Trying to catch up here.
Carole, I'm so sorry about what your going through. While we didn't have issues like you we were asked to have a pediatric cardiologist appointment in MY opinion too early. We ended up waiting WEEKS for a second fetal ultrasound. The 1st cardiologist jumped the gun and assumed without any REAL diagnosis but a "hunch" that Amelia could have Fetal ASD Arterial Septal Defect. I was worried for WEEKS. It ticked me off to no end that not only did he assume she had it from what now was a shadow of the picture they got but he also went into detail to share that it was mostly assumed with down syndrome. So I was upset for my daughters health and well being. It was CJ here that put my heart at ease until we got an "official" picture later on in my trimester. I will NEVER let them do that fetal ultrasound again until I'm close to 20wks.
This is obviously different than the brain scan, however I've learned from this past pregnancy NOT to jump the gun. Often they like to be thorough which is AWESOME! However, sometimes they say too much too soon without having a detailed diagnosis where in our case, had they waited a few weeks, they would have seen her heart better (she was breech the whole time) and wouldn't have started talking through their noses about things that didn't end up to be a problem. I'm the type of person that likes a "KNOW when you actually KNOW" kinda person and not a dx by guessing-game until the facts come out.
Let CJ's comments help put your mind at ease for right now UNLESS you get facts. Then you can figure things out from there. FEAR is only going to put you over the edge at a time you need to be calm for both you and baby. Right now there's no proof. Cross that bridge when you get there dear and try not to google EVER AGAIN.
oh golly did that put me over the edge too.
One symptom could cause MANY outcomes and it's just not the type of stress you and baby need right now.
Beth, Oh goodness!
I'm STILL hormonal. I swear the progesterone injection I had to keep Amelia from preterm stayed in my system for MONTHS after. I ended up with post PUPPS which usually take place DURING pregnancy, and I still have a lump on my rear-end that's from the oil. I wonder if my progesterone is still high so I'm going to call tomorrow to see what my levels are.
It takes time to get through the emotional aspect, lack of sleep, new lifestyle, etc.
REFLUX. Holy moly! Amelia had it all. The arching back, the slight spitup, terrible crying fits (we didn't know it was because she was on her back until we figured she had reflux) sleeping issue and LOTS of hiccups. poor kid. She's getting better. I think my milk wasn't efficient enough for her. What I was eating..the fact that I have PCOS and am hypothyroid/type II diabetic on meds...I just think it didn't give her what she needed along with her peanut butter tongue. So going to formula (she's on Neutromogen) for reflux has been very helpful. I pumped and froze for her cereal.
I know now more for next pregnancy and will speak up a bit more and know that I know my baby and his or her needs more than several Dr.'s with different opinions for the same issue.
I'm also finding that I'm less Neurotic with her now. She needs room to explore and enjoy the world. Me hovering over her will only make her anxious. So I'm laying off. It's helpful for us both because I'm LESS stressed about her. Of course I went from one thing to now another where I'm stressing over getting the heck out of here.
Yesterday the new girl who moved in to the rental next to ours, her new roomate
and several other girls were fighting with their mother. (apple doesn't fall too far from the tree) Fighting from 9pm until my husband got home at midnight. They shut the heck up and at 2am this morning one of them with their boyfriend started pounding on the door (second time this week). I finally went out and reminded them it was 2am and my daughter was asleep. They informed me they were locked out.
Either go somewhere for the night or flipping get another key idiot! Beer cans all over the lawn. So much for the landlord wanting to get rid of riff raff out of the community. He's not really caring about the constant men coming in and out of the place next door or the fact that the lawn is now filled with mud because they're parking all over the lawn. I should remember what it was like to be in my 20's but I was flipping out f-bombs in arguments every night with a poor little 3 year old in my presence while smoking like stacks bringing a different man over EVERY night (or so it seems). I also find it embarassing that this chick comes out in just a blanket in the middle of winter to smoke on the sidewalk at noon when we have guests over and also in front of my husband.
Oh is it going to take all I've got not to knock some sense into these kids. As a former foster parent, I'm just sick over this poor little boy being in the middle of it. You could here him trying to divert the arguments yesterday by saying..mommy!! mommy look!! Mommy I love you....but nobody even acknowledged he was there. Not to mention we were hearing MORE than we needed to know about court dates and mis-parenting.
Hopefully I don't sound like I'm on some pedestal. I'm just frustrated and have to be "patient, kind, gentle, etc..... It's a far cry from saying what's on my mind".
I am sure things will be just fine and there is nothing to worry about but you are both in my thoughts and prayers.
about how there is something wrong with the baby because he feeds all the time or spits up all the time or doesn't sleep except for in our arms (if we put him down, he just fusses loudly but no crying and that can be tough to listen to). He doesn't get that Poppy is too little to have a sense of time yet, so he will sleep all day and be up some at night - he is just 3 weeks old for heaven's sake! sigh. But thank you all for your support 
Breaks my heart when she cries!!
