A group for TTC#1 and had more than one loss?

[Ladyfog]

Hi everyone

Wookie, sounds like you're doing everything you can for now. I do think the tests I had helped me to have more hope as they showed me that there was nothing wrong - but they doesn't always give you any answers so don't be too disappointed if they won't do any testing on you.

Welcome Hopefulk - this is a thread full of lovely ladies so hope we can help you through this tough time. I was the same as you - had lots of tests and they all came back normal. It confirmed to me that my losses were likely to be just bad luck and I guess that was right. You sound like you're doing the right thing trying to lose the weight - I definitely did my fair share of comfort eating after my losses so you're not alone there but now I'm packing on the pregnancy pounds I'm glad I lost the bit I put on.

Patiently, so glad you OH is being more considerate - absence makes the heart (and other body parts) grow stronger eh?

NSN - it will get easier to buy baby stuff as the weeks go by Baby shops still feel very alien to me too, although I'm getting into shopping for maternity clothes! There's no hurry to buy baby stuff - I've just been researching online - it's less intimidating and there's often more variety online anyway.

Lexi - glad things are going OK hopefully your cycles will just kick off again, a bit like a late period.

Hi anyone I've missed . AFM, I'm doing just fine - nothing much to reports really. Kicks are getting stronger now and I'm starting to feel them from the outside too - I keep trying to get DH to have a feel, but I think it freaks him out a bit!

 

[FloridaGirl21]

thinking of all of you ladies

 

[patiently]

Ladies please take a look at my chart ff hasnt detected ovulation yet but i have all the signs that i have ovulated. If i took my temp on cd 30 it would have crosshairs. What cd do you think i could've ovulated on. I just wanted to know your opinion.

 

[FloridaGirl21]

patiently, it looks like you may have O'd, but I'm not so sure when. Have you tested with an HPT recently?

 

[patiently]

Florida happy 13 weeks!!! seems like just yesterday you announced your twin bfp! So happy for you!

Lady i think some men view pregnancy as scary lol funny that they think they're tough and macho but a little baby scares them. I cant wait to feel what kicks actually feel like. I cant even wait to hear a heartbeat or have m/s. Have you started buying baby clothes? How do you feel now? more relaxed? Hope you are and you are enjoying your pregnancy. x

Lexi hope you are ok hun. Thinking of you. Always here for you x

NSN like lady said theres no hurry to buy baby clothes so take your time and when you feel comfortable getting some things then thats when you should. I also think the idea about buying a small "gift" every week is quite nice but as long as you feel ok with that. x

 

[lexi374]

Ladies please take a look at my chart ff hasnt detected ovulation yet but i have all the signs that i have ovulated. If i took my temp on cd 30 it would have crosshairs. What cd do you think i could've ovulated on. I just wanted to know your opinion.

I think you ovulated cd 30/31, i would say your coverline is around 36.3, and all temps from cd32 have been above this, good luck hun, you gonna test or wait it out?

Ayc i thought you posted that you had a positive test? What happened? Sorry if ive missed your post.

Florida hows those twinnies?

Lady glad all is ticking along nicely, have you thought of any names yet?

to everyone hope you are doing ok?

Anyone testing soon?

 

[patiently]

Thanks ladies. You're so quick and helpful! thanks!! I have tested yesterday and as expected BFN. I actually agree Lexi i think i may have o'd cd 30/31 which will put me at 6/7dpo so if AF isnt here by next wednesday i'll test then. Hope we get our sticky BFP really soon.

 

[patiently]

O gosh! the embarrassment today was unbearable. So i received a parking fine today for £130 (so angry) that i have to pay. I went to the local council housing office to ask what options i had. I started feeling really light headed so at the desk i sat down. I started to feel normal again so i got up to leave. The next thing i know some lady had me on my side on the floor shouting "can you hear me? can you hear me? i looked up to see the entire housing office watching me! omg! the shame. The ambulance came even though i said i was fine and they took my blood and checked my blood pressure. He asked i i was pregnant and i wish i couldve said yes lol. I took a hpt soon as i got in and as expected bfn today if i did o on cd 31 i'd be 8dpo so maybe a little early still i really am hoping that i am even though i really dont feel that i am. Either way i was super embarrassed and have taken tomorrow off as i've worked for 10 days in a row. They weren't happy but oh well they're just gonna have to deal with it!. I need a break. Hope you are all ok any updates ? x

 

[NewToAllThis]

Oh hun, that's awful. How you feeling now? I hope its cos you're pregnant...
Did they let you off with the fine? They should have....!

