6 months + since mc and no luck getting pregnant... Come join me in the wait!!

[kelly1973]

my oh is a lot older then me and already has two grown up children he is finding it hard going through all this and he says we will try once more then we will give up this scares me as im not ready to give up as I started late in this game so im scared at getting pregnant at the same time I want it so bad I really don't want it to go wrong again as I just cant leave it at that, you will get your rainbow for sure hey we could be bump buddys massive hugs lovely its a hard journey but we will get there xxx all of us will

 

[MrsKitty]

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[Nataliek]

Ladies I'm sorry I didn't respond earlier, my son is in dance and his recital was tonight. Was a nice distraction! In this day and age more and more women have babies well into their 40's, I know it feels like time isn't on your side but you still have plenty of time. You may need a little help along the way to get there but that's why there are these amazing options for us, IUI and IVF. I know it is a difficult process but think of the end result, I bet once we all have our rainbows all of this heartache and struggle will be forgotten. Mrskitty vent anytime you need to, even though our husbands are loving and supportive, we are the mothers and I hate to say this, it's just not the same for men. We are the ones carrying the baby and feeling the physical closeness. Sometimes you just need a good cry and a couple of days to grieve.

I hear you about wanting it so badly, I feel like I am on some sort of pregnancy crusade. I want it more because I can't have it.

Hang in there Kelly and Mrskitty, we will get there xo

 

[Smiler79]

HI ladies

I am hoping ti get my blood test results today. it is weird as although I don't want anything major to show up, I am hoping there will be something in them to help explain what is going on and to be able to help stop it happening again. I know it is unlikey as they are only basic tests.

I am the same as most of you ladies. I am so scared to try again as the though of having a fourth miscarriage is unbearable but at the same time so is the thought of never having another baby.

at the moment hubby and I have agreed to ntnp to try and take the pressure of a bit. and then in a few months time if nothing has happened then we will think about getting more serious about ttc if we still want to.

 

[kelly1973]

hows every one doing?

 

[Nataliek]

Hi smiler,

That sounds like a really good plan, did you get your bloodwork results?

I'm good Kelly, how are you doing? I am so happy it's Friday lol.

 

[Smiler79]

Got bloods back and nothing came up so still no closer to answers.

Having a really bad day today. Woke up feeling fairly positive which in have been finding hard. But then the post arrived. My wonderful local hospital sent me a date for my 12 week scan. Pecten though it was a scan at the same hospital that confirmed my miscarriage a month ago. How hard is to update records!!!! The same thing happened after my miscarriage in September too xxx

 

[kelly1973]

so sorry for this smiler I had exactly the same you should write a letter of complaint it is outrageous massive hugs to you xxxx
yeah ok here nat plodding along xxxx

 

[Nataliek]

Aww smiler I'm so sorry you are feeling sad, you've been through so much so remember to take it easy on yourself.

I am positive I'm getting pms!

 

[MrsKitty]

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[amanda111308]

Hi ladies! Sorry I have been MIA! We have finally completed our move into the new house and things have been either great or awful... Today has been more of a rest day but I am cramping a lot on my lower back and am worried I over did it... Which was barely anything at all since my husband would hardly let me do anything to begin with. I hope it's just untimely growing pains... My toddler ds is quite grumpy and clingy today... Hoping things start to return to normal soon. He is back to day home tomorrow so I can continue unpacking as much as I can before returning to work on Wednesday.

I hope everyone is having a great weekend!!

 

[Nataliek]

So happy your move went well, Amanda! So exciting moving into your first home!

I will be shocked if I am pregnant come this Friday. I can feel my period coming, 95% positive. I've been pregnant enough times to know I am going to get my period. I'm sad and disappointed and I'm sure I will be worse Friday when I get af but all in all, I'm not too bad. I am really happy I did not let myself get overly excited.

 

[MrsKitty]

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[kelly1973]

yeah me too felt exactly the same I had to keep running to the toilet to knicker check,how many days are you past

 

[kelly1973]

af got me today nearly 4 weeks after my d and c made me feel quite sad even if I did know she was coming im still getting positive opks and preggo tests so don't know whats going on.
Amanda glad your move went well try not to do too much xx

 

[Nataliek]

Honestly? I am positive I am getting AF, I have serious pms symptoms. I am trying to not hold out any optimism or I will be crushed.

Aww Kelly it's always the worst for a couple of days when you get your period. Give yourself a couple of days to be sad, take it easy on yourself xoxo

Thanks for being there for me, ladies. I am so exhausted with this stuff, it's always how I feel with each month that we are not successful. I will be ok once my period comes, I always feel better going into a new cycle.

 

[MrsKitty]

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[Nataliek]

We do, we are going on vacation at the end of the month and I will be ovulating just before we come home so will try on our own. If were not successful will do another IUI round with a higher dose of meds to hopefully get more than one egg. We have been pregnant twice since last October so I know it's just a matter of time before it happens again, I personally think the timing of my IUI was off as I had it on the Friday morning and I dont think I ovulated until I had the pain in the middle of the night on the Saturday. We did have sex the night of the IUI but apparently fresh sperm doesn't live as long as normal sperm. Anyway, time will tell but not much I can do except keep on going. I am so glad you are seeing your specialist, Mrskitty, I totally understand feeling more in control of the situation knowing you have a plan in place. No one prepares you for how long of a process this can actually be.

 

[Nataliek]

I woke up spotting this morning, my period is pretty much imminent at this point. I feel so disappointed and defeated. I know with IUI the chances are not that much higher than trying on our own but still, I feel like I was robbed of 3 months when I had the ectopic. 3 months of trying time. My husband and I had a long talk this morning, we are giving this another few months and then packing it in. We want to move on with our lives, I can't live squinting at a freaking piece of plastic every month wondering if I see something. I feel pathetic, holding it under the light praying something will miraculously be there. I just feel so defeated today.

 

[Anniebobs]

Aww I'm so sorry Natalie, It's ok to feel down but you'll be ok. The whole ttc game is so hard. Just give yourself time to be upset and when you're ready you can try again