A group for TTC#1 and had more than one loss?

[BeachChica]

NTAT - glad things are going well! I can't believe how far along you are! How exciting! I wish my job would pay me overtime to go in on days off!!! The house has not started yet. It's been a bit of a rough ride with our builder. They just applied for our permits though and our preconstruction meeting is next week so things should be starting soon! I can't wait. Although its been nice living rent free!

Oyinkan- congrats on your BFP!!! How are you feeling!

 

[oyinkan]

@beach,feeling so sick.....will post pic of my test soon.#hugs#

 

[NewToAllThis]

NTAT - glad things are going well! I can't believe how far along you are! How exciting! I wish my job would pay me overtime to go in on days off!!! The house has not started yet. It's been a bit of a rough ride with our builder. They just applied for our permits though and our preconstruction meeting is next week so things should be starting soon! I can't wait. Although its been nice living rent free!

Oyinkan- congrats on your BFP!!! How are you feeling!

I still feel like I'm dreaming to be honest. Can't believe how far I am either. I NEVER thought I would be sat here at nearly 24 weeks. So there is definitely hope for everyone.

 

[Sooperhans]

Hi there everyone....quick update whilst I'm at work. I got a call today to hear that I'm 1:120 on the nt testung and therefore high risk as I'm not 1:150 or up. She started going down all the invasive testing options and I really don't want this. Am considering the DNA but don't know how much it'll cost. Also the added stress and worry around more testing and waiting....I'm wondering whether to take my 0.8% risk, draw a line under it and hope for the best....any advice welcome.thank you xxx

 

[NewToAllThis]

Hi there everyone....quick update whilst I'm at work. I got a call today to hear that I'm 1:120 on the nt testung and therefore high risk as I'm not 1:150 or up. She started going down all the invasive testing options and I really don't want this. Am considering the DNA but don't know how much it'll cost. Also the added stress and worry around more testing and waiting....I'm wondering whether to take my 0.8% risk, draw a line under it and hope for the best....any advice welcome.thank you xxx

Oh Soop, I can't imagine how you're feeling right now. I'm so sorry

I don't know much about the DNA thing and not sure if its available in the UK. I briefly googled it when I had the failed NT screening. It definitely sounds a lot better than the invasive treatments used here.
You are right though, one in 120 is only 0.8% and sounds so much better that way round.
This is the exact reason why I declined the 16 week bloods. Only you can decide what is best for you

Here if you want to chat

 

[Nicki123]

Hey Soop. Didn't want to read and run. Big - the odds are still low but I can only imagine how you're feeling. Can you find out more about the blood DNA tests? I just found an article from 2012 saying they were still deciding how much they would be in the UK but it made it sound as though they were available. It does sound a lot less invasive. Good luck

 

[BeachChica]

Oh Soop! Not the news I wanted to hear from you The chances are very, very low but I understand how you would be stressed, especially after having losses. I would be too. Are there any tests they can do instead? I would probably do the testing if it were me just because I think the stress of worrying would be worse in the long run. I am sorry you are even finding yourself I having to make this decision!

 

[kmp]

Soop, I can definitely say I know how you feel! My chances were increased due to the the hormone screening part not the nt number, but my odds were 1 in 31. I too wished I would have never had the screening done once I got the results. It is of course up to you and dh how to proceed. I was able to think positively about my odds and felt like things would be okay, but dh tends to be a big worrier and honestly I felt like having that over our heads would basically ruin the remaining 27 weeks of pregnancy. They scheduled us with a genetic counselor right when we got our results, but I had already researched the MaterniT21 test and was pretty convinced that is what we would do going in. It is literally just a blood test, but I know cost can be a factor. A genetic counselor may help by explaining the maximum amount you may be charged, ours was covered by insurance. It was very stressful waiting for those results, like extremely stressful!! Our results came quite quick though and we found out exactly one week after the blood was taken. Although I was less worried than dh, the level of my worry was evident when I felt the huge relief when I got the call that all was well. An additional bonus of the test is that you can get a very early and conclusive gender identification, which I know is sooo trivial at this point. Me and dh will both always remember my tearful call to him to say "our little girl is just fine". Like I said it depends on how each couple handles things, if my dh was different I don't think it would have been so crucial to get a definitive answer. I did read stories of women whose entire pregnancy had a cloud over it for what turned out to be no reason. One story struck me as a woman regretted to recall that her first thought when she looked at her newborn baby was whether she looked like she had down syndrome or not. That really hit me. Anyway sorry for the extremely long post, but I know you are going through a tough time and I am sending you hugs!

 

[Sooperhans]

Thank you so much ladies xxx And Kmp for sharing your
experience of the DNA test.


It's so lovely and comforting to know you are all
there.


Ok, we've found out more about the DNA from a UK POV. It
would take at least 2 weeks to get the result, it would start
from £700 and from what we understand, it still puts you in a
high/low risk camp? The chance of which they could still end
up recommending amnio....I completely understand Kmp that if
the cloud is over the pregnancy then the test is a good move.
Having trouble justifying that cost and the chance it may not
answer everything. Also once I've booked it, had it and
waiting for the results, 3 weeks or more could have gone
past. I don't know if I can take that stress. Somehow it's
worse when you know you are waiting for the results...I end
up climbing the walls!




