A group for TTC#1 and had more than one loss?

[Hopefulk]

Hi ladies

Sorry I joined and disappeared... Hope everyone is well. Hello to sooperhans and bluesgirl - so sorry to hear about your losses. I've only been on here once but as a fellow newbie can say everybody is really kind and welcoming (and hopefully forgiving if you disappear for a few days! Tee-hee-hee!)

How are you doing patiently? A story to make you giggle: My GP made me howl with laughter when I was pregnant and started fainting... Her advice was "lie on the floor if you start to feel faint or dizzy. Even if you're in the supermarket. In fAct especially in the supermarket - if you faint they have lots of forms you have to complete before they allow you to leave but if you lie down they just think you're a bit crazy and don't encourage you to hang around!". This is funny enough on its own but what she didn't realise is I work in hr for a food retailer so I spend a LOT of my time in supermarkets and most employees know who I am - can you imagine if I did that? hahaha!

How is everyone doing? I'm expecting it to be quiet on here - I saw a few people have some bd plans for this weekend! (our poor ohs!)

I think I had an ovulation pain on Wednesday but I chickened out of trying this month! On the bright side, I've now lost 10.4 lb and bmi is 27 so weight is moving in right direction and I'll be happier trying next month!

Lots of baby dust to everyone who is trying and (annoying?) tummy rubs for the mummies to be!

Hope you all have a lovely Sunday.x

 

[patiently]

Hi Hopefulk. Im am doing well thanks your story really did make me giggle. Some of the things that dr's come up with aye? Just to avoid filling up forms hahaha!

Congrats about your weight loss! 10.4lb is a lot! I think im the only person actually trying to gain weight lol. Have you been ntnp this cycle? Hope that when you do start trying again you get your bfp really quickly!

Hope you're having a lovely sunday too x

 

[Ladyfog]

Hi ladies!

Sorry I haven't posted in a few days - I had a crazy busy week at work before my week off and also had to make a 50th birthday cake and had to make all the sugar flowers...anyway I'm on holiday in Lanzarote now so time to relax! It's lovely being somewhere with a bit of sunshine and will probably be our last holiday for the little lady comes along (a lovely thought but also a bit scary - our last holiday without the complications of a little person!). We normally go to Mexico but this year a) we couldn't afford it b) my typhoid jab has run out and I can't get it again while pregnant and c) I am not really meant to be doing long haul flights so 3 and a half hours seemed just about perfect!

Welcome Sooper and Blues very sorry for your losses . I don't think it can hurt to have a break after a MC, but must say I tried straight away after my first AF each time but it's always taken at least 2 or 3 cycles to conceive again. We kind of tried before, but I just don't think my body was every ready for a couple of cylces. I'm undecided about progesterone as I think sometimes people think it will be the magic cure and it doesn't always help, but it works for many people and in Florida's case it looks like it saved her babies so who am I to say yay or nay . Blues, my losses were at 8 weeks ish (MMC at 11.6) and 6 weeks ish (MMC at 9.6). If all your tests have come back OK, maybe it really is just bad luck and when you feel ready you can try again? How do you feel at the moment?

I can't believe how insensitive some people can be! I was lucky in a way that my mum had a MC before she had me and also MC'd my twin quite early in the pregnancy so she and my dad understood and my friends have all been great. Sooper - it's certainly not time to be thinking about adoption yet!!!

Patiently - good luck for the next few days and so glad you and OH are getting on better again I think its a great idea to wait to test if you can.

Beach - at least the Dr is taking things seriously, but the US is very expensive for IVF, which is so hard for you. It makes me feel very fortunately to be in the UK as I know a couple of girls over here who are trying now and do not have the worry of getting approval from insurance first. Do you have any idea what you will do? I guess if your ins company can pay you should just go for it, but from seeing people go through it, it's not an easy process and not always successful... Do you think there's still a chance that the next time it will be OK? I know 4 MCs is considered out of 'normal' range, but there is still a chance that with progesterone everything could be OK?

Hi and everyone else. Hope you're all having a lovely weekend.

 

[lexi374]

Hi lady, id love a bit of sun right now! We went to mexico in '08 for our honeymoon, i loved it!!! Would love to go back but as you said its expensive and such a long flight!! We stayed at the royal cancun, had only been open a year when we went, was amazing!

We've been to tenerife and gran canaria but not lanzarote, is it warm there at the mo? Make the most of your time as a couple now before she comes along!

Have you thought of any names yet?

Enjoy your hol and chill out. x

 

[lexi374]

Congrats on your weight loss hopefulk,

 

[BeachChica]

Oh Lady, your trip to Lanzarote sounds fabulous! you will have to post some pics.

I think after a few days of thinking about what my doctor said and I have been over in the PAL thread reading about several women who have had 4 or more MC's and now are pregnant in the 20 week range, I now have some hope. I am thinking that I will do my Day 3 test this month as soon as AF arrives, next month do the sonogram to check my follicle count and start TTC again another time on our own using the progesterone 3 DPO. I tested low for progesterone on my last pregnancy. I am also looking into a few more vitamins to take, figure they can't hurt, right. I will also stick to my previous regimen of Prenatals with DHA, 2 mg Folic Acid and baby aspirin. Maybe I will feel differently after my day 3 test results but that's how I am feeling right now. What do you think?

