A group for TTC#1 and had more than one loss?

[BeachChica]

Hi Beach! Glad you're doing OK, but sorry the Dr is being a bit extreme! I think IVF would be a pretty extreme measure seeing all your testing has come back OK. And even if all you losses were due to dodgy chromosomes, they could have been different problems - as your specialist said, that would just make it bad luck. Are you starting to TTC again after the MC?

Hi Lady :wave: - I am not sure what to do about trying. I wanted to start this month but since I don't have an appt with the specialist until March 1st I may need to wait. I have a big trip to Europe planned at the end of May. Since my MC's seem to be about the 8-10 week mark I wanted to be either past that or before that on my trip. I would hate to have a late MC overseas. So if I don't try this month then I would probably start again in April.

 

[lexi374]

Beach glad to have you back...we missed you! sorry that they didnt do any testing this time also...it must be so frustrating. I dont see how they can come to the conclusion that it is a cromosomal issue when they've only tested tissue once...I think maybe you should get a second opinion...and all your recurrent tests came back normal so maybe your mc's were sadly just bad luck and your next one will be successful... x

Lexi you're not out yet not until AF shows and hopefully she doesnt! FXed for you x

AF wont show til i stop the prog, tested again today bfn, had stopped prog last night anyway. So i guess AF will come tomorrow or monday.

On to the next cycle! "sighs"

Welcome wookie, sorry you are going through another loss, hopefully it will be 3rd time lucky for you like Lady and some of the other ladies on here.

Beach maybe you could wait until you get back from your big trip in may before you try again? Good luck whatever you decide.

Patiently do you think you have def ovd now? If so you are well into your tww.

Lady a holiday somewhere warm sounds great i could really do with that now! If we go away it will be in june, seems like a long way off yet!

Hi to everyone else x

 

[patiently]

Im sorry you got another bfn lexi...hope next month will be your month...! really got everything crossed for you...

Beach whenever you feel to start trying again is when you should...i think it depends on how you feel so long as everything else is ok

AFM i think i have ovulated its so hard to tell especially because my temp isnt up but huge amounts but last night my duvet dropped off so i woke up an hour before testing time and couldnt get back to sleep as it was freezing so i dont know if this would effect my temps? my room temperature has dropped too...i dont know i think im njust going to wait and see im so tired of stressing all the time...only thing i have noticed is cramping but not like o cramping more like AF and i dont really have any cm but when i do its creamy...huh lets just see...

Hope you have a good weekend girls x

 

[BeachChica]

Thanks ladies, I guess I will just see what the specialist says and go from there. This has all been so frustrating!!

Lexi - I noticed in your signature that you have been diagnosed with high NK cells. Someone in another thread I'm in mentioned NK cells too. I have asked 2 doctors now about this test and they have both shrugged it off saying that there is not enough info about this for this test to be useful. Were you ever given a reason for your MC's? Are you doing anything taking anything for the high NK cells?

Patiently - those could be implantation cramps!!!! Oh gosh, I have everything crossed for you!!

 

[lexi374]

Beach - its the same here, when you mention nk cells you can see the doctors backing away. I couldnt get the test (i had a uterine biopsy, some just test through your blood but the biopsy is meant to be more accurate) on the nhs, but id read up about a professor that worked for the nhs that had done trials, so i paid to see her and have the test. All other tests we had were normal. None of my miscarriages had developed past 6 weeks, i just dont believe its down to bad luck! Apparently less than 5% is normal and mine was 10.2%. When i get bfp i will be on steroids until 12 weeks (prednisolone).

I guess it remains to be seen if this will work for me but other people have had success so i hope so!

Things are diff in the U.S. so im not sure how you would go about it, but could you find a doc that would be willing to try you on steroids for your next pregnancy?

 

[Ladyfog]

Hi

Hope everyone's having a good weekend. I've just been hanging out at home today, and having a rest. It's just what I've needed after a very busy week at work.

Beach, your trip to Europe sounds exciting - if you need any suggestions for places visit, I'm sure me and the other UK girls will be happy to help! I also lived in France for a year so could give you some ideas for there as well if you need any I wouldn't want to do a bit trip like that while pregnant (MS could make it difficult in the first trimest from about 6 weeks) so maybe wait until you're back or start trying while you're away? Is the specialist doing any more tests for you in March?

Lexi hope AF is kind to you this month . Onwards and upwards eh?

As promised, got DH to take a bump pic - here you go...

 

[patiently]

LADY what a cute cute cute lil baby bump...so sweet!!!

 

[BeachChica]

Lexi - thanks for the info on the NK cells. its interesting the way doctors shy away from this. I am going to ask the specialist at my next appt about what my options are at this point. I never really make it past about 8 weeks (that seems to be where the growth stops).

Lady - I love your bump pic!!! Thanks for offering info about Europe I may take you girls up on it. I have been doing a lot of research and its exhausting. We will be spending 6 days in Barcelona and then taking a 12 day Med cruise that goes to: Nice (FR), Florence (IT), Rome (IT), Naples (IT), Venice (IT), Dubruvnik (Croatia), and Kotor (Montenegro). I was born in Spain but I haven't been there since I was young so I feel like this is really my first time in Europe.

