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[Love_Krystal]

Yay for you dtd Charlie! I was thinking today I hope I don't get pregnant yet bur if I do oh well I want a big family!

& I completely disagree! I was a virgin when I got married ( by choice bc of my religious beliefs) & it wasn't as bad as everyone said .. We had great sex on our honeymoon ...& I was terrified too the other day an even told DH I was sorry if it hurt & I couldn't go thru with it ... But I just relaxed & It was better than before
to me Maybe bc it had been so long lol but nothing like being a virgin?! I think people like to dramatize things & make them scary!

Silas doesn't like it Natalie I just squirt it in his mouth and he makes faces ... And I just give it to him whenever ...I've even put it in his bottle at night (that I pump) just so he didn't have to taste it!

Silas was 7lb 10 at birth, got down to 6 lb 13, but was back at 7lb 13 at 2 weeks, he will be 6 weeks on Friday and I'm thinking he's about 10 lbs maybe? He has seemed to start putting on more weight this week ... Eating way more and way more often so maybe now that he is over thrush he will eat better. He doesn't get weighed in for 2 more weeks!

 

[CharlieKeys]

Natalie - I'm not driving.... nor are the in-laws - cause I can have a drink MIL said she'll watch the boys for me if I choose to have a few.... I'm sure I'll figure something out! awww and thank you but we need to get a new flask and the formula pot things cause we travel loads and def just gonna use the ready-made ones, it's gonna be so much easier! The only good thing about this wedding at the moment is teh bar is a FREE bar I've had issues with my dress, the car needs repairing tomorrow, formula and bottle issues, stephen's dinner issues, stressing out about the ceremony nad keeping the boys entertained/quiet! I admire how well you got on and you have the in-laws from hell!

Krystal - you're totally right, it isn't like being a virgin again It is one of those things you hear but is a bit of an over-reaction. As long as you're ready, relaxed and aim to enjoy it, it should be like normal! It does feel a bit weird at first and then the more you get into it and start to relax it feels as good as before If you're a bit dry (which apparently you do tend to be after giving birth) then use a lubricant

 

[DaretoDream]

Yay for you dtd Charlie! I was thinking today I hope I don't get pregnant yet bur if I do oh well I want a big family!

& I completely disagree! I was a virgin when I got married ( by choice bc of my religious beliefs) & it wasn't as bad as everyone said .. We had great sex on our honeymoon ...& I was terrified too the other day an even told DH I was sorry if it hurt & I couldn't go thru with it ... But I just relaxed & It was better than before
to me Maybe bc it had been so long lol but nothing like being a virgin?! I think people like to dramatize things & make them scary!

Silas doesn't like it Natalie I just squirt it in his mouth and he makes faces ... And I just give it to him whenever ...I've even put it in his bottle at night (that I pump) just so he didn't have to taste it!

Silas was 7lb 10 at birth, got down to 6 lb 13, but was back at 7lb 13 at 2 weeks, he will be 6 weeks on Friday and I'm thinking he's about 10 lbs maybe? He has seemed to start putting on more weight this week ... Eating way more and way more often so maybe now that he is over thrush he will eat better. He doesn't get weighed in for 2 more weeks!

krystal- DH and i were also both virgins when we got married- same thing, religious beliefs and well, just moral beliefs as well. So, glad to hear that it's crap that it's not like that again. not that it was awful but- well, be nice to not be like that again!

Good that Silas is doing well! Ava never lost any weight! except like an oz! but she eats so very much, the dr said she wasn't even concerned that she didn't wake up during the night! she also said that i might have to limit how much she can eat!!!! so that she doesn't get huge!!!!! She said i have a different problem than most moms! Sheesh!

 

[natalie85]

Crikey u got a busy day tomorrow then!! I recommend getting bits together that u will need day before!!! Made my life a lot easier!!!
What issues have u got with your dress?
I think my determination to show his family that I wasn't struggling played a big part of it!! We made sure he was fed just before ceremony then I held him during it he mainly slept but woke up for some of it!! He is used to loud noises too so wasn't too jumpy when was a lot of noise!!! the sling was my lifesaver for rest of day cannot recommend it enough!!!! It meant he could have cuddles and stay close to me undisturbed so he could sleep!!!
Oooo free bar!!!!! Awesome!!! I am looking forward to having a drink Friday as will finish antibiotics tomorrow!!! I actually can't wait to have a drink even if Its only one!!!!! Xx

 

[TTCNumbertwo]

Wow, you guys have a lot going on! DH is out of town tonight, so its me and the boys, I'm counting down the minutes until bedtime, I'm so worn out by the end of the day! Charlie, I think you are so brave going to a wedding with both kids, good for you... I'm barely brave enough to go to the store! Sorry this is such a quick check-in, DS #1 is outside playing with the dog, and I think LO is soon ready to wake up for a feed.... I'm still reading, just haven't had time to check in with everyone!