 

[lexi374]

Patiently what a nightmare!

Def to early to test so hang on in there! I hope its cos you are preggo though!

You feeling ok now?

Any s and s at all? You say you dont feel pregnant but sometimes i think its the months you are sure you are out that you get that bfp!

Afm Cd 7, boring... will start bd every other day from this weekend.

Where is everyone else at? x

 

[patiently]

I just wrote the longest message and it got deleted lol...seriously today is not my day haha!

NTAT no! they didnt even let me off lol...oh well. Im feeling much better now thanks. but the shame i tried to hide but i was in the middle of the room...not lady like at all. The Paramedic was asking all sorts of personal questions in front of other like could i be pregnant and i had to whisper "a slight chance" lol...how are you hun? has AF arrived? Have you been BD? hope you are well x

Lexi No symptoms at all my last two pg i had sore bbs by now and this time nothing so not convinced as yet. Odd twinge here and there sometimes very sharp. A usual AF sign for me. CD7 is a fab place to be you've got lost of bd to look forward to this weekend!! something we havent done in a week! im just too tired. You could be weeks away from your bfp. I realy do hope that you catch the egg really soon...FXed for you hun...Just a quick question and please do not feel like you have to answer im sorry if i upset you...but...did yor pregnancy symptoms differ much rom each pg or were they the same? sorry hun if you dont want to answer i totally understand hope all is well x x

 

[NewToAllThis]

I'm STILL waiting for AF

How are you doing Lexi?

 

[lexi374]

No probs, 1st and 3rd pregnancies that were mmc and ended up with erpc, had sore boobs and my sense of smell was very acute, couldnt stand anything stinky eg garlic, curry etc.

2nd and 4th both ended in bleeds around 6ish weeks from lmp, ov late so prob around 5 weeks preg. No real symptoms... i remember saying to dh the 2nd time but my boobs dont hurt!! And he said welll they hurt last time and that didnt work out so maybe this will be different. And this time i said it didnt sit right with me from day 1, and i said to dh i keep waiting for my sense of smell to go but it hasnt. I knew i was pregnant with the 3rd before id tested, 1 cos of temps and 2 dh had given me mexican chicken sandwiches for work and i thought urgh they stink!

Ntat get back to the doc and get some meds to start it

 

[Sooperhans]

Hello everyone and I wonder if I can join this thread? A bit about me: 2 natural mcs in 3 months, 1 at 7w 3d, 1 5w with no AF in between. Now waiting for AF to arrive so I can try again and have a bit more of an idea of dates this time, as doc told me to wait for 12 week scan last time to date it! Only when I got pains in left side, went to the EPU and had blood tests that they scanned me (internal) and after the bloods (2 within 48 hrs), they told me my hcg was dropping and my progesterone is low. Soooo now I'm waiting for AF, which seems to be delayed (usually 28 day cycle) and tomorrow I'll be 33 days since the mc started. It's hard as I've been cramping for 2 weeks now, last week I had 2 horrid migraines in 1 week and I feel really rundown.

B/c of the low prog, I begged the doc to prescribe me supplements, which she eventually agreed to and I will take on day 18 of my new cycle. Whenever the new cycle starts! Just wish I knew what the score was and when it'll come on, as I'm desperate to try again, I just don't feel right having had both these losses and nothing to show for it. Only a couple of friends understand, I've had some really insensitive comments come my way and some have hurt me.

I've read up on this thread a bit and think the support would be lovely, everyone here seems so nice. Ladyfog, your story is lovely and encouraging, so sorry for others' losses, gl to those who are pregnant and lots of luck to those ttc...Sorry I don't know everyone's names yet! Patiently are you OK after fainting?? I fell over on the way to work this week - I remember feeling my legs were shaky, then I was on the floor! So embarrassing, I fell at the feet of a fellow commuter and scratched my knee up, boo.

Sorry for the long post everyone, any advice/questions would be great xx

 

[patiently]

Sooperhans welcome to the thread. Im so sorry for your losses the ladies on here are so fantastic, so understanding and so encouraging all the time. TTC and then going through mc's when trying for number 1 is really difficult and so many other people who have not experienced it may not have the best responses at times which can make it even harder as you may not get the support that you need. But luckily we have each other and when this journey gets hard its so reassuring to have each other to help us through the good the bad and the ugly. How are you feeling? are your OH/family/friends being supportive? I do hope you are getting support from home too.

