40+ and Trying for 1st? Join in!!

[babybabyb]

Hi everyone. I'm sorry I haven't been on here in a while. I had a 3 day FET on Saurday, December 6th. They transferred 2 grade one embies. I had the option of waiting until Monday for a day 5 transfer but they would only transfer one with that option. So we elected for the day 3. So... yesterday was 9dpt, and I got a second line, faint but it was there. This morning it was a little darker with a different brand of HPT. I hope this means it is a BFP. I can't really even get excited with so much disappointment over the past 4 years. It seems so surrreal. Since my transfer was Saturday, they wont let me do my beta until Monday, ugh!! Anyway, just wanted to share the news, and I'll write back on Monday.

 

[terripeachy]

Congratulations!!!! We needed some good news around here. Woohoo.

 

[kaysbc]

looking good babybaby! please keep us updated.

I'm sorry to read your post pussycat. Relationships with the man can be so up and down during this process. For sure my relationship has its very bad moments. The guys go thru their own thing in their own way. In many ways I don't think my DH will ever understand what I am going through. I hear your frustrations loud and clear. This is our time to be selfish about it, we don't have much time left so I think its ok to be selfish about this right now.

 

[Vonn]

babybaby--Amazing news! Congrats and thanks for sharing! Please do keep us in the loop, can't wait to hear the beta results on Monday.

Pussycat--Sorry you aren't feeling as supported as you deserve to be by your DH. I agree with what Terri and kaysbc said that this is so tough and that our men really have no idea how emotional a journey this is. Luckily, we do.

Weezy--Where are you at now? Aren't you starting IVF soon?

Kaysbc--how are things going for you?

Hi Terri!

I thought this was going to be my lucky cycle, with my HSG and good follicle and lining, but I have started spotting. Trying hard to take it in stride and not be too disappointed.

 

[Pussycat1]

Baby baby, that's great news! Fingers crossed for Monday, as Terri said we're due some happy news round here!
Thank you Kay / Vonn, if it wasn't for all of the other crap going on, I'd be mad as hell about his behaviour but things are bad and it's a very difficult time for him. However you are right I have to be selfish, this is my last chance. I'm on BCP at the moment (start synching cycles with my donor in Jan) and tbh I don't think it's agreeing with me, since I've started it I've been very down. Silly hormones!
Vonn, sorry to hear you're spotting, I hope it's a false alarm, got everything crossed for you hon. xx

 

[Weezy9]

WOWEEE BabyBaby!!! We need this kind of news to perk us all up in time for Xmas!! Fingers cross for you for monday. Keep us updated

Pussycat, I’m sorry to hear you’re not getting the sort of support you need from your DH. Terri, Kay and vonn is right, they just don’t understand it the way we do. My husband is the same, he keep saying he wants nothing more than us getting a BFP and he’s doing his best but I never feel his support with the whole thing and I think I never will because like Terri said, they just don’t get it.
That’s why we have the forum, we all have our little moan here sometimes but sure you’ll be picked back up by us

Sometimes I think it’s because it’s us who is having to go through this whole process physically (the evasive tests, the drugs, injections, temping everyday etc etc) so we’re more involved with it all because it’s all happening to our body.

Vonn, don’t lose hope yet…We’ve just had some good news here, so it will happen.

Haven’t started IVF yet but I think it will happen in Jan/Feb. We’ve got our consultation booked for 5th Jan. Excited but petrified at the same time

 

[Juniperjules]

Hi ladies!
I'd like to join you in here.. I turned 40 this month & am about to start trying for my first baby... My partner is 33, we've been together just over a year but friend for more than 3 yrs.

we've decided that this is my last month on the pill- so from January / feb we'll be TTC officially.

Am excited but completely petrified about what will happen.. I had all the relevant tests done last year. everything looked fine.. My AMH was 42.8 m/mol which I was told by the fertility specialist was good since I don't have PCOS/PCO.. I'm just hoping a year later things are still good in that regard..

We're going to try on our own for a few months.. & then happily go down the IVF track if nothing happens. I know they say give it 6 months.. Ill probably make an appointment at 4mths of TTC bcos it can take about 2 mths to get in to see the specialist ill go to. I'm pretty comfortable with going down that track ASAP. I've had many friends do IVF, one had twins last year at 39, another friend has just had a DE baby at 51! And a third friend just did a cycle last month & will go again in feb. so I'm pretty well versed in the process.

