.

Xx

 

[Wish4another1]

hi ladies
Cookie - sorry to hear about your MIL - and families can be quite taxing for sure... my father died 6 years ago yesterday... I am sorry we share that day of sorrow!!! can't believe you are 29 weeks!!! wow!!

tommy - I am still rooting for you lady!!! 2016 is your year I know it!

bex - cd 1 is a new start!! I am cd 1 today after a 60 cycle!!

braven - lady I hope you are hanging in there!!

AFM: I am hanging in there - finally done with my 60 day cycle... I have seen the first draft of my divorce papers - hoping my attorney gets them mailed to "him who shaint be named" soon and I can move on...
I have sad days , angry days and blah days ... its part of it I guess... still rooting and cheering for you all!!!

 

[tommyg]

Wish and Cookie it's weird you both lost parents on the same day. Hugs to you both.

Cookie sorry the ILs are being a pain. Hope things settle down. You don't have long to go are you keeping ok?

Wish how are you and your lovely girls? I'm hoping you are able to put the ex behind you and get on with your life. I'm still shocked at what he has done to you. I'm guessing you must be too.

 

[Braven05]

Hugs for some peace in all of this Wish. I can't imagine what you're going through.

AFM, feeling slightly irritated this evening. You would think at my age I wouldn't have to deal with my newsfeed being inundated with pregnancy announcements. Everybody and their brother is pregnant. It's annoying. And I texted a friend who has a one year old and asked how she was doing and she said they were having trouble conceiving. I feel for her... but coming up on 3.5 years of trying I have a hard time with empathy, since she has a one year old. I'm a grump today. Sorry.

Hope everyone else is okay.

 

[Cookie1979]

Brave - totally get where you were coming from, I was coming up to 2 years of trying and my friend was moaning about struggling to conceive after a few months...a few months is not a struggle. I think people need to think before they speak, because it's very insensitive. Your friend with a one year old I cannot believe has had enough chance to have trouble, and to say that to you knowing how long you've been trying, well that's cruel really and I don't blame you for being annoyed. xx

Wish - I find that time heals but at the same time the more years that pass the more sadness you feel that it's been so long. I'm very sorry for your loss. Must be really really hard to be going through all this with the divorce, you seem like a very strong lady and I really hope you are doing ok. xx

Tommy I'm doing ok thank you, I find I am more anxious than usual and every time I eat meat I seem to think I'm going to get food poisoning, its always been there this paranoia about food, but its never been every time and never effected me like this. I've noticed though with the family issues going on I get paranoid and don't want to eat, last night I made lasagne, I love lasagne, I could barely eat it because of my paranoia. I haven't stopped eating meat completely (and its meat that makes me paranoid) but if I carry on as I am I will end up not wanting to eat it at all. Definitely think the food anxiety is linked to the problems with the in laws and my husbands refusal to deal with them is making it worse. I get where he is coming from, he's not in the wrong and his mother is being unreasonable, I just honestly cannot believe that a simple get together has been turned into a complete and utter shambles. They are all so ridiculous. If they talked about things then they wouldn't get blown out of proportion. The person that will suffer from this is my son, and I think thats my main worry, he talks about his grandparents and he'll be wanting to see them soon and I don't want to explain to him that he can't see them. If they want nothing to do with us, then I might not have a choice. I don't want my child being hurt.

Pregnancy wise everything is good, my midwife measured me last week and I'm right on track...whereas after my second fall the midwife there measured me and measured me big but I had a feeling she got it wrong, so its nice to know I'm on track. All blood tests have come back normal, I don't have gestational diabetes (the pcos and diabetes in my family put me at higher risk) and I'm pretty comfortable. Baby is moving lots, I feel him plenty despite the anterior placenta. So all in all everything is great with my pregnancy. Tired though but thats due to sleepless nights with my son and his coughing, but on a really positive note, usually by now he's been in hospital at least 2 times, but he's not been wheezing, lots of coughing but no bad wheezing and no hospital admittances, really hoping we've seen the last of it all.

Sorry for waffling on x

 

[Srbjbex]

Braven - I feel your pain. Facebook pregnancy announcements are the worst! I'm gearing up the the fact it is possible now that some of my mummy friends might be onto their number 3 soon possibly - that will be tough with me still slogging away for #2.