 

[Mal]

well as far as I know when she looked at my nipples they look RAW and she could see tissue break down on my right nipple. She asked me how it felt when she nursed, whe water touched them and air. Since taking the medicine and using the cream it still hurts but not as bad.

ALSO they said its possible for a mom to get thrush and not give it to baby and vice versa buuut she said to watch babies mouth and take her to peds asap if I notice spots.

 

[natalie85]

Krystal I never thought about adding it to his milk!!! Such a clever idea!!! Who told u that trick or did u think of it by yourself?

 

[Love_Krystal]

Natalie the bottle said take without regard to food so I figured I'd try it... Then later I read if it taste bad to them you can mix it with food (older child) or drink .. It seems to work better in his bottle rather than before a feed or right after .. Then he seems to spit up more .. May be in my Head though haha

Dare, great to hear of another couple who waited! People, even others who hold our same beliefs but do not actually do them, said crazy things to us & teased DH etc but we just let it go in one ear and out the other! Our sex life is/has been completely awesome, i mean we have days where we are tired or things just seem off but we laugh and cuddle & go to sleep lol neither of us has to worry if the other is thinking or comparing each other to someone else! and we share such a close bond & intimate friendship. I trust him so deeply. People also have a hard time believing that pornography is not an issue in our home or marriage, but it's not. The sports illustrated swimsuit edition doesn't even get opened! It makes me respect & trust DH so much more bc I know how deeply & completely utterly committed to me he is. So when he tells me how he feels towards me or about me etc I believe him. I've never felt so deeply loved by anyone my entire life. Nor have I loved anyone with the same depth & fierceness that I love him. Our story is pretty incredible, my own down to earth imperfect little fairytale ... Anyways ...it's good to know other people share in morals in a world devoid of moral convictions & self control!

Silas lost weight bc my milk didn't come in for almost 5 days! ... I had to limit his eating too, to 5 mins tops on each boob or 8-10 mins on the same one(works better bc baby gets more hindmilk) ...I blockfed for about 2 weeks altogether and now I only make maybe 3 oz per boob & so he only eats on one side but he can eat til he empties it & it's not spraying out so it usually takes him 15-20 min now. And I just alternate sides each feeding! He has way less gas/belly aches/green poos... & is more content & latching better etc ..I just want to make sure he gets enough but apparently a breastfed baby gen eats around the same amount 24-30 oz per day til they are 6 mos old. At least that's what I read!

Whew Charlie looks like you'll have a busy day and your hands full but you seem to be doing wonderful being the fab mummy that you are so I bet you'll be just fine

 

[natalie85]

Ahh thanks krystal!! I will try that later!!!
What religions are u and dare if u don't mind me asking?
I've been busy this morning my friend and her kid are popping over so I've been busy cleaning!! I have woken up a bit now hardly got any sleep my little man was so unsettled

 

[DaretoDream]

Dare, great to hear of another couple who waited! People, even others who hold our same beliefs but do not actually do them, said crazy things to us & teased DH etc but we just let it go in one ear and out the other! Our sex life is/has been completely awesome, i mean we have days where we are tired or things just seem off but we laugh and cuddle & go to sleep lol neither of us has to worry if the other is thinking or comparing each other to someone else! and we share such a close bond & intimate friendship. I trust him so deeply. People also have a hard time believing that pornography is not an issue in our home or marriage, but it's not. The sports illustrated swimsuit edition doesn't even get opened! It makes me respect & trust DH so much more bc I know how deeply & completely utterly committed to me he is. So when he tells me how he feels towards me or about me etc I believe him. I've never felt so deeply loved by anyone my entire life. Nor have I loved anyone with the same depth & fierceness that I love him. Our story is pretty incredible, my own down to earth imperfect little fairytale ... Anyways ...it's good to know other people share in morals in a world devoid of moral convictions & self control!

Silas lost weight bc my milk didn't come in for almost 5 days! ... I had to limit his eating too, to 5 mins tops on each boob or 8-10 mins on the same one(works better bc baby gets more hindmilk) ...I blockfed for about 2 weeks altogether and now I only make maybe 3 oz per boob & so he only eats on one side but he can eat til he empties it & it's not spraying out so it usually takes him 15-20 min now. And I just alternate sides each feeding! He has way less gas/belly aches/green poos... & is more content & latching better etc ..I just want to make sure he gets enough but apparently a breastfed baby gen eats around the same amount 24-30 oz per day til they are 6 mos old. At least that's what I read!