 

[lexi374]

Hi beach, i agree i think its worth another go on your own with whatever meds they give you without starting ivf first. Ive also read about other people having success after numerous miscarriages, so its got to be worth another go hasnt it!

Good luck hun. x

 

[Sooperhans]

Hi Lexi, no I don't currently temp but I was thinking opks from day 10 will tell me if I o, but think I'm going to have to ask my doc what I'm supposed to do if I haven't by day 18. Also she's only told me what to do if I get a bfp with the progesterone (to carry on using it) but not if I'm not, when do I stop taking it to allow AF, as it won't come if I'm on it, will it? Any real life experience away from a doc's surgery v welcome!

Still no AF, every day I feel like it's going to happen then...zilch! Beach hope yours arrives soon too and you know where you are a bit more. I think trying with progesterone or anything they give you before ivf is a good move. Lots of luck to you

I think my thyroid is as under control as it can be, normally I'm on 125mg of thyroxine but got raised to 175mg the first time I got a bfp and I begged the doc to let me stay on it while we're trying, on the understanding that if I get lots of hyperthyroid (over) symptoms I'll tell her, as technically I'm being overtreated.*

Lexi fx you catch your bfp quickly and can share your good news v soon

Patiently - you are living up to your name by waiting for Weds to test! So hope it's the bfp you've been waiting for

Hopefulk, hello fellow newbie! Great news on the weightloss, well done! Think this place is fab, so much experience to share and lots of bfp and bfps-to-be happiness out there! Even if it takes some a little longer to get there, we all will. Felt much more positive this weekend and looking forward. Went to dinner at a friends and hb tried to bring up my pregnancies and honestly you could see a tumbleweed blowing across the table, but I wasn't upset like before! So be it that not everyone is prepared to talk about it but I do have a couple of friends and family members that will talk so I'll go to them. Got a lovely email from mil saying she'd like to talk more and is there anytime, so that was really nice

Lady, hope you are having a great holiday and the sun is shining down on you! I am wondering if my body will delay falling preggo naturally for a couple of cycles as you say happened to you, but if we start ttc at least we stand a chance, got to be in it to win it after all And a progesterone success story with Florida is great isn't it? Will just have to see how I get on with it when the time comes, once I can start taking it.*

Hope everyone had a fab w/e with lots of baby making!! Xxx

 

[lexi374]

Soop will reply a bit later, have to go back to work for a meeting.

My best friend at work had her 12 week scan today, all good, she had 2 losses last year so am pleased for her..... but why dont i feel pleased!?

Instead i feel jealous, and so sad for myself i could

She told everyone this afternoon and when the scan pics were being passed around i wanted the ground to swallow me up!

I feel like such a shitty friend but im struggling to feel excited for her, im holding back tears. I really wish i didnt have to see her on a daily basis.

I can feel myself withdrawing from everyone i know because they have kids or are pregnant. Why is life so cruel to some of us?!

Sorry for selfish post x

 

[Sooperhans]

I feel for you Lexi, really I do. All you can do is be patient with yourself and maybe have a word with your friend saying while you are over the moon for her, sometimes it's going to make you sad and can she make some allowances for you. With your recent loss, it is to be expected, any pregnancy is going to be a reminder and a mirror to your own situation. She must know more than anything else how that feels, having been through it herself. On the day I started losing angel #2 a really good friend went into labour. I couldn't believe how something so amazing and something else that's so cruel could be happening at the same time. It will get better for you and you will be joining them with stories of happiness rather than sadness one day.*
In the meantime be kind to yourself and not hard on yourself for how you are feeling, have a nice long bath and put some music on - don't know about anyone else but any kind of music helped me more than reading or tv, just couldn't concentrate. Can you book a long weekend of annual leave to pamper yourself with oh? I've just booked a Fri and Mon in March for the same reason. Lots of

 

[lexi374]

Sooperhans - thanks for your reply. Life is such a bitch sometimes isnt it?!

Im sure my friend has some idea how im feeling and probably feels a little awkward too. I guess i just need to get on with it but seeing her at work everyday its a constant reminder of what i should have..... a 1 year old tomorrow...or a 7month old.....or be 37 weeks pregnant ....or 7 weeks pregnant!


Working in a nursery does not help either its all we talk about!

Dh and i have a few days off after easter and i was thinking about getting some stuff done to the house, but also thinking we need a few days away, i know what id rather do!

Ok re progesterone, my gp thinks its a load of crap but prof quenby has said i could take it 7dpo for 7 days then do a test if bfp stay on it, if bfn come off it and will have a bleed a few days later.