 

[patiently]

so my temp dropped this morning and ff has taken away my ovulation date so it looks like i havent ovulated yet??? argh this cycle is so confusing last cycle my chart was so easy to interpret and with all this positive opks its becoming even more challenging...i think im going to count myself out this cycle because between charting using opks and my OH its stressing me out...

 

[lexi374]

Beach good luck with your doc, i hope they can help you.

Lady cute bump, you look very slim!

Patiently looking at your chart i dont think you ovd either, your post ov temps were around 36.6 last month. I hope you can get oh to bd for a little longer.

 

[patiently]

Lexi i have given up trying to gently persuade my OH he is acting so childish at the moment and I have given up...im just frustrated!! and the fact that i havent ovulated yet is driving me crazy too..i ovulated on 50 mg yet i still havent on 100mg...and im suffering from hot flashes everyday! i should've just stuck with the 50mg...i know im going to be out this month and from how my chart is looking it seems like its going to be a very long month! I really feel to just throw the towel in!!! sorry for my rant ladies i just cant shake this feeling ive tried so hard and now im trying by myself as OH is being a right pain the the backside! So selfish!!!...sometimes i just wish he could deposit his sperm somewhere so i can have access to it when i wanted...wouldnt that make life so much easier?

 

[patiently]

Lexi are your temps supposed to stay the same after o every month...?

 

[lexi374]

Patiently im sorry hun, yes a 'deposit' would be so much easier!!

No, they will not be the same every month eg temps will be higher in summer than winter, you will get to know whats right for you. I would think last month will be similar to this month as long as you keep things the same eg same time, heating on or off, whether you wear anything in bed or not etc.

 

[lexi374]

Sometimes you can have a dip on the day of ovulation, im wondering if you will ov today?

 

[BeachChica]

Patiently - don't give up I think your chart looks good. I usually get a dip like that right before O. I think you'll O today or tomorrow. Can you try to squeeze out one more "deposit" from him today? Men!!! Today or tomorrow would be key for you this month I think.

Good luck!!!

 

[patiently]

Thanks Lexi i have been sleeping the same really apart from when my covers dropped off...

Beach i think i will o soon as ive been getting a lot more cm...but I know he will be unwilling tonight and if i o tonight or tomorrow it would be too late to bd tomorrow...i have just sat on the bathroom floor and cried to myself from frustration and upset...but thank you both for being encouraging i really appreciate it...!! hope you both get your bfp's real soon!! x

 

[BeachChica]

Beach i think i will o soon as ive been getting a lot more cm...but I know he will be unwilling tonight and if i o tonight or tomorrow it would be too late to bd tomorrow...i have just sat on the bathroom floor and cried to myself from frustration and upset...but thank you both for being encouraging i really appreciate it...!! hope you both get your bfp's real soon!! x

Gosh I can't believe how difficult he's being!! Sorry you have to go through this, as if this isn't already heard enough on us. They have such a small part!!!
Well try tonight and if its a no go I think you should still try for tomorrow. It can't hurt and you still might be able to catch the egg. The last time I was prego I had stopped BD thinking I had O'd but a couple days later my temps actually had a bigger dip and that was O. Thankfully those sperm lasted a couple extra days. Good luck!

 

[patiently]

aww thanks beach..tried again tonight and he simply said im not in the mood...it really makes me rather angry if im honest...like you said its hard enough without having to battle with him...so i know im out this month..the last time i bd was thursday and i know it cant last that long so...i dont even think he will want to bd tomorrow either...im really getting tired of his selfish ways! if he doesnt want to try anymore or even needs a break from us then he just needs to say so and stop giving me false hope...what man doesnt want to bd i dont understand!!! thanks again anyway x

 

[marieh2008]

aww thanks beach..tried again tonight and he simply said im not in the mood...it really makes me rather angry if im honest...like you said its hard enough without having to battle with him...so i know im out this month..the last time i bd was thursday and i know it cant last that long so...i dont even think he will want to bd tomorrow either...im really getting tired of his selfish ways! if he doesnt want to try anymore or even needs a break from us then he just needs to say so and stop giving me false hope...what man doesnt want to bd i dont understand!!! thanks again anyway x

Patiently I think you should talk to him and ask him wants wrong. Last time we were ttc it became a chore and he got like that. So I would ask him whats a matter. Hope we all get our BFPS soon. x

Also ladies I was just wondering ive had a 2 day lightish period never that short. Then after sex i had some bleeding cervix still soft and high and had a tiny bit of yellowish cm anyone any idea whats going on. Not to mention the headaches all the time ive done 2 clear blue pregnancy test both neg and doc did a wee one last week again neg. So im sure its not that but just wondered if anyone has any ideas. Thanks

 

[BeachChica]

Marieh - How many DPO are you? Do you temp?