Krystal that's so great to hear! we are the same. We trust each other completely and it's a wonderful thing. Porn was never an issue with us either. Actually- when the victoria's secret commercials are on tv, he looks away! Even if he doesn't see me in the room, he actually looks away. I hate movies with any kind of sex scenes in them- i find it utterly disgusting. And he tries to look for movies without them in there. And we get upset when they are. It's a very nice feeling to find someone that feels the same as i do!!

I had my milk come in on day 3 or 4 i think? not sure. But it seemed to come faster because she was eating the colostrum every half hour the first like day or two! she was seriously cluster feeding- and i thought something was way wrong because how could she eat so much ! She is a beast! they told me i might have trouble keeping her weight down!!! She is my CHUBZILLA. lol

Ahh thanks krystal!! I will try that later!!!
What religions are u and dare if u don't mind me asking?
I've been busy this morning my friend and her kid are popping over so I've been busy cleaning!! I have woken up a bit now hardly got any sleep my little man was so unsettled

Nat, i was raised Presbyterian, and my husband, Baptist. We however have looked into Lutheran- as we both love the origins and so forth, but really, all religions really tell you NOT to have any relations before marriage. We haven't found a church we are very happy with though. the Lutheran church we were going to- when i was doing new member classes, i was absolutely appalled that they told this 19 year old mom with 2 kids who wasn't married that THAT particular lutheran church said that was ok. Living together with men and having sex and children was alright. I can't raise my child in a church that says those things are alright! So we haven't been to church in a while- because we can't find one that meets our standards. So many around her are letting morals go and letting modern thinking in. You can't even get traditional services (we HATE that contemporary new age crap) at a reasonable hour anymore. And the ones that we think are ok- we find out, they're not! I went to one with NASTY rude people- was so upset- we just cant find one we love



afm--baby woke up in the evening last night and more than made up for missed feedings during the night and day. then she had her normal sleep last night- except she went to bed at 1 instead of 12, and got up at 5 instead of 4. Guess everything was pushed back. Then, up again at 730, and 830. I've already been up- had breakfast and showered. She laid in her sleeper looking around all happy for a while. Now she's napping again. I gave her some gripe water this am- because i can't seem to get her to burp during the night? I have her swaddled because it's the only thing that seems to get her to sleep there at night- but lordy make sure her arms are out because she gets right furious if you swaddle those!!! I wonder if the swaddling makes it harder for me to burp as there is such padding in the front? she just WONT burp. doesn't matter what position i put her in, patting her back, rubbing her back, nothing. She is stubborn. refuses. just sleeps. SO i wonder if the two vomits the passed days are because of not being able to burp her all night. It's also the first two nights i think i couldn't get her to burp at all. At 730 she seemed quite happy during changing time, farting up a little storm, hoping that helps that air problem! and then at 830 gave her the gripe water. Any suggestions to night burping? A better way to do it? tried sitting her upright, and then on the shoulder- maybe i should try the on the belly on the lap? Always afraid that'll make her puke. I think it would make me puke having a belly full of milk and you turn me over on my belly and pat me down. lol.

 

[xsarahbellax]

Hi girls, you're all way ahead of me so maybe someone can help...

I know that breast feeding can help your uterus / muscles contract back, and therefore help your tummy shrink, so I was wondering how long it took for that to happen if you didn't breastfeed?

It's only day 4, but I do quite blatantly still look pregnant, so much so that someone I bumped in to in town today thought I was babysitting & asked how overdue I was now I held it together & then burst in to tears as soon as I got round the corner. I realise I'm at that whole hormonal emotional stage anyway, but that really didn't help!!

I don't have anything to wear & feel minging... don't really want to leave the house again til I feel less self-conscious to be honest.

I guess the only comparison I have is to my sister-in-law who's the only person I've seen very quickly after giving birth & her tum had pretty much vanished straight away, though she breast fed. I should have paid more attention to the other ladies in the hospital ward, if they still had preggy bellies I probably wouldn't feel so bad!

x

 

[DaretoDream]

Hi girls, you're all way ahead of me so maybe someone can help...

I know that breast feeding can help your uterus / muscles contract back, and therefore help your tummy shrink, so I was wondering how long it took for that to happen if you didn't breastfeed?