Dh is wonderfully rational and he keeps saying 0.8% risk or
even 99.2% that everything will be fine...I went to acu last
night and she suggested maybe writing that figure down for
visual reassurance...might do that. She said she knows she
can't be conclusive but my kidney pulses have always been
fine and that relates to the baby's heart. So that's good. I
don't know if I want to put myself in a stressful situation,
we should be enjoying it all and have got so much further
than before...by the sounds of it on the phone yday, nothing
in my blood was excessive, so it was more on the measurement.
Which she struggled to get for quite a while. Hmmmm. Kmp was
the presence/absence of a nasal bone taken into account in
your test? I hear this can be a good sign-we had one but it
wasn't noted anyway. Grrrr




Basically we may just wait for (hopefully) the 20week scan,
which I understand picks up any other potential
abnormalities. It's been a hard week or so, taking all this
in and wondering why on earth we had this test! Ntat, I'm
with you next time, if there is one. When is your 20wk scan?




Massive post here, my thought process is literally pouring
out! *


Xxx

 

[NewToAllThis]

I've had my 20 week scan and all looked normal Soop. I know that it can't rule out everything but it can detect A LOT of potential abnormalities.
They do check everything thoroughly at this scan.

I can't advise what to do for the next, the decision is yours - but you are being very sensible in going through every scenario.
I still wonder now whether not having the bloods myself was a good idea, but thinking now that maybe it was. Although it will be in the back of my mind until he's born.

Here to support you in whatever decision you make

 

[Sooperhans]

Thank you Ntat, sorry of course you had your scan, I remember now. It is a comfort that the 20 week is so thorough...I would go on that rather than bloods, they seem to raise more questions than is necessary! Awaiting the blood breakdown in the post....
My midwife did say you can have the scan done again privately and the bloods too they use better technology. I don't know if I want any tests right now....sigh xxx

 

[mommylov]

I agree with it being such a low % Im thinking everything is going to be fine. Praying for you and all of you ladies!

 

[kmp]

Hey Soop, my scan was totally normal, it was the blood screening that was off. I totally understand not wanting to go through the stress of waiting for results. In future pregnancies I will not get first trimester screening. A bit confused that they said the DNA was not conclusive as it is DNA, there is either an extra chromosome or there isn't. It is about as accurate as amnio or cvs. Anyway, your dh is right, those odds are great! Everything will be fine!

 

[Neversaynever]

Soop....just wanted to chuck you some and throw my opinion out there which I'm going to be honest about and really hope I don't upset it offend you

I agree that if you ate going to have more testing that you go down the route of a definitive not another risk factor as that doesn't reassure you at all. I think the NT measurement...although not accurate is on the higher end. If you remember ladyfog had to go through all the testing and was told all was ok after 6mm measurement and amino yet Elsa has a heart complaint which wasn't picked up through the testing itself but the 20 week scan if I remember correctly. My point being that I feel the measurement is more of an accurate indicator IMO. It also depends on your view of 'what if?' For us...there was never any question if our baby had special needs or a syndrome...we wouldn't have terminated so we didn't have the testing for those reasons but some people prefer to know to be prepared if that makes sense? Only you and hubby can decide but please try not to let it stress you. Even without the testing I was crapping it the two weeks before 20 week scan and still wasn't completely reassured until he was in my arms. Lots of and hope you don't take offense

Beach...new house and stuff...exciting

NTAT...awesome V day been and gone

Mommylov..... hope that eggs been sperminated

Bugger who put that cute bump pic up...too early in the morning!

Nicki...glad you have done answers as I know you were looking for some and hopefully next time will be your rainbow time

Kmp...you doing well chick

I'm sure I've missed people and I'm sorry

LF if you still read this how's Elsa doing after surgery?

love and whatever guys...always thinking and hoping for you

XxX

 

[mommylov]

Thanks neversaynever!!! Hope youre doing well!

Love of to all of you!!!

No news for me... just waiting. Four more days until I start to

 

[Nicki123]

Soop just to echo what someone else said, I thought the DNA test was pretty much totally conclusive.

This is the article I was reading
https://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/...carriage-Screening-accurate-safer-babies.html

I hope you're doing ok

Oh and Hi Never :wave:

 

[BeachChica]

Nicki - Moonwalk today! Can't wait to see your pics!!!!

 

[Nicki123]

Hi Beach - moonwalk is tomorrow night. I will put on my outfit tomorrow morning and post pics definitely! X

 

[mommylov]

cant wait to see pics Nicki!!! Hope you have a great time!

Beach, how are you doing hun? Your chart is looking great!

:wave: to everyone and HAPPY FRIDAY!!!

 

[BeachChica]

Thanks Mommylov - I am doing good, hopefully sitting in my TWW like you! I am pretty sure I O'd on CD13 although FF is not showing crosshairs yet. I am waiting for them to show before I start my progesterone. My temps seem to be a slow shift this month. I may get another around of BDing in tonight just in case. How are you feeling? Just a couple more days until testing for you, can't wait!

Nicki - good luck tomorrow, I thought it was today for some reason. I am home today studying so my brain is complete MUSH!

NSN - :wave: so good to here from you! How are things going? Are you settled into a routine yet? We need a recent Louis pic! (insert foot tapping here!). I am curious is anyone has heard from LF also.

Soop, kmp, oyinkan, NTAT - :wave: How are you girls doing?