Cookie - lovely to hear from you. I know it probably doesn't feel like it to you, but it really does feel like your pg is flying! Sorry to hear that your family issues are causing your anxiety - I hope things have calmed down a bit now.

Tommy - how you doing?

AFM - I'm oving as we speak so a weekend of Bding ahead for us! Took a decision with month than we didn't BD until I got my +ve opk , normally we do BD all the week before then have almost run out of steam by the time ov happens!! haha!! so we'll try this tactic instead! Also I've booked another trial embryo transfer for a couple of weeks time. I know we are meant to be having some time off and doing it naturally for a bit, but I decided I needed to know whether (post op) IVF would now be possible. The op was a success so it should be, but there's always a chance scar tissue has reformed etc. Basically I don't want to try naturally for 6 months or so, on the basis that we'll do IVF at a set point, then get to that point and have the disappointment. I need to know now if that's not an option for us. So another trial for me on 1 December.

Also, I don't think I'll last much into the new year before wanting IVF - I have an overwhelming NEED to have a 2016 baby, it feels right for me!

 

[CarlyP]

Hello I have been directed here by Srbjbex, nice to meet you all

I am 29, OH 36, we have DS 8 and DD 4 and are desperate for #3.

Both DS and DD took 9 months of NTNP but for some reason this one is just not working.

I have had 2 blood tests done through my GP, I ovulated on one but not the other, OH SA is fine, so she referred me to a gynecologist at my local hospital, my appointment came through today and it's Christmas eve lol! Hoping it's a good sign with the Christmas spirit and all that

I'm not sure what to expect at my appointment, I have found a lot have had to have a scan but unsure if I will have to because I do ovulate just not every month?

Looking forward to getting to know you all.

 

[Srbjbex]

Hi carly... welcome on over! Sorry to hear your struggles! Hopefully the gyn appointment will be gelpftul for you and suggest some solutions! Amazed they gave you an appointment on Christmas eve!! Where abouts in the world are you?

Bit of background on me (in short ) I've been ttc #2 for over 2 years now. After a year of try we got tested and found a low sperm count...but that was a bit of a red herring. My main issue is severe scarring from my c section in 2012. Ive had 2 ops do far to try and correct and we're currently trying naturally for a bit to see if the latest op has done any good, before looking at ivf in the new year. We were ready for ivf last april but the scarring was so bad we couldn't even do that . Were hoping that as a minimum the op has made ivf possible. We find that out next tuesday!

 

[CarlyP]

Thank you I'm in the UK (North East) I was pretty shocked myself, hoping it's not a rushed appointment either because I'm sure they'll all want to leave for Christmas.

What a nightmare for you, I didn't realize c-section could hinder other pregnancies. What did they do during your op?

 

[Srbjbex]

Hi ladies - I had some bad news on Tuesday, it was my trial embryo transfer. Unfortunately it failed. Whereas he thought he was now able to 'find a way through' after the work he did in my op, the needle for the transfer was still getiing stuck in the 'false passage' and there was no way he would be able to get an embryo into my womb. He tried for the best part of an hour with all sorts of different methods etc, but couldn't find a way

So IVF is still not something we can look at - I was ready to start this in the new year and now I feel like we are back at square one again. Consultant has told me not to give up, but I will be looking at more surgery....open, risky surgery...I don't know if I can go there again. I was geared up for it before but don't know if I can do it. the risks are bad.... lifetime catheter, or hysterectomy are the worst case scenarios and there is a 1-10% chance of this.

I've cried a lot, and boiled it down to the following options:
1) Accept we will have 1 child, accept it and move on
2) Go for the surgery in the light of the risks, on the hope I could then do IVF
3) Consider a surrogate (as my eggs are plentiful) - I have a friend who potentially might help....she has flippantly said in the past she would.
4) Consider adoption - another friend is going through this right now, so I have learnt a bit about the process along the way.

I don't know, I cant believe this is happening. My consultant said to me I am the most complicated, difficult case he has ever come across, and he's going to take my scans etc to conference to discuss with other gynaecologists.

 

[Braven05]

Hugs bex, I'm so sorry to hear about this. Not what you had hoped for at all. Fingers crossed you guys can weigh your options and figure out the best course.