41 and pregnant....

[Canadianmom4]

I will be 42 when this baby is born. I'm scared!! Is there anyone out there that can give me some reassurance that things will be okay.

 

[Graceyous]

I can't give you direct reassurance as I'm in the same boat as you almost! (40 and pregnant) but I am aware of numerous women who have had much better pregnancies in their 40's than they experienced in previous years (in real life and online. My mother had me at 40 and in fact her sisters all had successful healthy pregnancies right into their mid-forties.

Try not to be scared I know that is hard and I've spent a lot of the early weeks of this pregnancy afraid and nervous - but I've tried to focus on thepositive and enjoy this is wonderful time...

 

[Canadianmom4]

I can't give you direct reassurance as I'm in the same boat as you almost! (40 and pregnant) but I am aware of numerous women who have had much better pregnancies in their 40's than they experienced in previous years (in real life and online. My mother had me at 40 and in fact her sisters all had successful healthy pregnancies right into their mid-forties.

Try not to be scared I know that is hard and I've spent a lot of the early weeks of this pregnancy afraid and nervous - but I've tried to focus on thepositive and enjoy this is wonderful time...

Thanks so much for your reply. I've just been reading how everything increases with age, for example, the chance of miscarriage, the change there's something wrong with the baby. I'm optimistic and trying to stay positive. The only thing I'm worried about at the moment is the lower back pain I'm having.

 

[Graceyous]

Wouldn't it be great if you could change the settings on Google to 'show only positive stories'. Sometimes it's best to keep away from Dr. Google! For me it's only as the time has passed that I'm now managing to read the sad forum posts on here it was just to hard and I knew my anxiety would rise.

I had some lower backache and cramping early on, and because I was so anxious every twinge and cramp felt like it was huge! But anyway from all the info out there they're perfectly normal symptoms - something about a hormone relaxing all the muscles so uterus can expand.... lovely!

 

[Canadianmom4]

Wouldn't it be great if you could change the settings on Google to 'show only positive stories'. Sometimes it's best to keep away from Dr. Google! For me it's only as the time has passed that I'm now managing to read the sad forum posts on here it was just to hard and I knew my anxiety would rise.

I had some lower backache and cramping early on, and because I was so anxious every twinge and cramp felt like it was huge! But anyway from all the info out there they're perfectly normal symptoms - something about a hormone relaxing all the muscles so uterus can expand.... lovely!

I told myself not read any negative stuff online, or posts. I actually went to my doctor today and he was very positive. Has no concerns at all about anything. I'll get my hcg levels tomorrow, but the digital test I took a couple days ago was 3+, so I'm not too concerned about that.

How's things with your pregnancy so far? This forum seems rather "slow". Not many of us 35+ ladies out there?

 

[Graceyous]

Ah the lovely digi 3+ - I was so happy when I saw that too.

So far - my ms has eased off since 3 or 4 wks ago but now noticing a little heartburn at night now - I suffered really badly with that in last pregnancy. Also really trying to not gain too much weight but it just seems to be sneaking on me, didn't help that only bad food helped my ms early on but will try to be better behaved for rest of pregnancy - my bump is taking on shape - less bloaty looking more rounded which is nice.

I've booked a gender scan for 29th April - couldn't wait any longer and I can bring my OH and LO in to see result too. I'm not too fussy about what it is but think knowing will make rest of pregnancy nicer as I can buy pink/blue things and feel a little more attached if you know what I mean!

Are you planning on finding out or keep as surprise?

It is quite in here I've popped in and out but most seem tto spread out in groups forums and trimester boards...

 

[Soanxious]

Congratulations on your pregnancy, I am 41 and ttc there are loads of over 40's out there, you just have to filter through the forums. I chat to a woman who was 42 had her baby 5 months ago, another woman 41 had her baby 6 weeks ago and another 41 pregnant now. and women older than us ttc.. Good luck and Congratulations again.. x

 

[calibelle]

Hi there!

I am 41 and will be 42 when the baby comes in December. I don't worry about my age as much as me running after a toddler.

Most of the women I know were 40 or older when they gave birth. Very few had complications. It's sort of the norm where I live so I don't give it a second thought.

