3rd month TTC #1... anyone with me?

[Ellemarley]

Hi! My hubby and I are wanting to start our family after getting married this past September. I never thought it would be difficult at all, silly me.

We're on month 3 of TTC. It's so hard not knowing - what if we're doing all this trying and we aren't even capable of having kids? Doesn't help that my 2 best friends both just gave birth within months of each other. One just last week.

They keep telling me 'maybe next month' or 'soon' - one even was like 'Wow, we conceived both of ours on the first try - are you guys actually trying??' No - we're just dilly dallying and hoping for a baby to appear. Please.

Anyone frustrated? Worried? I never thought we'd have an issue, and here we are, no preggo yet. It sucks to keep thinking 'Ooo... I feel nauseous, I bet this is the month!' only for AF to come. Oh, and did you notice that EVERYONE and EVERYTHING around you is baby-related??? Seriously, I swear everyone I see is pregnant or toting around a little one, and somehow I convince myself that this is a 'sign' that this is my time.

*sigh* - time to watch DC Cupcakes to *try* to take my mind off things... although really it's all I think about lately.

 

[raelynn]

I hear you on that. It seems like once you start trying, everything baby surrounds you. Everyone is pregnant, the baby isles just jump out at you at stores, kids are everywhere. It is crazy! I guess we just have to stick with it and hope one of these months ends up being our month. Hopefully sooner rather than later!

 

[LadyL]

I'm with ya girl!! Currently on 3rd cycle ttc too!! Awaiting AF arrival today! Still a no-show, but feel she's on her way! Ugh. My two best friends also had their babies two weeks apart. They are a yr old now, but I know how you feel, bc they are always talking babies and I want so desparately to be a part of it. One of them tried for right at a year and the other got preg the 2nd month of trying. And now one of my other best friends is preggo with TWINS after first month off BC! I will have been married for 2 years in May, I'm 27 and husband is 33, so its def time! I feel like everyone I know is preg and I want to be happy for them, but cant help but feel jealous! I don't think I'm alone in that. And then I feel guilty for feeling like that bc i know there are so many more ppl out there who have been trying for years to have a baby, so I try to remember that we haven't been trying that long (even though it feels like forever!!) and that everything will happen when it's supposed to! Good luck to you! Maybe 3rd time will be the charm for both of us!!

 

[Ellemarley]

And then I feel guilty for feeling like that bc i know there are so many more ppl out there who have been trying for years to have a baby, so I try to remember that we haven't been trying that long (even though it feels like forever!!) and that everything will happen when it's supposed to! Good luck to you! Maybe 3rd time will be the charm for both of us!!

TOTALLY feel you there. I felt guilty even posting 'it's my 3rd month TTC...' b/c it's not that long in the big scheme of TTC. My AF is due in a couple days... I tested today again and got a BFN and am losing hope.

 

[newgirl79]

Hey there girls,

I am completely with you too- on one hand feeling guilty about stressing after 4 ms of trying and on the other hand feeling soooooooooo frustrated with the whole thing I'm pretty sure AF is just about to arrive and i'm feeling really down about it all...especially as the two close friends who have also been trying have just announced their pregnancies a week apart- I so want to be able to share it all with them. must keep hopeful though, our time will come xxx

 

[aimze]

Hey girlies!

I'm with you, im on cycle #5 of trying and really feel like i'll be saying the same on cycle #15!! Only 24 so supposed to fall into the within 6months which would mean either this month or next month is my month!

I think after this cycle of using Ov sticks and activly TTC i'm going to do everything in my power to forget about it and just have fun being myself

I have no HPT's left and I think that is the way forward, if there in the house you use them from 8dpo!!! XX

 

[starlight11]

I'm with all you girls, too. It's so hard and super frustrating. I'm currently 7 - 10 days late for AF and am still getting negatives on HPTs. So I'm super confused, emotional and so anxious. I see babies everywhere, I see pregnant women everywhere, I want to buy every single baby thing in sight and yet here I am waiting for either a or the witch to just COME already so I can focus on next month and trying. Both my DH and I are 24 and we have been trying for 4 months now and we are both getting so fed up. I actually ended up ordering Pre-Seed online a few days ago. Who knows. Apparently we need all the help we can get!

 

[NYColoradoan]

Hi Ladies, I'm with you all too. It's my 3rd cycle TTC #1 after my hubby and I got married last October. We've been together for almost six years so we were ready to start almost right away. I guess I just thought it would happen right away for us, too, because we spent so many years trying not to be pregnant! I too feel silly that it's only been 3 cycles and I feel stressed about it, but it's all I can think about. I'm 32 so I feel the pressure of age even though I know women get pregnant into their 40s. I guess my biggest challenge is just to learn to relax more... I try not to talk about it too much to other people because 1)they think I'm obsessive and 2)they think it should just happen because it did for them. Thank goodness I've found this site because I can read about it and everyone is so supportive!

