***(61) 2015 November Sparklers***

[Mimzy3]

Twag I can sympathize with you My son just turned two and he is SUCH a momma's boy, which I adore He always wants to know where I am and will just cuddle with me on the couch. I just don't want those cuddles to disappear when his baby brother is here The new baby will need to be held a lot, if he is anything like his big brother and that won't leave me much time to cuddle or play with DS. I warned DH that he is going to need to help out more with DS but he tends to just want mommy most of the time Ds really loves babies and is super interested in them, I just hope he feels that way about his baby brother too!

I agree part of the excitement of labor is not knowing when its going to happen! And towards the end all you can think about each day is..."Is today the day I get to meet my baby boy/girl!?"

 

[Amcolecchi]

Twag-I completely understand! I LOVE being organized, I am definitely a type A personality but with my son it was spur of the moment and it was ok, I already had his room done, clothes washed and my bags packed. HOWEVER, now like you said it's harder with the second because where would my son (and my dog go). We have made plans that if it's in the middle of the night like my son was, my mom would come over. If it's during the day, I would call my husband home from work and we would take my son to his aunt's house, who happens to live close to where we are delivering. I read somewhere to pack a bag for him too so I am going to do that! Just with some toys, clothes and books. Both places have diapers so I am not worried about that, but maybe pack a bag for your son too? My son is 18 months, so about the same age as yours and a MAMA'S BOY, so I am sad to not spend time with him either..I have just tried to do a lot with him and cuddles lol! He will understand! I am having a little girl too! Should be interesting! If you think about it, if you do decide not to be induced, you have time..labor is a few hours so as soon as you start contractions you can call your husband and get your son and dog where they need to go before the hospital and you should be ok! Good luck!!

I am torn as I really want to go naturally and hopefully before due date or being late as I feel so uncomfortable and done but at the same time I liked the certainty of the induction like I knew what time we had to be at the hospital so I was prepared and could get the dogs (and now would be son) to my parents house etc - all the uncertainty this time is kind of making me uneasy BUT I guess that is all part of labour!!!

Right now I am just so torn between being done with being pregnant, wanting to meet my little girl and start this journey of 2 under 2, wanting to spend more time with my son but then not really being able too as I have a big bump in the way and generally being damn scared of how the hell I am going to cope with a newborn and a 20 month old

Sorry ladies I needed to get it out as I just feel a little lost at the moment

 

[sunshine2014]

I'm not sure how I missed this!!!!!! I've been on the Pregnancy after Loss November group, but just found this.

I'm booked for a c section on November 10...anyone else?

 

[Twag]

Thanks Mimzy & Amcolecchi - I am a very organised person and like everything planned out and prepared so unknowns are a scary option for me Here in the UK you do not get to choose to be induced I will be induced IF I do 10 days over but hopefully not (although I was with my son and he was born the same day )
I know everything will be okay and IF it is the middle of the night or day etc my son and dogs will be going to my parents house as they are who I trust, where my son is most comfortable (he goes to my parents everyday when I am at work) and it is also enroute to the hospital
It takes my husband an hour at least to get home from work, it is half hour to my parents house and then another half hour to the hospital (depending on traffic this could be longer) so this worries me slightly I don't know why but I just have this feeling that I will labour very quickly this time around (my son was 7 hours!)

My boy is such a mummies boy and I love that and I am just sad at the moment because he wants me to get down on the floor and play cars and do drawings etc but I am now starting to struggle to do this with him as baby is so low down

It will all work out these things do and after talking to my NCT ladies (who have just had #2 babies) I am starting to feel a little better about how things will work once #2 arrives

 

[Twag]

Sunshine welcome to the group - this is a lovely group of ladies

 

[Amcolecchi]

Sunshine-Welcome!! How are you feeling?!

Twag-It definitely sounds like you are organized! I hear ya on the time thing. My husband works 30 minutes away from our house and the hospital is another 35 minutes away the opposite direction! I was in labor for 8 hours with my son too haha but I did like all of it there at the hospital..this time I would like to be home but I do worry I will have her in the car lol. After my water broke I had my son 35 minutes later so if my water breaks at home, there is no way I can make it to the hospital! My midwife knows this and we talked about what to do if this happens. Luckily, my husband is not squeamish and actually said he would love to birth the baby lol. The fire-station is a mile away so I would call 911 and obviously they would come and help and get me to the hospital. But many women have home births and do great! So that makes me feel comfortable! I am excited to here everyone's labor story though! It gets met so excited!!!

OMG yes my son always wants me to play cars too...I try to have him bring them to me and play on the couch or this kid table he has that I just kneel at but like you said you can only do it for a short amount of time!!

 

[aley28]

:wave: Welcome Sunshine!! Less than a month to your c-sect date, exciting!

 

[missmayhem]

Welcome sunshine.


Sorry for my absence yet AGAIN! Ripley ended up being very unwell and being in and out of hospital! So that took up all my energy and if I'm honest sanity. He's now back to his usual self thou. His new favourite phrase is "no not me, daddy did it" poor daddy is getting the blame for everything!


Had a hospital appointment this morning and the anethetist is happy to do a spinal here, he's going to use ultrasound as he was struggling to locate my spinal gaps. If that fails a general anethetic.

So I need to get looking up all the risks etc

Bump is getting massive in really enjoying this pregnancy but had the end is in sight.