So far everything is normal, achy breast and I can sleep 12 hours suddenly. I have my first scan a week from this Tuesday.

 

[doshima]

Hi, am 41 and my pregnancy is going pretty awesome. I did worry about anomaly scans cos of my age but all is well and babies are even measuring a little ahead of time. I think am downing too much food. My MS was awful to say the least but am glad is over. Did not have it that bad wit my 2 grown up children. So I'll just say relax and take things easy. Don't stress and don't worry too much.

 

[Minimin]

Hey! I just turned 41 last week. Am hoping at 15w this pregnancy will be fine. I have a DD 3 yrs old. In worried about the 20 week scan I've got booked for 2nd June and considering either/both panorama/private anomaly scan earlier than the NHS one.

All such a worry!

 

[Soanxious]

I am so hoping to still get pregnant, I am 41 and will be 42 in December, I have had 4 chemical pregnancies since Oct 2013 my last one was a few days ago on 18th april. please please please I really want a sticky healthy baby xxxx You are all giving me hope.. xxx

 

[Whitesoxfan41]

My daughter will be 3 months tomorrow and I turned 43 just 10 days ago. I didn't have anything out of the ordinary with my pg. Good luck!!

 

[Izzybay]

I am so hoping to still get pregnant, I am 41 and will be 42 in December, I have had 4 chemical pregnancies since Oct 2013 my last one was a few days ago on 18th april. please please please I really want a sticky healthy baby xxxx You are all giving me hope.. xxx

Just wanted to add another positive and to wish you good luck. I am 41 and will be 42 when #3 is due. I have a 3 1/2 yr old and a (just) 1 year old. We tried for two years for our second and had a chemical and a mmc before he was conceived. We didn't even consider we'd ever be able to have more and were very happily surprised with #3, currently 18 weeks. My mf assures me it's not that unusual and that she has had many older mums.

 

[Izzybay]

I am so hoping to still get pregnant, I am 41 and will be 42 in December, I have had 4 chemical pregnancies since Oct 2013 my last one was a few days ago on 18th april. please please please I really want a sticky healthy baby xxxx You are all giving me hope.. xxx

Also meant to add, have you looked at/discussed baby aspirin (75mg) with your GP. It was prescribed me with this pregnancy for use after 12 weeks but googled it before taking and found it can also apparently help with recurrent miscarriage. May be worth discussing with your GP? Sorry for your losses and fingers crossed for a sticky one.

 

[Soanxious]

Thanks for all the hope stories makes me feel better.. I have been taking baby aspirin for 2 months, i did not help with this last one xx

 

[Pussy Galore]

Hi

I really wish I had popped on to this forum earlier. The reassurance on this thread is great!

I am 40 and pregnant with my second and finding this pregnany so stressful...

At my booking appointment with the midwife last week I was advised that I would be classed as high risk (purely because of my age) and have been advised that I will need to see a Consultant at some stage rather than just the midwife

I was also given worrying stats about possible issues with the pregnancy and so I am having a nuchal scan in two weeks... which I am dreading

And all I want to do is to relax and enjoy this pregnancy which I am so delighted about!

I wish you all happy and healthy pregnancies!!

 

[Soanxious]

congratulations, and don't worry... women have high risk pregnancies at all ages, my daughter was 23 having her first and that became complicated, she ended up with her healthy baby, yet I had all my kids with no problem, a friend of mine had a baby with complications at a young age too so don't worry... they just say it, all pregnancies carry risk no matter what age you are, the worse thing is stress, so try not to stress, you're pregnant, enjoy it, you will be fine x

 

[Vmjamerican]

Same here..will be 42 when bundle arrives December 1, A little worried.

 

[Graceyous]

Just a quick update - I went for a gender scan yesterday and person doing it (can't remember correct name for that) was really nice and did a quick anatomy check and everything was perfectly on scale for 19 weeks and main structures look perfect. So that was an added bonus to the news that we are expecting a little baby boy.

Another positive is that this pregnancy (so far) has been better than my last full-term one 7 years ago!

 

[Soanxious]

Same here..will be 42 when bundle arrives December 1, A little worried.

A lot of older mums seem to have a breeze with pregnancies from what forums suggests.. good luck