It's only day 4, but I do quite blatantly still look pregnant, so much so that someone I bumped in to in town today thought I was babysitting & asked how overdue I was now I held it together & then burst in to tears as soon as I got round the corner. I realise I'm at that whole hormonal emotional stage anyway, but that really didn't help!!

I don't have anything to wear & feel minging... don't really want to leave the house again til I feel less self-conscious to be honest.

I guess the only comparison I have is to my sister-in-law who's the only person I've seen very quickly after giving birth & her tum had pretty much vanished straight away, though she breast fed. I should have paid more attention to the other ladies in the hospital ward, if they still had preggy bellies I probably wouldn't feel so bad!

x

hey there hun. first off.

it's hard. my stomach went down a LOT right after birth- but i was also bleeding like a stuck pig. Seriously. they thought i was bleeding too much and there was this whole ordeal about that- and i thought i was gonna die and blah blah- i didn't die. But- i am breastfeeding.

I felt VERY large and bloated for a while. that first week was the worst. Just last week even i felt pretty bad. This week, i'm back in my pre- pregnancy jeans (and she'll be a month on saturday). So for me, it took about a month to get back to where i was. But again, i'm breastfeeding. HOWEVER. my bosses wife gave birth in March. She still has belly. NOW. and she's breastfeeding. I think everyone is different- depends on your body.

I wore only maternity clothes the first 3 weeks. I was shocked, when my pants went up my bum (that doesn't sound right) just two days ago.

try not to think about it- even though it's hard not to. So we finally get our bodies back... but... it's still not our body! It's mutated! I left the house three times in the beginning too. I went to the pediatricians twice. And target once. And then nothing again until yesterday when i had to take her to the peds again- alone. scary! but she did great. and gave me confidence. It's amazing what one good trip out can do for you.

And if you don't want to go out yet- DONT!!! my cousin, had her baby in february- and she didn't go out for months until she had to go back to work in june (or that might've been early july actually). And she still doesn't take the baby anywhere ever. I've known tons of women that don't go out for months after. You have to take it at your own pace, don't let anyone rush you because that won't help anything. there is nothing wrong with stayin in for a while. You just had a major change in your life. take it one step at a time!

 

[xsarahbellax]

Thanks hun. The thing is, I really do want to go out, I'm a really active person & hate being cooped up on the house without human interaction! I just feel really self-conscious. I guess other mums will understand that it's normal to have a belly post-birth, but to everyone else I look pregnant/fat, & it's just horrible getting the "is that your baby? Are you pregnant?" looks! I know I have to be patient, it took 9 months to grow, I can't expect it to vanish overnight... x

 

[DaretoDream]

it will hun. just give yourself time

 

[natalie85]

It takes time Hun only the other day we had a delivery guy think I was still preg!!! My little man is 6 weeks tomorrow!!! There is so much pressure for us to just snap back to how we were before being preg!! Some are really lucky and others are not!!! I was reading magazine and it was saying about Victoria beckham but then it had bit underneath about celebs in no rush to lose weight and had one that hadnt lost the preg belly 3years later which made me feel better!!!

 

[DaretoDream]

well said nat!

 

[natalie85]

The occasional bit of sense I make hehe

 

[Mal]

oka so anyone who got a episotomy. Did anyone wait the full 6 weeks?

 

[CharlieKeys]

Nat - I had ot get a dress a size bigger than I am normally cause it just wouldn't fit around my belly properly, but then it was too big over the shoulders/around my boobs, so I had to take it to my mum's for her to alter which was when the exhaust on my car broke! Took it to be repaired today and he said to just live with the temp job - no point in repairing it as it will cost £400 and then he said the catalyic converter will last 3 months max (NO idea what a CC is!!!!!!! lol) So looks like we have to find a way to get a new car

aww thanks ladies!! I am lucky to have such easy babies really! Especially when going out - they're so well behaved which makes going out with them really enjoyable!

Sarah - I FF from 3 days, but I still looked pregnant until around 10 days.. even though my uterus has shrunk back to it's normal size by 3 days... midwife said I had a super utereus hehe! Every bump deflates at it's own pace - don't rush it! You've just had a baby so don't be too hard on yourself! Just give it time and it will go down - like Nat said Celebs are pretty much MUTANTS when it comes to giving birth and losing weight and to be honest it cannot be that healthy doing it so quickly unless it does it like that naturally! If you wanna go out - go out and don't worry about your belly - you're a mummy now

 

[natalie85]

I get u on car probs Charlie!!! I don't drive but hubby does and we hit a deer proper shaken me up and I think hubby is in shock lot of damage to car gonna cost a fortune don't know how we gOnna afford it
Did u manage to get dress altered ok?