Anyway... That's me... I'm going to start reading this thread from a few months back to I can get to know you all.. It will be nice having girls to chat to who are in the same kind of circumstances age-wise!

 

[Pussycat1]

Welcome Juniper and good luck for the next few months, it sounds like you've thought all of this through. Hopefully it will all happen naturally for you as your AMH levels sound pretty good!
xx

 

[Vonn]

Yes, welcome Juniper!

My goal had been for someone to get a BFP before the end of the year. I hope we get confirmation on Monday from babybaby that it's happened for her, but that doesn't mean we can't have more than 1!!! Weezy, your chart is looking good, and Terri, got fxed for you on this cycle!

 

[Weezy9]

Welcome Juniper. Fingers cross with trying naturally. Your AMH is great, much better than mine.

Vonn, my temperature looks a little erratic this month and this morning started spotting, so maybe this is not my month. This will lead me to my first IVF I guess. I was so hoping it would happen so I can avoid IVF...but new hope for the new year : ) I'll sure be quizzing you ladies with the IVF process in the new year

 

[terripeachy]

Hi Juniper.

Weezy-Ugh..Sorry about the spotting. Quiz away.
AFM-Just waiting for Tuesday to find out my beta results. hee hee.

 

[Pussycat1]

Terri, fingers crossed for Tuesday! What an amazing Christmas that would be!
Weezy, sorry to hear about spotting. If it comes to IVF it's not so bad and maybe it's just that extra helping hand you need. Whatever we're here and lots of us have been through it so you'll get loads of support. xx

 

[kaysbc]

hey ladies,
just popping in real quick to say i'll be taking off for awhile and wont be checking in.
last week i was in a car accident and was in the hospital. Im home now and ok... really i'm fine so no worrying! but i have a broken shoulder. Im going to need surgery in January. I can guarantee Im not pregnant since I got in the accident the day of my positive OPK, needless to say there wasnt any BD'ing going on during O (if the body even does O during trauma?). In any case it would be bad to get pregnant while I need surgery, tons of medications I'm on, and followup care I need. So Im taking some time off from TTC.

I wish you all the best of luck, some christmas miracles, and a lucky 2015 full of baby dust! I will re-join you all as soon as I am able.

Kay

 

[Weezy9]

Oh Kay, really sorry to hear that. I hope you a speedy recovery and look after yourself

 

[terripeachy]

Glad you're ok Kay but super scary.

My report is that I had a Hcg of 5.7. Probably not viable but I am to continue my meds until I get home from vacation. It should be 100 at this point. I'll keep thinking positively. Sigh. I told my nurse that 5 is better than 0.

 

[Pussycat1]

Kay, thank goodness you're ok (despite the shoulder). Rest up and stay well. x
Terri, sorry the levels aren't better but I reckon you're right to continue with the meds.
Happy Christmas to everyone! x

 

[babybabyb]

I had my beta this morning and it was 924!!! I am still expecting something to go wrong. It still hasn't hit me yet. My ultrasound is going to be January 2. If a heartbeat is heard then Shady Grove will release me to my regular obgyn from that point on. I will stay on injections until the end of January. Good luck to everyone. I will keep everyone updated.

 

[Vonn]

Babybaby--a huge congrats to you! I hope it sinks in soon so you can fully enjoy being PREGNANT! Yay!

Terri--5 IS better than zero! The dr wouldn't have you continuing meds if it wasn't possible for this be a viable pregnancy. I hope you get amazing news at your next appointment.

Kay--oh, no! I am so sorry to hear about your accident. I hope your surgery & recovery goes well. Come back when you're ready!

Merry Christmas everyone!

 

[Weezy9]

Babybaby, way to go girl!!! congratulations to you! that's fantastic news! Isn't it great to have this sort of news on christmas eve...keep us posted on your progress.

Terri, don't give up hope yet, there is still a chance it's viable...anything could happen.

Merry christmas everyone....now that we've achieve an christmas BFP, lets hope one of us gets a New Year BFP....keep them rolling in girls

 

[dojenstein]

Hi ladies. Can I join in. I'm turning 41 next month and still trying for my first. I had a loss last January and have been actively TTC since then. My RE wants to get more aggressive and put me on Clomid and do IUI. I go for my HSG next Friday. I'm so nervous and anxious. My fiance doesn't seem to understand why I can't seem to relax and get this off my mind. So I was just hoping to find some buddies on here going through similar things to share this journey with.

Thanks for listening.