 

[catmummyof4]

Hey everyone sorry iv not been on iv been sulking! I spoke to my consultant on tues and he gave the go ahead for the induction went back to the ward and they basicly bullied me out of the hospital saying i wasnt in that much pain if i could sleep.. erm excuse me iv had this pain since 20 weeks if i didnt sleep id be dead! So that was weds. I rang up today because i now cant breathe properly and hopefully looking at the weekend. Iv not read any of the other comments i will wen i get a min i hope ur all ok x

 

[Twag]

Oh catmummy Have been thinking of you I hope you are out of pain soon hun x

 

[littlesteph]

welcome sunshine

catmummy that's awful can't believe they have treated you like that.

So many people are commenting on how low I am, all of them saying i'd be surprised if you make it to your due date. Well I won't be anyway as at the moment having a C-section at 39 weeks, professionals I have seen don't seem very hopeful of me even making it to 39 weeks, he feels a little lower today, getting a little more pressure down below also some twinging in that area. been feeling a popping sensations quite low as well. don't think it means much though

 

[Mrs_Bump]

I'm so sorry cat, it seems ridiculous that anyone can over rule the consultant. I hope things get sorted out for you soon.

My little guy is popping in and out of my pelvis. He's well down and then I feel all this pressure on my hip. I don't think he can work out what he wants.
Had a day from hell with my toddler today, he's swung wildly from being really naughty to wanting to be held constantly and back again. He's also completely freaking out about the potty and refusing to go on it. He had been dry for over a week before today. No idea what's going on but am now completely shattered.

 

[aley28]

Cat, that's terrible! Gallstones are literally the most excruciating thing I've ever experienced. I thought I was dying before they figured out what the problem was for me. The pain eases off and then you collapse out of exhaustion. I'd have a bunch of choice words for anybody who bullied you out of there I hope you can get your induction soon so that the surgery can follow and you can get to feeling better!

Missmayhem, can you remind me - are you getting a c-section? Or were you hoping for an epidural? I'm glad Ripley is feeling better, so hard to see our LOs so sick, and even worse during pregnancy as its a balancing act between getting them feeling better and trying not to catch the bug ourselves! xx

Steph, I hope they're wrong and you make it to at least 37 weeks! I don't know what the popping sensation is - perhaps SPD?

MrsBump Especially about the potty! Just at that point when you think you have it conquered, they regress. I hope you can get some good sleep tonight!


AFM;
NEARLY have the nursery painted. I've had to do it in sections as I'm too lazy to move the furniture out and its too small of a room to move furniture out of the way. Now my husband doesn't want me up on a ladder doing the edges along the ceiling, so he's told me it has to wait until Monday. Ahhhhh!! Not only am I nesting, but I'm OCD and the white stripe along the ceiling is driving me crazy

Anyway, so I was in there getting everything rearranged. I've got the changing table and dresser where they need to go, the floor vacuumed, and now just a bunch of painting stuff that needs put away (but can't be until he's finished off what he won't let me do!) ... just little things left to do in there besides the painting. Its starting to all feel very real now!!

 

[littlesteph]

aley I hope so too. I do have spd its not a bad case, can be in agony some days though, I don't think the popping is that though as it feels like its coming from around baby

 

[Maries_s]

Sunshine: Welcome!

Catmummy: So sorry that they treat you so bad.

Well, I caught a cold two days ago and called my doctor. Doctor suggested me to buy a OTC medication like Afrin and Cepacol. I took the suggestion and I feeling much better now.

I've been having a lot of contractions lately. Yesterday with the cold get worse. The contraction was only 2 min apart and lasted for an hour. Fortunately, I lay down in bed and contractions were disappearing. I still having contraction but not so closely. I have the contractions more often when I walk or I stand. DH thinks that baby is going to arrive in October. :/

Finally I started to do the Hospital Bag!

 

[missmayhem]

Aley. This is a planned c section, Ripley was born via emergency section which was the most wonderful birth ever. So relaxing and everybody was lovely and calm.

If I was to go for a vbac if have to go off island and that's not really a thing I want to do.

Gallstones- hell give me labour any day far far far less painful. I took an attack in the chemist one day and the pharmacist was convincing me I was in labour. Not that likely seeing I had my 8 week old daughter with me. At least with labour you get a baby to show for it

 

[TexMel]

Twag, I am going back and forth between induction and natural labor, too. I have read all the benefits and know natural labor is what I want. But, my dr says she induces about 90% of her patients and I will most likely get one of the other Drs in her practice, which I've never met, if I go into labor when she is not on-call.

My husband also wants me to do it naturally, but his family all lives 4 hours away and they want us to schedule it, especially since I am due the week before Thanksgiving. Wouldn't want to mess with anyone's holiday plans (sarcasm).

Based on my family's history, I am guessing this boy will not come early, I just hope he is not WAY late if I choose natural.

 

[missmayhem]

I've had both an induction and then a natural labour ending in pictocin as my body stalled. I'd never choose induction again. It's agony. In natural labour you get a build up.

Plus the constant monitoring is a bloody nightmare.



Can so ebony please enlighten me why I decided to move house at 37weeks. Packed two boxes and now I'm shattered

 

[TexMel]

Even if I choose the "natural" option, it'll just be the start of labor. I'll take all the drugs/epidural/whatever once the ball gets rolling. Does that make sense?

 

[aley28]

Texmel, I'm being induced at 39+1, on Monday October 26th, at 5:30am. Its literally the earliest I'm allowed to do it, as my hospital doesn't do weekend inductions. My doctor will allow me to go up to 41 weeks waiting for natural labor, but I just can't face those extra 2 weeks with this pregnancy.

There's so many reasons to decide to induce or wait, and everybody has their own opinions on whether its right or wrong. What matters most is what you and your doctor are comfortable with. I think its important to educate yourself on the risks, but I also think that in the end its your call and nobody has the right to make you feel like you ought to choose one thing or another just because its what they would choose.