7dpo is quite late, most other ladies seem to start 3dpo, so this cycle i think i will try 5dpo, happy medium. So test at 14 dpo if negative then stop and you will get a bleed.

the only problem with opks is you dont know for def if or when you have ovd, sometimes you get a surge but dont ov, or you miss your surge (like i always do). I def recommend temping aswell, you should be able to pinpoint when you ov and can then start the progesterone on the right day.

If you want to know more about temping let me know. You can have a look at some of my charts in my siggy.

How long have you been waiting for af?

 

[lexi374]

Patiently did you test yet?

 

[Neversaynever]

Ladies I haven't forgotten you honest...have been reading but wanted to post properly but still not got chance

Lexi..massive babe it IS hard to be happy for other people...re read the thoughts from a mother I STILL find it hard to talk about my pregnancy outside of my journal because I STILL want to be sensitive to others. I know you're happy for me but I would never intentionally over do it. You do whatever you need to do to deal with this...it's your journey..nobody else's. I think going away would be a better option...let the wind blow through your hair away from everyday life always here if you need me.

Patiently...hope you're not getting more tickets and fainting seriously...you need to take care of yourself.

New ladies...I am so sorry you have found yourself here but as you can see...a lovely bunch of informative, caring and supportive ladies.

Beach...I would go ahead and try again...as you know there are a couple of ladies on the recurrent PAL thread who have had four losses and now are doing well

Lady...get you sunning yourself enjoy

RM...were are you?

Wonder where all the other ladies that were on here are hope you're all ok?

Someone asked about trying straight after...after my first loss, we tried and got pregnant after 4 cycles..caught pregnant 2 cycles after second loss and caught without an AF after my last loss with this pregnancy. I firmly believe if your body isn't ready to fal pregnant straight away...it won't. Doesn't mean to say that the egg/sperm is any good but the uterus.

Massive and I'll try and stay more on top of posting in here. More than anything I want to close this thread because no one needs it anymore

all round

XxX

 

[sosad82]

Hi there everyone im just wondering if i can join this group i am in limbo land at the moment and not sure where i belong!!!...i have looked at the WTT forum but cant see exactly where i fit in there..i have had 2 mmc at 8 weeks the first february 2011 and the second december 2011...i am currently trying to lose weight and waiting for some blood results before ttc again...i know this is the ttc forum but i feel i have more in common with you lot than those in the WTT forum...fingers x i will be ttc may depending on blood results...im so scared of trying again yet i cant give up on my dream...lots of love to all you lovely ladies on here your courage inspires me xxx

 

[BeachChica]

Welcome sosad - if you are planning to try then this is a good spot for you! I am waiting for some labs too before I can try next month.

NSN - yes those ladies stores in the PAL thread are absolutely inspiring! Many have having 4 or more losses and now with successful pregnancies is giving me a lot of hope at the moment. I am ready to get this going again!!! If I didnt have this big trip planned in May, I would be tempted to start this month!!!

Sooperhans - I would say if you are going to take the Progesterone I would recommend temping.

Lexi - my doctor said to start 3 DPO, interesting how they all have different opinions!!!

 

[patiently]

Im sorry for not reading everyones post but just came to give a quick update i tested on sunday night and got a BFP! totally totally shocked its unreal. Yesterday done another test and it was slightly darker have had cramping which is very worrying but no other symptom so thats making me feel anxious too. This morning 13dpo have done another test and its the same darkness as yesterday not lighter or darker so really feeling sad. Its so hard. We wait so long for our bfp yet when we get them we cant relax. I dont know what to do with myself. Every two minutes im going to the bathroom to check my undies. This morning i woke up and didnt feel pregnant i know it seems strange but my other two pregnancies i really had symptoms and this time i hardly have any. I hope and Pray that this one sticks. I have an appointment on thursday with the nurse but i really wanted to get my betas checked but my dr wouldnt agree. im going out of my mind here! Please God let this be my sticky baby.

 

[lexi374]

I bloody knew it! Had a good feeling for ya this month!!

Dont worry about cramping thats totally normal early on. Try not to drive yourself mad stressing out, i know thats easier said than done! Gota rush now will check back on you tonight.

Im really pleased for you xxx

 

[Neversaynever]

Patiently... I am so pleased for you...hae posted in your journal already as had a feeling this was going to be your month and thought I wold check in there first take each day as it comes..that is all you can do for now...sticky for baby

Beach...you just have to have the strength and faith to keep going...it WILL happen

Sosad...sorry you also find yourself here but the ladies are all lovely and will be supportive. It doesn't matter if you are trying, getting info, looking to offload...this is the place

Lexi...how are you doing hun?

all round

 

[BeachChica]

OMgosh Patiently!!!! I am seriously jumping up and down at my desk for you. I am sooooo happy for you!!! It does pay to be patient, doesn't it!!!??? See you just needed to relaz a little and it happened. Ah I'm ecstatic for you.

 

[Sooperhans]

My post has been blocked and needs to be seen by a moderator? So hopefully it will appear today, if not I'll re-post later. Just wanted to quickly say well done and a big yay to Patiently for a fab result!!! Xxx