Its good that your dr prescribed progesterone so as soon as AF comes you can resume ttc. Was your progesterone low in both pg's? Its frustrating when dr's wont do testing until after three because you think how can i go through this again?...but proof is on this thread that sometimes it is simply down to bad luck. A few of the ladies on here are proof of that and have gone on to have healthy pregnancies. How long or short have you been ttc?

My best advice to anyone after a mc, and something that was extremely hard for me to do, would be to try and relax. Easier said than done right? After both of my losses the desire to get pregnant was even more intense to the point where i got obsessed and it ended up delaying my already irregular cycles even longer. So i would say to try and relax. It will happen you will get your sticky bfp!

Im so sorry that you collapsed too I was also really embarrassed so you're not alone there. Did you find out why you collapsed? Hope you are feeling much better now. I hope AF comes soon so you can resume ttc again, and that you get your sticky bfp very soon. Sending lots of baby dust to you. x

 

[Sooperhans]

Bless you, thank you for such a detailed msg, Patiently! I think you are right, a lot of friends and family just don't know what to say. My mum had 4 babies problem free and so they are baffled as to why this has happened to me and I must admit sometimes I am too. After our 1st mc, parents rushed straight over to me (about 100miles betw us) but after the 2nd one, they have been a lot more reserved and I was surprised that they haven't told any other family, even close ones that it has happened again, I don't know why they have kept this one hidden, when I ask them they said it was my news and they didn't know what to say. My work made the call when I was off to say I had a virus, so very few people know there. I feel like I can't be open with everyone, my mil also hasn't told anyone - has anyone else had this secrecy when it wasn't your choice? Makes it awkward, I had an awkward conversation with my cousin, who as I was talking to her she was like "you've had 2?!" So I think I'm going to really value any advice from you lovely ladies! Another friend said for me to give it 2-3 yrs and we could always adopt?! I'm struggling to wait a month!!

Luckily I am getting lots of support from my dh, he's very good at talking and discussing feelings, but he tends to focus on how I am and not his own feelings, I would so like him to express himself and not go into his shell, as I worry he's not dealing with his own emotions, but that is how he has coped with all other bad news in the past too.*

Yes, I was pleased to get the progesterone, it wasn't w/o a fight but I was adamant that if it's showing low then i'm having some! I'm also hypothyroid (underactive) so I do worry if that will affect my chances, but my doc has put me on a high dose of 175mg which I hope means that it's not a problem. The first mc they didn't take bloods, they said it was a mmc so I don't know what my progesterone levels were.*

I came off the pill in August and our first mc was our honeymoon baby in October, it was going to be so perfect Obv not meant to be though. I am wondering if like you I'm delaying AF but I'm trying not to stress too much, even though we haven't tried this month I did a hpt this norm to double check, bfn. Think I'll relax once AF is here, so want to try again!

I think it was prob low blood sugar with me as to why I collapsed, even though I don't skip meals I'm finding I'm all over the place ATM. Don't think my thyroid helps, as when I get run down I seem to sink quite low. Who knows for sure what's happening in there! Do you know why it happened to you? Hope it's cos you're due a bfp v soon?

Anyway, lots of luck and baby dust to you, sorry for long rambling post but it's lovely to talk openly xx

 

[patiently]

I feel exactly the same, my mum just has to look at her OH and will be pregnant and has had 4 uneventful pregnancies same with my younger sister who is 18 and currently pregnant with her first and most of the women in my family. So definately ask what is wrong with me? but after two years ttc i still dont have the answers to that but i find comfort in thinking that a healthy baby will be here soon and everything will be ok. We could be third time lucky so hang on in there it will happen. That comment about adopting was not constructive at all. Although that would also be amazing im sure you're not thinking so far ahead so keep ttc and im sure you'll get your forever baby.

The secrecy never happened in my family in fact when i told my sister and mum that we was expecting they told the rest of the family without my consent then when i had the mc they all knew too...but for me that was even harder they kept calling me saying that me and my OH were not compatible and maybe our genes didnt work together, that i should try with someone else. Or that im not strong enough to hold a baby so that really hurt!! i sort of wish i did have the secrecy. I think your family just probably dont know how to deal with the situation and feel best to let you handle it. I feel that some people who have not ever had a mc usually find it confusing and cannot relate so leave you to get on with it. Have you tried talking to your family about it? will you tell them again once you get your next bfp?