 

[xsarahxxannx]

I'm right there with you! I see pregnant women everywhere and wonder why couldn't it just be me? The worst is when you have friends and acquaintances around you that have gotten pregnant on accident! Ugh! I hate feeling jealous, but I guess it's only natural. My soon to be sister-in-law played the ever famous April fools prank of "I'm pregnant!".... I started CRYING hysterically!!! I was so upset that she would get pregnant on accident and I have been trying to conceive for a year!... ended up being a prank so I kind of felt like an idiot...

I never would have guessed that I would have trouble getting pregnant.

 

[apd]

Hi All! I am in the same boat- been "TTC" (Still getting used to that acronym) for about 3 months and am trying out a forum to chat with people about it as my husband and I have not told friends or family! Feel like it would be more "real" if I could talk to someone about it.
Looking forward to talking to all of you!

 

[NYColoradoan]

That's an awful April Fool's joke, xsarah! I wouldn't even joke about that because you never know if you're going to have trouble and then you'd just feel silly for joking. Not to mention that she hurt your feelings!
Welcome apd! This is a good place to talk about it and it does help it feel more real. Not to mention that I've learned about so many different things by reading on here.

 

[Lings]

I am in my 2nd month of TTC. Same like the rest, I thought it'd just be natural and boom on the first try!

I hope this is my month! Baby dusts to all of you!

 

[ForeverYoung]

3rd month here as well... also first month getting a positive opk. My periods have been CRAZY since I started trying to conceive. I never know what to think. I ovulate waayyy later than I ever thought. I started my period March 15, and April 4th is when I got my positive opk. Pretty crazy if you ask me. I wonder if this could cause any problems with ttc?

 

[NYColoradoan]

I haven't tried OPKs yet so I just figure my ovulation window is somewhere between 12 to 16 days before my period (which is what I read somewhere is typical). But, the problem is that my cycles are either exactly 28 days or 30 days, so based off of this, I have to figure my ovulation window is larger. It's such a mess, and I should just buy some OPKs. What's everyone else's experience with them? Do you recommend?
ForeverYoung, were you on birth control and that's why your cycles have been off?

 

[ForeverYoung]

I haven't tried OPKs yet so I just figure my ovulation window is somewhere between 12 to 16 days before my period (which is what I read somewhere is typical). But, the problem is that my cycles are either exactly 28 days or 30 days, so based off of this, I have to figure my ovulation window is larger. It's such a mess, and I should just buy some OPKs. What's everyone else's experience with them? Do you recommend?
ForeverYoung, were you on birth control and that's why your cycles have been off?

Nope, I was on birth control for about a month, 4 years ago. Since then nope, never. I don't know if it's stress throwing them off, or what. But I've had irregular bleeding and stuff too, and because of issues with my health insurance, they won't cover it. Supposedly, my bleeding is a 'pre-existing condition' which is complete bs seeing as I'm a girl, and we bleed all the time!

 

[NYColoradoan]

Are you in the US? I seriously hate health insurance! Can they make it any more confusing? It probably is stress related, so we need to help you get relaxed! Do you have other major stresses in your life or do you think it's mainly the TTC stress? (Sorry if that's too personal of a question and if you don't want to share, that's ok too!)

 

[ForeverYoung]

Are you in the US? I seriously hate health insurance! Can they make it any more confusing? It probably is stress related, so we need to help you get relaxed! Do you have other major stresses in your life or do you think it's mainly the TTC stress? (Sorry if that's too personal of a question and if you don't want to share, that's ok too!)

I hate where we live, but that's pretty much the only stress! I'm a housewife mostly, except for a couple days a month when I help out at the gas station down the street. Yes, I'm in the US. I hate the way they do insurance. It's not fair to call bleeding a pre-existing condition, but it's the second company that has done it!

 

[lilyanna24]

i been ttc for a year now and i am only 18 and my dh is 21 its sad how basically all the girls that went to my high school just got accidentally pregnant and most of them dont know the fathers are! i have been married since i was 17 been married for over a year and trying so hard its just hard seeing all the people you know getting pregnant not having a family just being single moms when im here married and trying so hard i ordered some preseed i just have to wait for my af to arrive then start trying because i missed my ovulation this month please wish me luck!

 

[wantnumber2]

Hay ladies i no im on number 2 not 1 but hope i still can.

We have a lil girl she is three soon. it took 4months to concive her. second month ttc bd'd randomly last month and after a 47 day cycle and 1 poas af came. bd'd everyday this time apart from 2 nights right at the start dh was ill 36 days into this cycle now not going to even poas untill af due so 16th errrrrrr so long driving me mad.

1 of my friends is going to have a baby anyday now, my brother-in-law and his gf just got pg and so has my cousin after 12months trying so all this baby stuff with out my bfp is a bit annoying as happy as i am for them.

not feeling anything apart from today like af is comeing really hope not.

xxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[VSubasic]

Hey I'm on my 3rd cycle also. I am ovulated yesterday or today I feel the same!