Its great that your OH is very supportive and he is trying to be strong for the both of you (i think most men try to do this) but as long as he knows that he can confide in you when he is ready then just try and be there for each other.

At least the progesterone will give you some more reassurance next time also cant do any harm. I really dont think you are delaying AF sorry if i made you think that but sometimes after MC your cycle becomes slightly altered so you may have it a few days later or earlier just try and hang on in there she will come. Have you had any AF symptoms?

I think i fainted because of low blood sugar levels too i had a blood sample and the paramedic said i had low blood pressure too. I just ate a KFC meal though. lol. He asked if i was on a diet because I am petite and i thought if only he knew that i eat four large meals a day and snack in between i even eat dinner at 10pm and still i wait for the weight...im sure it will come when i get my sticky bfp! I hope us ttc'ers get our bfp's soon so then we can all start discussing baby information and comparing our pregnancy experiences. FXed for us all and lots of baby dust across the thread x

 

[FloridaGirl21]

Sooperhans, I had two MC prior to this pregnancy, my first I believe was a blighted ovum and I believe my 2nd was related to low Progesterone levels. My DRs started monitoring my Progesterone levels after I started Clomid & we saw a pattern both months & saw that my Progesterone levels were very low. My DR said low Progesterone levels means a weak Ov & that it would be very unlikely that a sperm would even be able to fertilize my egg because the egg was too weak.. First time didn't work but 2nd did and I started Progesterone right away..

At 4weeks I started spotting heavy, I decided to up my Progesterone dose to 200mg because lots of ladies online were taking more than 100mg (what I had been prescribed). The bleeding continued on to the next day. I called my DR the next morning and we sat down and went over everything. I told her I was taking the 100mg Progesterone, but upped it to 200mg the night before & she stopped me and said my notes said that I was supposed to be on 200mg.. I told her that they must have messed up my prescription then because it said 100mg once a day. She called in a new prescription and I continued on the 200mg Progesterone, the spotting went away & now I'm just over 13 weeks and the babies are thriving and doing well. I feel in my heart that without the Progesterone, I would have miscarried yet again. So I really do recommend taking the Progesterone meds if your levels are low

I understand also coming from a family with no issues. My mom had 4 children, all problem free pregnancies, same for my grandmother. My cousin had just had a daughter, problem free pregnancy when we started TTC & I could not understand why we were having such issues. I promise, your time will come hun. We were TTC for 21 months and really started to think it just wouldn't happen. Just keep your chin up and try to stay positive

 

[ayclobes]

I need some advice..kinda. I seen the new dr 2wks ago..he told me he didnt wanna do clomid or anything b/c of overstimulation? i hadn't been on clomid since 6/2011. I want to try the femara before jumping to injectibles..i emailed him but nothing back yet..i hope he agrees..b/c i dont wanna forget about it if it could get us our healthy baby?

 

[BeachChica]

Hi girls,
Sorry I have been away for a couple days so I need to catch up.

Ok so I went to the doctor (specialist) yesterday. He was disappointed that I was not able to get any tissue tested from my last D&C. He feels that the fact I have had 4 MC's, the chances of me having a normal pregnancy are starting to decline.

Basically he said that my options at this point would be:
1. TTC again but he would start Progesterone a couple days ofter O.
2. Try IVF with my egg and DH's egg and check for chromosomal problems before implantation (only implant good ones)
3. Do nothing and just TTC again.
4. Consider adoption

The IVF procedure would be about $17,000. I am checking but I don't think that my insurance covers this. He said that he would write me a letter stating that it would be for recurring pregnancy loss and not infertility so that may change things on whether they cover it. He feels that this might be the best option (if its covered) but even with this procedure the probability that at least 1 egg takes (he said they usually implant about 3) would only be about 35%. The chances of more taking are even lower so I could do through all this and still not even get pregnant. If I have other issues going on in my body besides the chromosomal problems then that could still cause the pregnancy to fail.

Basically for now he wants me to take 1 more month off (which I was planning to do anyway). He is having me get the Day 3 test (FSH, Estradiol, and Anti-Mullerian Hormonedone tests) this cycle after I get AF. Basically that checks your egg quality and quantity. (This could be another factor to determine if I would be a good candidate to even do IVF). Next month he wants me to come in again on approx Day 3 for a sonogram to check how many follicles are present and we will come up with a game plan from there.

I don't know, what do you girls think?